I didn't want to hijack Kaos's thread, so Parents and their kids

theycallmelinz

Let me start off by saying I cannot wait to be a mother. FI and I are getting married in April, and I've been joking (or am I?) saying that we'll be pregnant by next Christmas (FI is not yet on board lol). At the same time, my dog is like my child now and my phone is FULL of pics of him, probably more of him that FI. But I seriously get stabby over these people that need to post something on FB, a status, picture, whatever of their f*cking kid every day. 

I don't care that Jimmy is still teething. I don't care that it's feeding time. I don't care that you obviously chucked out your brain the same time you delivered little Sarah because that's all you ever fucking talk about anymore. It drives me NUTS.

I'm sure your kid is ahhhhdorable! I don't need to see 20 pictures of him/her. I have one friend on Facebook who's husband is in the military and is off on some training, and she's literally posted a COLLAGE every day of how her child is doing while H is gone. A COLLAGE. Who has the time for that!?! She's currently on day 17, and officially hidden from my newsfeed. 

I know I'm gonna be taking pictures non-stop of my future children because they're going to be beautiful and awesome, but the whole damn world doesn't need a play-by-play of their lives. Whhhhhhhhhhhy?!

beethery

I hide or unfriend people who do that shit. I have no need for that at all, and I don't understand it.

kaos16

You could have hiajcked, I don't mind!

 

I have a different facebook friend who posts conversations she has with her 3 year old like they are the most hysterical thing in the world:

    mom: Do you want a snack?

    kid: I don't know what i want, let me think.

 

There is never a punchline!!!!!!

 

doeydo

I don't want to be a bitch or anything, but I sure hope you are using/will use at least two contraceptives to prevent pregnancy for a long time (or until your relationship and he himself are both in a way better place and he learned how to properly deal with his feelings including anger).

theycallmelinz

doeydo said:

I don't want to be a bitch or anything, but I sure hope you are using/will use at least two contraceptives to prevent pregnancy for a long time (or until your relationship and he himself are both in a way better place and he learned how to properly deal with his feelings including anger).

I appreciate the concern, and I definitely wouldn't bring a child into a relationship I didn't feel was ready for one, or that both partners weren't adequately prepared for

kaos16

doeydo said:

I don't want to be a bitch or anything, but I sure hope you are using/will use at least two contraceptives to prevent pregnancy for a long time (or until your relationship and he himself are both in a way better place and he learned how to properly deal with his feelings including anger).

 

SIB: Is this really meant for the discussion?  If so, I feel like things escalated quickly. . . we were just casually chatting about obnoxious parents!

ashley8918

@doeydo‌ I don't see how that was relevant AT ALL.

Maggie0829

So getting back to the subject at hand...

I can't stand parents who make a picture of their kid their profile picture on FB.  It really irks me.

doeydo

Riight, well all I saw was her "joking" that they'd get pregnant by whenever time and I felt the need to say something.  Glad she would not bring a child into her relationship given its present state or when one or neither parents were ready.

bethsmiles

I have a couple of friends that are like that! I've had to hide them from my news feed because I just don't care. Weirdly enough though the worst is a friend of SO who doesn't have kids of her own but won't shut up about her nieces. I just don't give a fuck. She will tell the same story 10 times and it isn't even funny/cute.

This is how I feel every time she brings up her nieces:

kat1114

Maggie0829 said:

So getting back to the subject at hand...

I can't stand parents who make a picture of their kid their profile picture on FB.  It really irks me.

SITB:

So much yest to this! You are your own unique person. Having a child shouldn't mean you lose your identity.

southernbelle0915

scribe95 said:

I like seeing some of the kid photos. My one exception is the messy eating photos. Hate those with a passion. I think parenting is like loving your animals times 100. So you will likely be posting photos of your kids too!

This. I get really gaggy when I see messy eating. Or pics with a sagging diaper and the title is "time for a changing? I think so." Fuck. That. Just no. It makes me gaggy.

jdluvr06

Maggie0829 said:

So getting back to the subject at hand...

I can't stand parents who make a picture of their kid their profile picture on FB.  It really irks me.

My sister has a picture of my nephews ands niece as her profile picture. Before she had kids the pic was of her cat and dog. She said it is because they are way cuter than she is lol. I can't say anything since my profile pic is of Machu Picchu.

I used to be annoyed at the constant posting of kid stuff (unless it was about my nephews and niece. I can't get enough of them) but now I love getting all the pics of babies and little kids. I think it is because I have baby fever though. 

theycallmelinz

I posted this on another thread a while back, but it annoys me when people post their sonogram pictures on Facebook. Mayyybe when you're first announcing you're pregnant I'd be okay with a picture of it saying you're expecting. Maybe. But after that, I really don't need to see a picture of your alien monkey baby. Because that's what it looks like. 

jimandpam87

Maggie0829 said:

So getting back to the subject at hand...

I can't stand parents who make a picture of their kid their profile picture on FB.  It really irks me.

This bothers me *almost* as much as those people that, after getting married, create a joint facebook account a la "JaneAndJohn Doe".  Just why?  As much as I love FI, I'm still ME after we get married. 

southernbelle0915

Maggie0829 said:

So getting back to the subject at hand...

I can't stand parents who make a picture of their kid their profile picture on FB.  It really irks me.

YESSSS. I get friend requests from people and it's like "I don't know who the fuck this is". They have changed their last name and misspelled everything (so employers can't find you?) and their profile picture is of a child. 

Reject!

anjemon

I have some college friends who recently had a baby. They asked for email address so they can send baby updates because they "want to keep baby Johnson's FB footprint low". I loved that idea. That way you're only sharing with the people who care and it's not on FB forever.

pinkcow13

I have a friend on FB who posts pictures of her newborn an average of 6 times a day every.single.day. She posts one in the morning "this is what I get to wake up to!", in the afternoon with her kid drooling "I can't with this face!" mid afternoon *tags husband* "lunch time!". You get the picture. She recently started working after her maternity leave, so now it's the "Why can't I be home with my daughter?!?!!?" Status updates.

southernbelle0915

pinkcow13 said:

I have a friend on FB who posts pictures of her newborn an average of 6 times a day every.single.day. She posts one in the morning "this is what I get to wake up to!", in the afternoon with her kid drooling "I can't with this face!" mid afternoon *tags husband* "lunch time!". You get the picture. She recently started working after her maternity leave, so now it's the "Why can't I be home with my daughter?!?!!?" Status updates.

Annnnnndddd..... Unfollow.

cupcait927

kat1114 said:

Maggie0829 said:

So getting back to the subject at hand...

I can't stand parents who make a picture of their kid their profile picture on FB.  It really irks me.

SITB:

So much yest to this! You are your own unique person. Having a child shouldn't mean you lose your identity.

So much of the bolded. One of my friends is pregnant and I swear she has completely forgotten that she's her own person. Every single topic of conversation either is about her being pregnant and the soon-to-be-born child or she makes the conversation go in that direction if it isn't already. I'm so happy for her but  I'd love to have one conversation about HER and the other things going on in her life that don't revolve around the pregnancy or her shitty boyfriend.

Inkdancer

My BIL and SIL, and also a good friend of mine, have made private groups for pics of their kids. You can choose to subscribe to and follow these groups if you want.

I cannot thank them enough for doing it this way. I can see pics when I'm in the mood, but my feed never gets flooded.

ashley8918

doeydo said:

Riight, well all I saw was her "joking" that they'd get pregnant by whenever time and I felt the need to say something.  Glad she would not bring a child into her relationship given its present state or when one or neither parents were ready.

I mean, weren't you just bitching about people doing this to you? I feel like you were.

ANYWAY, I HATEHATEHATE constant kid-bookers. I mean, I have kids. They are adorable. But I don't understand the need to plaster their shit all over Facebook.

Peaseblossom55

I have a friend on FB who has been posting about her newborn every day since the kid has been born.  I mean several pictures, several times a day.  I had to block her updates. I sincerely hope when we have kids I don't become one of those people who does that.  I really don't want to become one of those people who life revolve around a baby.

thisismynickname2

- no pee sticks

- no sonograms

- no posting a picture of your kid more than once every few days, and that's if it's totally different scenarios. Newborns don't do anything. More than one a week is too much.

I just unfriended a college acquaintance who moved from weekly bump photos next to a chalkboard including development of the fetus, to weekly newborn photos next to a chalkboard outlining its development. No, no no no, just no.   

beethery

southernbelle0915 said:

pinkcow13 said:

I have a friend on FB who posts pictures of her newborn an average of 6 times a day every.single.day. She posts one in the morning "this is what I get to wake up to!", in the afternoon with her kid drooling "I can't with this face!" mid afternoon *tags husband* "lunch time!". You get the picture. She recently started working after her maternity leave, so now it's the "Why can't I be home with my daughter?!?!!?" Status updates.

Annnnnndddd..... Unfollow.

birdybride2014

I do NOT want to see pee sticks. Since when is it okay to show someone something you peed on?! Ugh

theartistformerlyknownas

I generally hate when anybody posts too much of the same thing on FB. I don't hate the kid posts specifically, but if ALL YOU POST about is vague complaining or your latest workout or just how awesomelyinloveyouarewithyourhunnybunches and none of them are remotely funny or interesting, I stab violently at the "hide" button wishing it was your eyeball. Mildly cute or funny kid posts interspersed with other interesting life events, go right ahead. I mean, it's Facebook, that's what it's there for.

emmaaa

There's a girl I'm friends with who posts multiple pictures a day of her driving her son somewhere. Like"Going to daycare!", "Taking baby H home so mommy can work," "Isn't he the cutest!?" It's the same picture, same pose, multiple times a day. and here I am, uhm, shouldn't be you know driving?

levioosa

I was just having this conversation with my coworker this morning.  I like kids.  I really want some one day.  But I also dislike when parents assume that because they love their kid, that the kid should be brought everywhere and that their kid is the only thing in the world (aka losing their identity).  I get that kids are a huge (and one of the most meaningful) life changes, but that shouldn't mean losing yourself.

I've had friendships suffer because while I ask how the family/kid is doing, all of a sudden it's like my life doesn't matter at all.  Not even a "how are you?"  That's when I really get annoyed. It's just hard to be in different places in life sometimes.    

southernbelle0915

I feel kind of bad for these kids who are getting paraded all over the interwebz. They have no say in it, anyone can make copies of the pictures and just... yea. If their parents have bad judgement (which, let's be honest, wayyy too many do), there's all kinds of embarrassing shit up there. 

Poor things.

kat1114

southernbelle0915 said:

I feel kind of bad for these kids who are getting paraded all over the interwebz. They have no say in it, anyone can make copies of the pictures and just... yea. If their parents have bad judgement (which, let's be honest, wayyy too many do), there's all kinds of embarrassing shit up there. 

Poor things.

SITB

I have a friend that has been hashtagging all of her daughter's picture with her daughter's name. What happens when her daughter turns 13 and gets her own social media accounts, only to find that her entire life has been hashtagged. I feel like it might be kind of creepy.