My husband and I were married two weeks ago.
Long story short, I did not have a bridal shower (at my own request), and at my rehearsal dinner I gave my bridesmaids a diamond infinity necklace purchased from a jeweler and a poem printed on nice paper thanking them for being a part of our wedding, on top of several other small gifts I have given them along the way (one at my engagement party, one after attending a bridal show, and one the day we went dress shopping.) I feel as though I have thanked them graciously for fulfilling their duties as BM's. Three of them went on to purchase us wedding gifts, to which I will be sending another hand-written thank you card, but for the two that did not, should I be sending them another thank you as well?
Believe me when I say that I am not so petty as to ruin friendships over two people who were in my wedding not giving a gift/card/note ( I know times are tough for some people), and I know for the one or two people who were in attendance that did not bring gifts that I should still thank them for the gift of their presence, but I feel as though I have already thanked those BM's for everything they did do to be part of my wedding.
What actually is the etiquette here?