Too cold for outdoor ceremony???

Bunny0530

I'm planning on getting married on October 31st and want the ceremony to be outdoors in Northern NJ probably around 4 or 4:30pm. Is it too cold to have a 15-20 minute ceremony outside at that time of year? I'm really set on having it outside because the view at the venue is gorgeous. I would supply little blankets or hand warmers for people as well. The only other date they have available is September 5th and then I would not be able to have the fall theme that I am so in love with.

Maggie0829

It really depends.  At the end of October in the mid-east you could have 70+ degree weather or it could be snowing.  My suggestion is to book the venue but make sure that there is a plan b in place if it is really cold the day of, such as heat lamps if it is only slightly cold or a place inside that the ceremony can be held if it is really cold and/or snowing outside.

Also remember that your guests won't be outside for only 15-20 minutes but more like 40-45 minutes since they will most likely arrive 15-20 minutes before the ceremony is set to start.

KatWAG

You need to have a back up plan. It could be raining/ snowing/ or something in between. I think anything below 55 degrees needs in be inside, even if the ceremony is only 15 minutes.

esstee33

Bunny0530 said:

I'm planning on getting married on October 31st and want the ceremony to be outdoors in Northern NJ probably around 4 or 4:30pm. Is it too cold to have a 15-20 minute ceremony outside at that time of year? I'm really set on having it outside because the view at the venue is gorgeous. I would supply little blankets or hand warmers for people as well. The only other date they have available is September 5th and then I would not be able to have the fall theme that I am so in love with.

Definitely come up with a plan B if it's too cold outside. My first wedding was at the end of October in Ohio and I, too, really wanted the foliage and nice fall theme. Unfortunately, most of the leaves had fallen off by that time, so it wasn't really all that pretty out anyway, and it was about 40 degrees with freezing rain for half the day. Thankfully, we had an indoor option so nobody froze to death. Had I been unprepared, though, it would have been a disaster. Little blankets and hand warmers are not going to be enough depending on exactly how cold it gets. 

heatherneil1013

I'm having my wedding on the 31st too, at a golf course.  We have reserved a tent "in case", set up on the side of the course.  If it's raining or chilly, we'll have it in the tent.  If it's a gorgeous day, we'll have it on the gold course itself.  And if it's a hurricane or snowing, we will have it inside (the reception is at the golf course's restaurant, so that makes it easier move indoors if needed).

Liatris2010

OMG, you are me. We had our ceremony outside. It was 40 degrees, but guests kept their jackets. I had a strapless dress, so I figured I was the coldest one, and I was cold, but not uncomfortably so. In hindsight, I would say go inside. Our ceremony pictures look amazing, but we exactly zero of them hanging in our home. The ones on the wall are our first look pics, which we did outside, only inconveniencing us and the photographer, and the WP/family pics, which we did inside because we didn't want to make people be outside longer than 15 minutes.

emmyg65

I live in your region and yes, it'll probably be too cold. But it could also be freakishly warm (or even snow, like it did three years ago). So have a good Plan B and be ready to use it.

peachy13

Could you rent outdoor heaters? I would also plan to bring blankets as you said, and maybe even serve hot drinks

southernbelle0915

Probably too cold, so I think you should plan on inside. But maybe you'll get lucky and could move it outside.

MobKaz

Bunny0530 said:

I'm planning on getting married on October 31st and want the ceremony to be outdoors in Northern NJ probably around 4 or 4:30pm. Is it too cold to have a 15-20 minute ceremony outside at that time of year? I'm really set on having it outside because the view at the venue is gorgeous. I would supply little blankets or hand warmers for people as well. The only other date they have available is September 5th and then I would not be able to have the fall theme that I am so in love with.

It's one thing to wear a light jacket.  But if the weather is such that it requires blankets, hand warmers, or renting heaters (as another PP has suggested), then it is too cold for an outdoor ceremony. 

southernbelle0915

Bunny0530 said:

I'm planning on getting married on October 31st and want the ceremony to be outdoors in Northern NJ probably around 4 or 4:30pm. Is it too cold to have a 15-20 minute ceremony outside at that time of year? I'm really set on having it outside because the view at the venue is gorgeous. I would supply little blankets or hand warmers for people as well. The only other date they have available is September 5th and then I would not be able to have the fall theme that I am so in love with.

Wait, I missed this. Why can't you have a fall theme in September? Pretty much every wedding I've ever been to in September has a fall theme.

Liatris2010

southernbelle0915 said:

Bunny0530 said:

I'm planning on getting married on October 31st and want the ceremony to be outdoors in Northern NJ probably around 4 or 4:30pm. Is it too cold to have a 15-20 minute ceremony outside at that time of year? I'm really set on having it outside because the view at the venue is gorgeous. I would supply little blankets or hand warmers for people as well. The only other date they have available is September 5th and then I would not be able to have the fall theme that I am so in love with.

Wait, I missed this. Why can't you have a fall theme in September? Pretty much every wedding I've ever been to in September has a fall theme.

She could have the theme, but I think she is worried about not getting the foliage. Peak color is mid-end of October there, in September everything is still green.

emmyg65

Plusalso, on Sept. 5, it's likely to still be 80 degrees and very much summer.

ElcaB

It will probably be too cold, but that doesn't mean you can't plan to have it outdoors and have an emergency indoor plan B. 

That is what I'm doing. 

AprilH81

For October 31st I would plan an INDOOR ceremony with an outdoor location as a plan b if you get perfect weather.

I think anything less than 65 is too cold to ask guests to sit outside in nice clothes even if it will be a short ceremony.

klk111415

I'm having an outdoor ceremony (fingers crossed it's not raining) in northern Westchester, NY 11/14/15 but at 11:30am.  I don't think it will be that cold for you (as it is now, it's pretty warm still and we are only a couple of weeks away) That will be a perfect time for a ceremony as long as it's not raining, and if it's sunny- the sun will be low and peaking through the trees. Let your guests know that you will be having an outdoor ceremony ahead of time if possible.  Most will hopefully be wearing a jacket if it is cold (the men will for sure) so you can let your guests know they can check their coat after the ceremony.  If it's colder than expected, try to rent propane heaters.  Honestly, I love that time of year and being outside in the crisp fall air is so nice.  September 5th is still summer and the sun will be much higher and it will definitely be much warmer out. I say go for the October date and have a fall themed wedding! Do the outdoor ceremony- it's a beautiful time of day to have one! Everyone will be fine!

MobKaz

kk111415 said:

I'm having an outdoor ceremony (fingers crossed it's not raining) in northern Westchester, NY 11/14/15 but at 11:30am.  I don't think it will be that cold for you (as it is now, it's pretty warm still and we are only a couple of weeks away) That will be a perfect time for a ceremony as long as it's not raining, and if it's sunny- the sun will be low and peaking through the trees. Let your guests know that you will be having an outdoor ceremony ahead of time if possible.  Most will hopefully be wearing a jacket if it is cold (the men will for sure) so you can let your guests know they can check their coat after the ceremony.  If it's colder than expected, try to rent propane heaters.  Honestly, I love that time of year and being outside in the crisp fall air is so nice.  September 5th is still summer and the sun will be much higher and it will definitely be much warmer out. I say go for the October date and have a fall themed wedding! Do the outdoor ceremony- it's a beautiful time of day to have one! Everyone will be fine!

Do you have a back-up plan?  I would guess that the average temperature in your area for mid November is about 50 degrees.  And that temperature would be reached in early afternoon, once the sun has been out most of the morning.  Being outside in the crisp cold air is awesome when you are wearing a sweatshirt, pants, and decent shoes.  If your women guests are dressed in cocktail attire, and bare legged, your outdoor ceremony will be uncomfortable for most of your guests.

klk111415

The back up plan at my venue sucks.  We would have to have the ceremony in the reception room and then would be going outside under a heated open tent (they have propane heaters overhead) for cocktail hour. I'm fine with this if it's raining, but if it's nice out the flow from ceremony to reception would be flawless. But my catering manager told me that last year around the same date he had warm days up into the 70's.  So it will be hit or miss.  But we are telling everyone to bring their coats.  I'm less worried about bare legs and more about women wearing strapless dresses and nothing to cover themselves.  I'll definitely be looking into the portable propane heaters once we get closer to the date. I have a strapless dress and I'll probably be the coldest one there.  I'm giving my girls pashminas to cover their shoulders so they should be fine. 

climbingsingle

I live in the NY metro area. IMO, there shouldn't be outdoor ceremonies in late October and early November. It's too cold! Move that shit indoors. Even if it's a quick ceremony, you've got people sitting outdoors waiting for it to start. I would not be comfortable. 

And you can definitely do a fall theme in September. 

klk111415

I'm not sure what you mean by "NY Metro" area but I live in the Bronx and work in Manhattan. Have you felt it outside today? I had my AC on last night.  You can't say that it's too cold.  It's been in the 70's and wearing a light jacket is even unbearable.  Yes it's mid October but the weather is all over the place.  You can't predict anything.  

September 5th is still summer.  Children won't even be back in school yet.  Labor day is the 7th. My friend got married on August 31st and wanted a fall theme but it was 90 degrees and so humid that a bridesmaid passed during the ceremony from the heat. She decided against the fall theme. Fall doesn't even begin until September 21st.  Although I would love to say that you can start white girl freaking out about fall on September 1st- you can't.  The leaves are still green, fall favorites aren't even out.  I couldn't even get a darn pumpkin beer a few days before the official start of fall- and I live for pumpkin everything.

http://www.buzzfeed.com/laraparker/things-all-basic-white-girls-do-during-the-fall#4ih516l

If you choose the 5th you will get the added benefit of having an extra day off from work (on the 7th) but on the other hand you may have friends and family traveling for the holiday.  The sun will still be high in the sky and it will be warm.  The sun sets at 7:23pm that day.  

If you choose the October date, you would get the added benefit of it actually feeling like fall. Travel for your guests is much cheaper (it won't be a holiday weekend). You can run with your fall theme with apples, pumpkins, mums, gords, fall colors and leaves.   The sun will be setting at the most beautiful time of day and it's the best time to take pictures.  See how you feel in a couple of weeks and check the temperature.  You may be surprised that it's not as cold as people say it's going to be.  And I don't get why people think your guests are going to be suffering. You aren't making them sit outside in subzero weather.  Maybe a slight chill to the air but nothing unbearable.  YOU might be cold, but hell- you are marrying the love of your life- I think you will be so excited you won't even notice.  Leave a note in your invitation that tells your guests you will be having an outdoor ceremony.  They will come prepared and if they don't you can have a back up plan by offering pashminas. Or look into renting propane heaters.  There are so many solutions that will allow you to have what you want and make your guests comfortable.  Be creative.   

climbingsingle

kk111415 said:

I'm not sure what you mean by "NY Metro" area but I live in the Bronx and work in Manhattan. Have you felt it outside today? I had my AC on last night.  You can't say that it's too cold.  It's been in the 70's and wearing a light jacket is even unbearable.  Yes it's mid October but the weather is all over the place.  You can't predict anything.  

September 5th is still summer.  Children won't even be back in school yet.  Labor day is the 7th. My friend got married on August 31st and wanted a fall theme but it was 90 degrees and so humid that a bridesmaid passed during the ceremony from the heat. She decided against the fall theme. Fall doesn't even begin until September 21st.  Although I would love to say that you can start white girl freaking out about fall on September 1st- you can't.  The leaves are still green, fall favorites aren't even out.  I couldn't even get a darn pumpkin beer a few days before the official start of fall- and I live for pumpkin everything.

http://www.buzzfeed.com/laraparker/things-all-basic-white-girls-do-during-the-fall#4ih516l

If you choose the 5th you will get the added benefit of having an extra day off from work (on the 7th) but on the other hand you may have friends and family traveling for the holiday.  The sun will still be high in the sky and it will be warm.  The sun sets at 7:23pm that day.  

If you choose the October date, you would get the added benefit of it actually feeling like fall. Travel for your guests is much cheaper (it won't be a holiday weekend). You can run with your fall theme with apples, pumpkins, mums, gords, fall colors and leaves.   The sun will be setting at the most beautiful time of day and it's the best time to take pictures.  See how you feel in a couple of weeks and check the temperature.  You may be surprised that it's not as cold as people say it's going to be.  And I don't get why people think your guests are going to be suffering. You aren't making them sit outside in subzero weather.  Maybe a slight chill to the air but nothing unbearable.  YOU might be cold, but hell- you are marrying the love of your life- I think you will be so excited you won't even notice.  Leave a note in your invitation that tells your guests you will be having an outdoor ceremony.  They will come prepared and if they don't you can have a back up plan by offering pashminas. Or look into renting propane heaters.  There are so many solutions that will allow you to have what you want and make your guests comfortable.  Be creative.   

I live in Rockland County, probably 20-30 minutes from your venue. Today's weather is unseasonable. I've lived in this area my entire life. November 14th is TOO cold for an outdoor ceremony. It could be snowing then. 

Your guests comfort should be your priority. 

MobKaz

kk111415 said:

The back up plan at my venue sucks.  We would have to have the ceremony in the reception room and then would be going outside under a heated open tent (they have propane heaters overhead) for cocktail hour. I'm fine with this if it's raining, but if it's nice out the flow from ceremony to reception would be flawless. But my catering manager told me that last year around the same date he had warm days up into the 70's.  So it will be hit or miss.  But we are telling everyone to bring their coats.  I'm less worried about bare legs and more about women wearing strapless dresses and nothing to cover themselves.  I'll definitely be looking into the portable propane heaters once we get closer to the date. I have a strapless dress and I'll probably be the coldest one there.  I'm giving my girls pashminas to cover their shoulders so they should be fine. 

The back up plan at your venue may "suck", but your lack of regard for your guest's comfort is worse. Why would you even consider a venue that does not offer a good alternate plan?

klk111415

If it's in the 50s and too cold it will be moved inside.  If it's snowing, it would also be moved inside. But the ceremony is at 11:30 so there will be direct sunlight (if it's sunny) which will also keep guests warm.  But the propane heaters are an amazing option.  I've seen them used in Manhattan at restaurants so people have the option to sit outside in late fall and early spring and they radiate heat from above and keep you very warm.  My ceremony area is a little strange but the brides side is very short (which is perfect for me since my family is so small) and the grooms side is long.  So I would not need that many.  Maybe 3?  My cocktail hour is held outside under a tent like structure and it has overhead heaters also and people will feel perfectly comfortable without a jacket on. The tent can be closed off if it's windy but no matter what it's held outside.  Also, the ceremony area is turned into a patio for guests to sit and eat if they please so the heaters would have a double use. 

So I looked up the patio heaters and they provide between 10 and 18 feet diameter of heating for your guests.  That's a lot of space for just one heater.  Lots of places rent them out so this is a viable option.

Pretty much all of our guests are from the north (even farther north than myself) and are used to the cold.  Not saying I don't care what they think but with all of the options I have, my guests will be comfortable.  And as I said, November last year was actually much warmer than usual so who knows what I will be working with.  

climbingsingle

kk111415 said:

If it's in the 50s and too cold it will be moved inside.  If it's snowing, it would also be moved inside. But the ceremony is at 11:30 so there will be direct sunlight (if it's sunny) which will also keep guests warm.  But the propane heaters are an amazing option.  I've seen them used in Manhattan at restaurants so people have the option to sit outside in late fall and early spring and they radiate heat from above and keep you very warm.  My ceremony area is a little strange but the brides side is very short (which is perfect for me since my family is so small) and the grooms side is long.  So I would not need that many.  Maybe 3?  My cocktail hour is held outside under a tent like structure and it has overhead heaters also and people will feel perfectly comfortable without a jacket on. The tent can be closed off if it's windy but no matter what it's held outside.  Also, the ceremony area is turned into a patio for guests to sit and eat if they please so the heaters would have a double use. 

So I looked up the patio heaters and they provide between 10 and 18 feet diameter of heating for your guests.  That's a lot of space for just one heater.  Lots of places rent them out so this is a viable option.

Pretty much all of our guests are from the north (even farther north than myself) and are used to the cold.  Not saying I don't care what they think but with all of the options I have, my guests will be comfortable.  And as I said, November last year was actually much warmer than usual so who knows what I will be working with.  

It doesn't matter if people are "used to the cold". I grew up here. I've been living in this weather for my entire 34 years. November is too cold to be having an outdoor ceremony and outdoor cocktail hour. You're putting your "vision" before your guests' comfort and that is rude. Your being a very poor host. I don't care about stupid heating lamps. Unless you're standing directly under it, you're going to be cold. 

klk111415

Look @climbingbrideny, there is no need to be nasty.  You don't even know me.  And that is the option my venue has to offer.  The cocktail hour is well heated and they wouldn't offer that option is it was going to make people uncomfortable.  Call me whatever you want but you're the one looking to personally attack people on here for the decisions they make and it comes off plain rude.  Get off your high horse.  Plan your wedding and do what you want but don't tell others that they are rude when you don't even know them.  You can't plan everyone's wedding on here, but you can give advice to help them plan their dream wedding and work with the options that they are given.  Sometimes you have to be creative to make things work and it takes thinking outside of the box to do so.  Don't just sit there and say "there's no way you can have what you want" come up with good solutions. You may have your own opinions for one reason or another but don't call someone out as being rude or being a bad host.  Be helpful and most of all be respectful.    

You obviously have never even seen these heating lamps.  Do some research before you try to be a know it all on all subjects.  

My guests will be warm and comfortable, regardless of how much you put my wedding plans down. 

And yes, it's my vision, and it's my wedding.  Not yours.  

climbingsingle

kk111415 said:

Look @climbingbrideny, there is no need to be nasty.  You don't even know me.  And that is the option my venue has to offer.  The cocktail hour is well heated and they wouldn't offer that option is it was going to make people uncomfortable.  Call me whatever you want but you're the one looking to personally attack people on here for the decisions they make and it comes off plain rude.  Get off your high horse.  Plan your wedding and do what you want but don't tell others that they are rude when you don't even know them.  You can't plan everyone's wedding on here, but you can give advice to help them plan their dream wedding and work with the options that they are given.  Sometimes you have to be creative to make things work and it takes thinking outside of the box to do so.  Don't just sit there and say "there's no way you can have what you want" come up with good solutions. You may have your own opinions for one reason or another but don't call someone out as being rude or being a bad host.  Be helpful and most of all be respectful.    

You obviously have never even seen these heating lamps.  Do some research before you try to be a know it all on all subjects.  

My guests will be warm and comfortable, regardless of how much you put my wedding plans down. 

And yes, it's my vision, and it's my wedding.  Not yours.  

I never personally attacked you. I said what you're planning is rude. 

Do you really think I've never seen a heating lamp? They have them at almost every single bar in NY that has an outdoor area. 

Your "creativity" should not come at the cost of your guests' comfort. And I did give you advice - it will most likely be too cold in the middle of November to make your guests sit outside while they're wearing cocktails dresses and the like. Have your event inside. 

klk111415

I'm pretty sure you have to play things by ear. You can say what you want about it being too cold but we won't know until it happens. I actually went to a wedding last year and it was held in late September. Outdoor ceremony around sunset, followed by a indoor/outdoor cocktail hour and for the reception, we were actually seated outside and immediate family was seated inside. I was a little chilly (I think it got down into high 50s low 60s) but we managed. And that was for the entire dinner portion. No sunlight, no heating, just a overhanging roof. Believe it or not, I was totally fine with a cardigan and a few drinks in me. And we were outside for well over an hour. Was I upset with the bride for placing us outside? No, I was honored to even be invited to share their special day. With guests in coats, heating lamps for the extra sensitive people, I think we will be just fine. Everyone will be well aware to dress for the weather and it's going to be a happy day. It's 10 minutes out of a 6 hour affair. Pretty short amount of time if you have a coat on.

Viczaesar

kk111415 said:

I'm having an outdoor ceremony (fingers crossed it's not raining) in northern Westchester, NY 11/14/15 but at 11:30am.  I don't think it will be that cold for you (as it is now, it's pretty warm still and we are only a couple of weeks away) That will be a perfect time for a ceremony as long as it's not raining, and if it's sunny- the sun will be low and peaking through the trees. Let your guests know that you will be having an outdoor ceremony ahead of time if possible.  Most will hopefully be wearing a jacket if it is cold (the men will for sure) so you can let your guests know they can check their coat after the ceremony.  If it's colder than expected, try to rent propane heaters.  Honestly, I love that time of year and being outside in the crisp fall air is so nice.  September 5th is still summer and the sun will be much higher and it will definitely be much warmer out. I say go for the October date and have a fall themed wedding! Do the outdoor ceremony- it's a beautiful time of day to have one! Everyone will be fine!

Actually it's a month away from Nov. 15. 

Viczaesar

kk111415 said:

I'm not sure what you mean by "NY Metro" area but I live in the Bronx and work in Manhattan. Have you felt it outside today? I had my AC on last night.  You can't say that it's too cold.  It's been in the 70's and wearing a light jacket is even unbearable.  Yes it's mid October but the weather is all over the place.  You can't predict anything.  

September 5th is still summer.  Children won't even be back in school yet.  Labor day is the 7th. My friend got married on August 31st and wanted a fall theme but it was 90 degrees and so humid that a bridesmaid passed during the ceremony from the heat. She decided against the fall theme. Fall doesn't even begin until September 21st.  Although I would love to say that you can start white girl freaking out about fall on September 1st- you can't.  The leaves are still green, fall favorites aren't even out.  I couldn't even get a darn pumpkin beer a few days before the official start of fall- and I live for pumpkin everything.

http://www.buzzfeed.com/laraparker/things-all-basic-white-girls-do-during-the-fall#4ih516l

If you choose the 5th you will get the added benefit of having an extra day off from work (on the 7th) but on the other hand you may have friends and family traveling for the holiday.  The sun will still be high in the sky and it will be warm.  The sun sets at 7:23pm that day.  

If you choose the October date, you would get the added benefit of it actually feeling like fall. Travel for your guests is much cheaper (it won't be a holiday weekend). You can run with your fall theme with apples, pumpkins, mums, gords, fall colors and leaves.   The sun will be setting at the most beautiful time of day and it's the best time to take pictures.  See how you feel in a couple of weeks and check the temperature.  You may be surprised that it's not as cold as people say it's going to be.  And I don't get why people think your guests are going to be suffering. You aren't making them sit outside in subzero weather.  Maybe a slight chill to the air but nothing unbearable.  YOU might be cold, but hell- you are marrying the love of your life- I think you will be so excited you won't even notice.  Leave a note in your invitation that tells your guests you will be having an outdoor ceremony.  They will come prepared and if they don't you can have a back up plan by offering pashminas. Or look into renting propane heaters.  There are so many solutions that will allow you to have what you want and make your guests comfortable.  Be creative.   

What the fuck?  "White girl freaking out"?   HATE.

Viczaesar

kk111415 said:

Look @climbingbrideny, there is no need to be nasty.  You don't even know me.  And that is the option my venue has to offer.  The cocktail hour is well heated and they wouldn't offer that option is it was going to make people uncomfortable.  Call me whatever you want but you're the one looking to personally attack people on here for the decisions they make and it comes off plain rude.  Get off your high horse.  Plan your wedding and do what you want but don't tell others that they are rude when you don't even know them.  You can't plan everyone's wedding on here, but you can give advice to help them plan their dream wedding and work with the options that they are given.  Sometimes you have to be creative to make things work and it takes thinking outside of the box to do so.  Don't just sit there and say "there's no way you can have what you want" come up with good solutions. You may have your own opinions for one reason or another but don't call someone out as being rude or being a bad host.  Be helpful and most of all be respectful.    

You obviously have never even seen these heating lamps.  Do some research before you try to be a know it all on all subjects.  

My guests will be warm and comfortable, regardless of how much you put my wedding plans down. 

And yes, it's my vision, and it's my wedding.  Not yours.  

Well that's a whole load of crap.  Sometimes the correct response is "You can't do that, it's rude to your guests."  The good solution here is putting your guests' comfort BEFORE your "wedding vision."  Period, end of statement.

MobKaz

kk111415 said:

I'm pretty sure you have to play things by ear. You can say what you want about it being too cold but we won't know until it happens. I actually went to a wedding last year and it was held in late September. Outdoor ceremony around sunset, followed by a indoor/outdoor cocktail hour and for the reception, we were actually seated outside and immediate family was seated inside. I was a little chilly (I think it got down into high 50s low 60s) but we managed. And that was for the entire dinner portion. No sunlight, no heating, just a overhanging roof. Believe it or not, I was totally fine with a cardigan and a few drinks in me. And we were outside for well over an hour. Was I upset with the bride for placing us outside? No, I was honored to even be invited to share their special day. With guests in coats, heating lamps for the extra sensitive people, I think we will be just fine. Everyone will be well aware to dress for the weather and it's going to be a happy day. It's 10 minutes out of a 6 hour affair. Pretty short amount of time if you have a coat on.

You attended a wedding where the immediate family was seated INDOORS while the rest of the guests had to "manage" in the cold?  WHO DOES THAT??  That bride was all kinds of rude, and actually DIShonored you and the other guests by treating them differently from family.

When you start discussing coats and heating lamps, it is a major clue that it is too darn cold for an outdoor ceremony.  I would not want my guests to "manage" during my ceremony.  They will be outside much longer than 10 minutes, and for you to think otherwise is naive and ignorant.