Dreaded B listing...

trulymarvelous

Question for you ladies.

Is it considered B listing if you allow someone to bring a +1 after receiving No's on your RSVP's?

For example, I invited Jane Doe.  Jane is single and her invitation was addressed correctly saying

Jane Doe

123 Main St

Happyland, CA

Then later after a few guests decline, would it be inappropriate for me to reach out to her and let her know she is now able to bring a guest?

I wouldn't want to come off like "Hey I like you and I want you to be a part of our wedding!  But I can't afford to let you bring a date.  OH JUST KIDDING, my other friends can't come so you can bring someone now, kthxbai."

bethsmiles

No, allowing a guest to bring a plus one after some guests have declined isn't considered B-Listing. I would just call and say "Hey, I know it wasn't on the invite but I wanted to let you know you are welcome to bring a guest if you would like" no need to give a whole explanation. 

short+sassy

Although I don't want to put words in other PPs mouths, lol, when this question has occassionally come up...the general consensus is that this okay because it is a courtesy to your already invited guest. Not really a B-list.

twitterbird

Great to know! I didn't include plus ones for single guests but have the space to allow them to bring guests if they wanted to.

photokitty

It's not B listing bc the person didn't exist (in terms on the guest list) when invites when out since the person was truly single.

trulymarvelous

Awesome, Thanks guys!

sarawifenow

Carry on with your bad self!

 

ETA: 1 year, 1 month, 1 week, 1 day? Get yourself a margarita! That's an awesome number!

trulymarvelous

SaraBrideSoon said:

Carry on with your bad self!

 

ETA: 1 year, 1 month, 1 week, 1 day? Get yourself a margarita! That's an awesome number!

I didn't even notice!  Hahah, I will definitely have a celebratory margarita tonight! 

thelastdreamer

I totally did this. 

ETA the way I approached it was just sending them a message that said "Hey! I just wanted to let you know that if you are going to be able to make it to our wedding, you are more than welcome to bring a guest. Hope you're doing well!" 

Everyone seemed quite happy. 

wrigleyville

When I was single, friends used to call me and say something like, "We ended up with some room, so feel free to bring someone if you want." I appreciated it. It's all in how you approach it.

Jen4948

I think if the person you're inviting wasn't in a relationship when the invitations go out, it's not B listing to allow them to bring someone later-especially if they enter into a relationship.