wednesday chat

Ollie08

@Swazzle - Thanks! I hope so too. The flu has been going around our area these past few weeks, but I really haven't come in contact with anyone besides my immediate family lately, so I'm not sure where the heck I got it from. But I'm on that border teetering between feeling like absolute crap and just suffering from allergies. I wish my body would make up its mind! I hope your H feels better.

Dignity100

@Ollie08 - Wedding is at 2:30pm - we have pictures scheduled until 5pm.  At 5 we go to dinner and won't be back outside until 7:45-9:30pm.  I know it's still too soon to tell, but right now it's dropped from 80% chance of rain to 60% chance with 'hours of rain' listed at 2 hours (instead of 2 1/2 hrs).  So things are starting to go in my favor.  Does Florida weather tend to put what people want to see at the end of the extended forecast?  I know here in Cleveland - if it's winter they tend to put a warmer temperature at the end of the extended and in the summer a cooler temperature at the end of the extended (I think it gives people hope of better weather).

eilis1228

@CocoBellaF why are you up so early? Studying before work?

@Dignity100 I know that this is easier said than done, but try and relax and enjoy your last few days as a Ms. One day all of these incidents will make a great story, and you guys will laugh about it all. Focus on how awesome that moment will be when you walk down the aisle, regardless of the weather, and the fact that you will be MARRIED to your FI in less than a week. *hugs*

@swazzle Awww I know them feels. Like @southernpeach89, I moved back home after 5 years in my college town, and every time I visit, it's nostalgia overload. You guys are going to create an awesome life together in your new home, and you'll have lots of great, memorable times there as well. Maybe start on a fall wreath or something crafty now for the new place? It may help you get excited all over again about moving.

@southernpeach89 I'm glad you were able to get back to the gym yesterday! That first workout back is always awesome and terrible all at the same time lol.

@allusive007 I think that's a great attitude to have about the layoffs! All you can do is continue to work and do your best and prepare financially in case the worst happens. I hope that for the benefit of you and your coworkers, they at least start the layoffs sooner than later. That way you guys don't have to wait in limbo forever.

@severmilli12 I hope you feel better soon!

@LaPeanut1018 Ahhh so close to the big day! I can't wait to see pics of the final fitting. You are going to be a BEAUTIFUL bride!

@peaseblossom55 Bummer about Atonement. I've heard so many good things about the book, but I haven't gotten around to reading it. Hopefully the story picks up a bit for you!

@bookishgiraffes WOW! You've got a lot on your plate right now. I'm sending job vibes to your and your family, and I hope that all of the moving plans go smoothly. What an exciting new chapter for both you and your parents!

@KeptInStitches Good luck on getting your homework done, the blankets done, and getting in touch with the craft show coordinator! I hope she follows up with you ASAP. Also, I hope you guys like Brave! FI loves to quote the dad and little brothers from that movie. 

@Hummingbird125 *hugs* I'm so sorry you're going through all that. I hate that jobs aren't panning out for you as you'd planned, and I know it can be weird to think about a career when you know you'll have kids in the mix in the near-ish future. What's your Etsy business? I'd love to support you once you get it all set up.

@phira I'm glad you and J can have some downtime together. I apologize if you posted this elsewhere, but what happened with your friend/BM? Did you ever get a chance to talk to her?

I need to focus on my huge to-do list at work today. I have a feeling I'm going to have a few late nights this week, which I guess is fine because FI is working crazy hours this week too. Last night he came home around 5 (and he even stopped and bought groceries for me!) so that he could have dinner and watch our shows and cuddle, and then he went back in around 8:30. I fell asleep around 11:30 and he still wasn't home, so I'm not sure what time he finally came back. I hate that he's so stressed at work and has such awful hours right now. I wish I could help.  

As far as WR stuff goes, I need to schedule our engagement photos for next month and figure out what props I want. I also need to start a list of things to discuss with the owner of the venue at our planning session at the end of the month. After this session, I won't see her again until 2 weeks before the wedding, so I'm trying to be as thorough as possible with my list. I don't want to badger her with questions via email over the next year and be a PITA. lol

Tonight I need to go to the gym (if I don't work late), do another load of laundry (we have a mountain of dirty clothes right now...oops), and clean up a bit around the apartment. If FI comes home for dinner again, I'll cook some pork chops, but if not, I won't worry about cooking and just reheat leftovers or something. Then I'll either read more of 11/22/63 (it's been like a week since I've been able to pick it up) or watch a few eps of Gilmore Girls. I've seen that show countless times and own all of the DVDs, but I'm still rewatching it on Netflix. It's so good!

Is it Friday yet?

Peaseblossom55

@swazzle I want to rewatch the first season too.  I don't remember if I watched the last few episodes or not.  I think I didn't.  I felt like season 3 had too much going on and was all over the place.

@eilis1228 It's more the style of the writing that is getting to me, versus the actual plotline, at least I'm 56% of the way through it. 

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@eilis1228 - since we had a pup emergency last night (Bella had an IBS flare-up, so we were taking care of her and trying to get some new food and force meds down her little throat) I didn't get my workout in.  I got up early this morning to fit in a workout because Wed is usually my off day.  I'm kind of regretting it now!

phira

@eilis1228 Sort of? She ended up telling me that I should let her know when I need to know by (like, email her with, "Okay, gotta know by tomorrow"), but that it was unlikely she was going to make it.

I realized that I've been really overly worried about upsetting her. I kept thinking, "What if she CAN come to the wedding and I schedule hair and make-up for JUST me and my maid of honor? She'll feel so left out!" Except that I know this friend well enough to know that she wouldn't be upset.

So the current plan is:

- Find out the very latest we need her RSVP by and tell her (since it's possible to add people last minute, we might wait till the last minute)

- If she can make it, we'll see if we can add her hair and make-up, and if not, it doesn't matter very much

- I've already made her bouquet; if she's not coming, I'd like to take it apart and use the flowers in centerpieces. So I'll save a few centerpieces till the last minute and if she's not coming, easy, and if she is coming, it'll only take an hour to put together more flowers

She might end up missing the rehearsal lunch if she doesn't RSVP in time, but that's less important.

KeptInStitches

@cocobellaf, Postmodern Jukebox is on Spotify?!? Awesome day! Thanks for introducing me to them!

labro

AW alert/bab mom cell phone pics!

Sorry guys...I'm not feeling super happy about how I look today...but I'm cheering myself by saying it's terrible lighting and my mom just sucks at taking pictures. I'm going back in Saturday because I felt my dress looked too tight fitting around my hips (you don't see it in picture but it was pulling way too much just under the belt area). It doesn't feel tight...but it just looks too fitted.

So to make myself feel better I'm gonna AW my flowers again! Because they are SO pretty!

KeptInStitches

@lapeanut1018, I think you look gorgeous! Your dress doesn't look too fitted to me. And your flowers are really really pretty!

Ollie08

@Dignity100 - Not really, they're usually pretty truthful. They haven't been showing any signs of cooling off lately and I know we'd all love to see that! By this weekend you should have a fairly good idea if they're calling for more rain than normal, but lately it's just been like summer. Wherever the 2 sea breezes collide and cause storms.

labro

@KeptInStitches I had it unzipped slightly in the back so we could figure out how much needed to be let out. So in the photos it looks better than it really is!

KeptInStitches

@lapeanut1018, if you're not happy, there is time to alter it - but I'm more inclined to think the lighting is bad and your mom just wasn't great at taking photos. I really do think you're gorgeous.

Dignity100

@LaPeanut1018 - the only thing I see with your dress is the skirt needs to be steamed/pressed.  I'm sure it will be perfect when they're finished with it!

Peaseblossom55

@lapeanut1018 you look so pretty! I love it!

phira

@LaPeanut1018 I think you look great, but if it's unzipped a little, then I can see how you might want to get it taken out a bit. Remember--better to have to take it out a little than to feel uncomfortable about yourself the whole day. But it DOES look fabulous.

labro

@phira yeah it zips up...and the fit is finally perfect in the top (it was way too big before) but when it was fully zipped it was obvious that it was too tight under the belt so they clipped the top and then unzipped slightly in the area it looked too tight and that fixed the issue.

@Dignity100 It IS wrinkly but there's definitely other issues going on. Once they are done letting it out my salon will steam and press the dress so it's ready for me to take to the venue.

@peaseblossom55 and @KeptInStitches Thank you!

Final fitting take 2 is set for Saturday!

lmcooper86

Well helloooooooo ladies! I've actually been trying to get a lot done today, so I haven't been on much, but now it's 4:00 and I'm off in half an hour and I'm sort of feeling done with today.

@Dignity100 - Less than 1 week!!! Sending lots of vibes for good weather, but you will have an awesome day regardless

@Swazzle - This is how I feel about moving out of the city. I love living downtown even though it's hella expensive and I KNOW I don't want to live there long-term. But still...I'll be sad to say goodbye to that chapter.

@southernpeach89 and @CocoBellaF - Poor sick pups! I hope they're both doing better.

@allusive007 - Your wedding day sounds crazy! I can't believe that all happened, that's certainly memorable!

@KeptInStitches - "My first exam in rocketry" is literally one of the coolest things I have ever heard. And you're going to get credit for exploding stuff as well? Damn science is cool!

@Hummingbird125 - I feel you on the job stuff. I have been with my current employer on and off for...like 15 years? My mom used to work here so I started as a temp in highschool and jumped around between departments and eventually settled into the permanent role that I have now. But I'm not feeling fulfilled and I definitely don't feel valued here. It's upsetting because I've worked here for a long time and have a lot of historical knowledge about the organization, and it's just really demoralizing to feel like I don't matter and won't progress here.

@LaPeanut1018 - SO PRETTY! I love your dress, you look fantastic (and your hair is not a frizzy mess, it's all pretty curly at the bottom!).

My day has been alright. I had a stack of stuff to get through and I got most of it done. Still lots to do before I go away thought, so I need to stay off TK a bit!

Tonight FI and I are ordering pizza and watching the Leafs' home opener, and that is all. I did a bunch of stuff around my apartment last night and am looking forward to a relaxed night.

AND FI got a raise today! Totally unexpected and extremely awesome. I am so proud of him for working hard and getting the recognition that he deserves YAY!!

eilis1228

*sigh* I had a drawer partially open at my desk, and I ran into it while trying to run to a meeting (which I was already late for), and the drawer fell out of the desk and crashed onto the floor. 

Yep, pretty good assessment of my day. I'm running around like a chicken with its head cut off.

lmcooper86

eilis1228 said:

*sigh* I had a drawer partially open at my desk, and I ran into it while trying to run to a meeting (which I was already late for), and the drawer fell out of the desk and crashed onto the floor. 

Yep, pretty good assessment of my day. I'm running around like a chicken with its head cut off.

Uuuuuugh! This is me a lot of the time. I walk really fast and don't have the best balance so I tend to walk into a lot of stuff. And I bruise like a peach. It's a sad state of affairs.

phira

My workday ended SUPER badly. Last section of the day gave me a shit ton of attitude. Like, multiple students being brats because they weren't happy with the way the exam was written or graded. Well, fuck off, I didn't write it and it was graded by scantron. GTFO.

MBTA being a dick meant it took an hour and 10 minutes to get home when I live 25 minutes from work. I called J to warn him that I was in a REALLY bad mood and when he asked how he could help, I kind of yelled at him about the boutonnieres.

Turns out, he thought that when I said I needed to figure out how to "make the boutonnieres," I meant I didn't know how to pin them. When I got home and we finally talked, I kept having to explain over and over, "No, you have to make them," and that I needed a tutorial and examples. He finally got it, but I still have no idea how he didn't understand initially (after me asking for tutorials and examples weeks ago).

I ended up having a pretty serious cry because, as I've mentioned on here before, I wanted to elope. I've been dealing with a lot of family drama (siblings fighting, sister won't be a bridesmaid, paternal grandparents haven't RSVPed but likely won't come), my body image issues are back full force after years of body acceptance, and I'm feeling like a lot of my friends are letting me down (other bridesmaid is being flaky, close friend RSVPed no after talking about how he was planning on coming). And now I have like ... NO MONEY because this wedding is costing almost $30k, which is what I make in a year, pre-tax.

It's just NOT been worth it. And since J is the one who wanted to have a wedding like this, I don't understand why he's been dragging his feet and leaving everything to me.

He's promised to take on more of the work, and I'm going to help by NOT PLANNING anymore. Like, really. If I talk about making centerpieces, please remind me that it's J's problem.

rn1989

Cool song, thanks for posting!

I'm new here to TK and just wanted to say hello. I've been lurking around here for 2-3 weeks now, and I enjoy the support and love we all give each other.

I work midnights as a nurse, so most of my day today was dedicated to sleep, until the BF came and woke me after he was done with work. We didn't do much, ate dinner, and relaxed and talked some. 

We've been together since last November, and it's gone by so fast. I love him with all my heart, we've brought each other through some things. We've talked about getting married before, but lately it seems like an engagement is closer and closer...he's asked what types of rings I like, I've sent him several pictures.

Also, he turned on SYTTD on TLC the other day and told me we're watching this for me to get ideas of dresses and things I like. I'm trying to be cool but I'M SO EXCITED! I want to make sure he feels comfortable though, so I'm not putting any pressure on him. 

Hummingbird125

rn1989 said:

Cool song, thanks for posting!

I'm new here to TK and just wanted to say hello. I've been lurking around here for 2-3 weeks now, and I enjoy the support and love we all give each other.

I work midnights as a nurse, so most of my day today was dedicated to sleep, until the BF came and woke me after he was done with work. We didn't do much, ate dinner, and relaxed and talked some. 

We've been together since last November, and it's gone by so fast. I love him with all my heart, we've brought each other through some things. We've talked about getting married before, but lately it seems like an engagement is closer and closer...he's asked what types of rings I like, I've sent him several pictures.

Also, he turned on SYTTD on TLC the other day and told me we're watching this for me to get ideas of dresses and things I like. I'm trying to be cool but I'M SO EXCITED! I want to make sure he feels comfortable though, so I'm not putting any pressure on him. 

You should start a new thread introducing yourself so that we can attack err..... get to know you with invasive questions about your life!