I'm a little worried I'm going to be the only person in the history of ever to feel this way, honestly...but here goes nothing.
I am so, so worried about my ceremony because the idea of having to stand up in front of people (even in front of the 20 people who are attending) and say vows to my fiance makes me want to run away and hide. I love him very much and I am thrilled to be married to him, but the actual wedding part? Terrifying. I am not a demonstrative person and I'm not an outgoing person and the whole concept of having to tell him words like that in public is giving me awful anxiety.
We are having a very small Vegas wedding in part because of this (but needed to invite those twenty guests for the sake of our parents, who would be devastated if they were excluded), and I obviously won't be writing my own vows or anything, but even the short,"standard" civil ceremony is absolutely freaking me out so much. I went to a beautiful wedding of a close friend last weekend and the entire time I was sitting there thinking "oh, no, oh no, am I going to have to say that stuff? What am I going to have to say? What is the officiant going to say? Is it going to be this terrifying? Am I going to sound that cheesy?" It was totally ruined for me because I spent the whole time thinking about how uncomfortable I would be saying the same things in front of people.
Am I crazy? Is there any way I can alleviate this discomfort?
I've talked to my fiance about it a bit, and he obviously already knows that I'm not a feelings kinda person and that I'm shy in groups and hate public speaking/being the centre of attention/sentimentality of any kind. Fortunately, he understands that it's nothing to do with how I feel about him and everything to do with how I feel about the ceremony part, but I still feel awful about it.
I'm so scared that I'm going to hate the whole thing and my brain is going to go to a place where I'm mocking all the sappy stuff and feeling awkward and silly and simultaneously scared. Please, please tell me that someone else out there has felt some of this. I need reassurance. Badly.