I can't imagine not having my best friend with me on the day of my wedding.
Unfortunately she is in the middle of a very unstable relationship with her boyfriend. My fiancé and I have tried to be understanding and supportive of their relationship but have ultimately decided that it would be best if he was not invited to our wedding.
Not to sound like a bridezilla, but he acts like a child, and we fear that he won't be able to behave in an emotionally charged atmosphere.
I fear that we won't be able to have him at any of the associated festivities because he will undoubtably make a scene.
Just last night we went out for dinner and drinks to celebrate our engagement and he attempted to start a fight with the bartender (my co-worker) for being too kind, and a stranger for dancing too close.
I would really like for her to be a part of my wedding, and I'm worried that she either won't come without him, or that he won't let her come alone.
That being said he also has a history of being physical with her, and I don't want to risk her safety by inviting only her to partake in our wedding.
I haven't addressed my concerns with her yet, because I'm not sure how or even if I can avoid offending her.
I'm so torn about what to do, and I would appreciate any advice!
It seems that my concern for my friend has been understated in the first posting. I want to clarify that I have no intent to put myself or wedding concerns above her safety, but at this point she has refused any help that I've offered her. While reaching out and trying to support her has been an ongoing process, I'm at the point where she doesn't seem interested in making any moves towards leaving the relationship.
I would like to extend thanks to the people who have provided links to support sites, I do appreciate it and will look into them.
With that being said the goal of this post was to come up with advice/ideas on how to talk to her about not including him in the wedding, and how to avoid conflict with both her and the SO.