hump day chat

lmcooper86

@CLoGreenEyes - AWESOME! Congrats!!

Swazzle

@CLoGreenEyes - CONGRATS!!!

GoldenPenguin

@CLoGreenEyes - CONGRATULATIONS you smart whippersnapper!!

phira

Post and run, but:

I think we're dressing up as Carmen Sandiego and Waldo this year. It was the plan last year, but I'd gotten sick.

I'm going to talk to my wishy washy bridesmaid tonight or tomorrow before she leaves for Denmark. How should I phrase things when I talk to her? At this point, I kind of feel like if she can't commit to coming to the wedding, then she should back out of the wedding party for real, but I'm not going to kick her out. And hair and make-up seems so stupid, but I don't want her to be left out if she DOES come to the wedding and is a bridesmaid, and she has to sit around and do nothing during hair and make-up.

She mentioned a financial burden, and I can't tell how much of it is a real financial burden, or how much of it is code for, "I want to back out." Because in terms of a financial burden:

- There's a dress I know she owns that she could wear. Alternatively, I bought my maid of honor her dress for Christmas, so I have no problem also buying this bridesmaid a dress

- My maid of honor would likely be happy to share a hotel room, and that would mean they could drive around together (saving the bridesmaid the cost of a rental car)

Which means that the financial burden translates to: Flying to Boston, which is something she indicated she'd be doing anyway.

I don't want to make her uncomfortable by being like NO HERE MONEY ISN'T A PROBLEM, especially since if SHE says it's a problem, it's a problem. But I don't know.

eilis1228

@AuroraRose41 Oh no! I'm sorry you're having a bad period day too I hope your body chills out soon! My cramps are gone, but they were replaced by a headache. I don't know which of the two I prefer lol.

CLoGreenEyes

@Phira, without knowing more about the situation (sorry if you've posted about it before, I've had a hard time keeping up), I feel like you can just let her know the following:

-you want her to be in the BP

-dress stuff/hotel stuff can be arranged so it's not a huge financial burden

-BUT you understand if she would rather not be part of the BP

and then just give her some time make a decision.

As far as hair/make-up, what do you mean? Like she can't/doesn't want to pay to get it done with you all the day of? If so, I wouldn't worry too much about that. I have been that bridesmaid before, and I just did my own before getting to the ceremony. It was still fun to have girl time with everyone even though I was already dolled up - and bonus, they got an errand girl or an extra set of hands when needed.

AuroraRose41

@eilis1228 that is terrible! I hate when you can't decide which symptom is better or worse. That's the reason I switched birth control pills, to hopefully control bleeding a little better. This new one seems to be working, but I have cramps that are worse. I also work with mostly men, so they don't really understand why I don't feel well. Grrrr. I hope your headache goes away soon! I also hope that my period is done by Saturday, as I want to enjoy the lake and hot tub!

speakeasy14

@CLoGreenEyes  congratulations!!!! 

So after my doctor's appointment yesterday, this is the news I am sharing with everyone:

  but instead of 6 more weeks of winter, I'm stuck with 4 more weeks in a cast