I have a friend who I have known since early childhood. We grew up in the same neighborhood, considered ourselves "besties" etc. I attended her destination wedding and served as her bridesmaid. I spent money I didn't have (I was in college!) to be there for her. She still lives in the neighborhood we grew up in wit her family, and I have lived 6 hours away for almost a decade. There is a lot of history between us, and years of being there for her through all of here major life milestones. The past few years have really been major ones, for me. Found my guy, he made a 6+ hours move to start a life with me. Started my DREAM job, lost my beloved cat, became financially independent, once and for all. I mean, I am a big girl now. Last year, in the thick of all of this, my friend decided to call me and have a major melt down about how I am not there for her and how I should be because of all of the stuff she is going through. She even was angry because the last time we had talked, all I could talk about was my new job. My DREAM job. The writing is on the wall for this friendship and has probably been for years. She has NEVER been to visit me. She has never seen the place I now call home, nor has she ever met any of the friends I adore here. I know she expects to be in the wedding. In fact, she most likely thinks she will be the maid of honor. I would like to leave her out altogether, but the drama which will inevitably ensue is terrifying. I do not have any desire to make my wedding the catalyst for such negativity. I have toyed with all sorts of tactics from just letting her know that I straight up don't think it would make sense to put her in my wedding, but" hey, you're invited!", to just having her stand up for me and acknowledge that I don't expect anything else from her, since she has never been to where I now live. I have asked my fiancee, dearest friends and family. I would like to see how others weigh in. Anyone else have experience with such a weird and uncomfortable situation?