I'm going to a wedding to a distant relative who I haven't seen in awhile. FH and I have to travel to this wedding and are excited to go. The problem is, I'm having an issue with what to give the couple. I'm in a financial bind and can't really afford to give them $200 cash. Unfortunately I'm having car issues and I have been paying off things for my own wedding.I prefer to give something from the registry but I'm told from relatives that it's an unspoken rule that we have to give cash for the wedding.
What do you think? Is it inappropriate to give a gift off of the registry? Should I give a lesser amount in cash ($150-ish?) The wedding is in the NY/NJ area.I'm farther south where $100 is considered a pretty nice amount, so FH is scratching his head at the amount difference and not being much help.