I'd like some advice on how to deal with this… I think I made a mistake by giving in to my aunt's pressing.
My fiancé and I decided not to have a registry. We're in our late twenties/early thirties and have been living together for six years so we really don't need anything. A few weeks ago, my aunt and I were talking on the phone. I'm very close to her. She asked me what we wanted as a wedding gift. I told her that we are so happy that they'll be coming to the wedding and their presence is the only gift we need. She was very insistent and asked me the same question a few times; I gave the same answer. Finally, she asked if we're registered anywhere and I said no. Then she said, "so you'd prefer to receive money". I repeated that we really don't expect a gift and told her that if she wanted to offer us something, we would be very touched by the gesture. This conversation lasted about fifteen minutes, and she kept coming back to the gift question. Finally, I just answered that if guests would like to offer some something, we would greatly appreciate money because we have a "house fund". She's a very practical and financially responsible person so she liked my answer. We then talked for another half hour and I thought that was the end of it.
Well… She proceeded to tell all my grandparents, aunts, and uncles that we want cash! I talked with my grandma, and she said "so, aunt so and so told me that you guys want cash instead of a present". I insisted that good thoughts and/or presence is the only gift we would like from them (my grandparents may not be able to attend because of my grandpa's health), etc…
If another family member brings this up, should I say that I did not tell my aunt to "spread the word" and that their thoughts or presence is the only gift we would like? Should I call my other two uncles to say that we greatly appreciate their presence at the wedding and don't expect anything at all?