The worst thing about fighting with your husband...

climbingsingle

is being SO angry at him and seeing his last name attached to your first name. 

Me to H this morning:

LakeR2014

Ouch!  Rough morning?  Hopefully the end of it will involve wine, chocolate, and a nice massage from said H or at if not a great night out with the girls.

climbingsingle

It was a really rough morning. He just flew in last night and saw that we received an unexpected (very large) tax bill from the town. And he freaked the fuck out, and we got into a fight. He called the town, and it was a mistake. We do not owe it. He's apologized multiple times, but I'm still mad. Yes, I'm stubborn. 

pinkcow13

Awww that sucks. FI and I got into a huge fight on Monday night, and he apologized profusely all day Tuesday, but I was not having it.

I hope tonight is better, and hopefully he will have some vino waiting for you later on

LakeR2014

Ooo yea - I can understand the still fuming part - especially when it could've been avoided by calling the town first instead of flipping out and then calling the town.   You definitely deserve that wine, massage, and awesome dinner combo tonight....then you can forgive him.

LittlePeachBlossom

Sorry . Fights suck so much. Hope you two have a better evening!

debbeau

The worst thing about fighting with the DH is that he is always wrong but doesn't see it ;-)

huskypuppy14

ClimbingBrideNY said:

It was a really rough morning. He just flew in last night and saw that we received an unexpected (very large) tax bill from the town. And he freaked the fuck out, and we got into a fight. He called the town, and it was a mistake. We do not owe it. He's apologized multiple times, but I'm still mad. Yes, I'm stubborn. 

Why did he freak out on you? It's not like you created the tax bill. What were you fighting about?

climbingsingle

huskypuppy14 said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

It was a really rough morning. He just flew in last night and saw that we received an unexpected (very large) tax bill from the town. And he freaked the fuck out, and we got into a fight. He called the town, and it was a mistake. We do not owe it. He's apologized multiple times, but I'm still mad. Yes, I'm stubborn. 

Why did he freak out on you? It's not like you created the tax bill. What were you fighting about?

He didn't freak out on me. He was upset about receiving the bill. The anger wasn't directed at me.

doeydo

ClimbingBrideNY said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

It was a really rough morning. He just flew in last night and saw that we received an unexpected (very large) tax bill from the town. And he freaked the fuck out, and we got into a fight. He called the town, and it was a mistake. We do not owe it. He's apologized multiple times, but I'm still mad. Yes, I'm stubborn. 

Why did he freak out on you? It's not like you created the tax bill. What were you fighting about?

He didn't freak out on me. He was upset about receiving the bill. The anger wasn't directed at me.

So, he was just upset in general and going on about it, and you were like "calm the heck down dude" and then he snapped at you?  Just trying to understand it.

climbingsingle

Honestly we both freaked out. We were both in the wrong. All was resolved that day. Things are good now.

lyndausvi

DH does the same thing.  

  He automatically freaks out over something like that.   It drives me nuts.  Any attempt to calm him down has the opposite effect.  I on the hand basically go "well that sucks, let me call them in the morning to see what the issue is".

lurkergirl

doeydo said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

It was a really rough morning. He just flew in last night and saw that we received an unexpected (very large) tax bill from the town. And he freaked the fuck out, and we got into a fight. He called the town, and it was a mistake. We do not owe it. He's apologized multiple times, but I'm still mad. Yes, I'm stubborn. 

Why did he freak out on you? It's not like you created the tax bill. What were you fighting about?

He didn't freak out on me. He was upset about receiving the bill. The anger wasn't directed at me.

So, he was just upset in general and going on about it, and you were like "calm the heck down dude" and then he snapped at you?  Just trying to understand it.

Mountains and molehills, dude.  They had a fight.  They got angry.  She vented here.  They made up.  End of story.

RebeccaFlower

doeydo said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

It was a really rough morning. He just flew in last night and saw that we received an unexpected (very large) tax bill from the town. And he freaked the fuck out, and we got into a fight. He called the town, and it was a mistake. We do not owe it. He's apologized multiple times, but I'm still mad. Yes, I'm stubborn. 

Why did he freak out on you? It's not like you created the tax bill. What were you fighting about?

He didn't freak out on me. He was upset about receiving the bill. The anger wasn't directed at me.

So, he was just upset in general and going on about it, and you were like "calm the heck down dude" and then he snapped at you?  Just trying to understand it.

Maybe you should just steer clear of the relationship advice. 

ashley8918

RebeccaFlower said:

doeydo said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

It was a really rough morning. He just flew in last night and saw that we received an unexpected (very large) tax bill from the town. And he freaked the fuck out, and we got into a fight. He called the town, and it was a mistake. We do not owe it. He's apologized multiple times, but I'm still mad. Yes, I'm stubborn. 

Why did he freak out on you? It's not like you created the tax bill. What were you fighting about?

He didn't freak out on me. He was upset about receiving the bill. The anger wasn't directed at me.

So, he was just upset in general and going on about it, and you were like "calm the heck down dude" and then he snapped at you?  Just trying to understand it.

Maybe you should just steer clear of the relationship advice. 

theartistformerlyknownas

Jesus people, enough with the overanalyzing already. This isn't "capture the red flag."

doeydo

A few weeks ago I made a comment on a user's thread regarding her previous post about her relationship issues (at one point in the post she said something about having kids, and I said I hope she doesn't until stuff is sorted out kind of thing) and I got chewed out a bit "Was that really called for?", etc.  But whatever.  I just don't see why it caused a fight between OP and her DH.  *shrugs*

manateehugger

doeydo said:

A few weeks ago I made a comment on a user's thread regarding her previous post about her relationship issues (at one point in the post she said something about having kids, and I said I hope she doesn't until stuff is sorted out kind of thing) and I got chewed out a bit "Was that really called for?", etc.  But whatever.  I just don't see why it caused a fight between OP and her DH.  *shrugs*

You've never dealt with something that pissed you off and your SO said the wrong thing to make the pissed offness worse, and then pull an asshole move of taking your pissed offness out on your SO?

Shrug. I assumed this is a normal part of relationships. The point is that you sincerely apologize and try better.

huskypuppy14

Hey I'm allowed to ask questions.

  I also don't see how this caused such a big fight, but I'm well aware that stupid things cause fights once in awhile. But the point that the OP didn't accept her husband's apology over something so stupid, made me wonder if there was more to it.

The OP has been married for less than a month, and she's already having fights with her husband that she's pissed that they share a last name? And not accepting his apology?  I think that's extreme.

rajahmd

huskypuppy14 said:

Hey I'm allowed to ask questions.

  I also don't see how this caused such a big fight, but I'm well aware that stupid things cause fights once in awhile. But the point that the OP didn't accept her husband's apology over something so stupid, made me wonder if there was more to it.

The OP has been married for less than a month, and she's already having fights with her husband that she's pissed that they share a last name? And not accepting his apology?  I think that's extreme.

OMG! I'm pretty sure that the last name comment was a joke as part of her venting. Good fucking grief.

climbingsingle

huskypuppy14 said:

Hey I'm allowed to ask questions.

  I also don't see how this caused such a big fight, but I'm well aware that stupid things cause fights once in awhile. But the point that the OP didn't accept her husband's apology over something so stupid, made me wonder if there was more to it.

The OP has been married for less than a month, and she's already having fights with her husband that she's pissed that they share a last name? And not accepting his apology?  I think that's extreme.

Oh give me a fucking break. This post was totally made in jest and I was venting. I am madly in love with my husband. We had a stressful week - I had to fire an employee and he had to fly down to Florida because his father was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's. So yes, we unfortunately got into a fight over something stupid. By the end of the day, we had both apologized, discussed it and moved on, like adults do.
I'd tell you that we're all good now, but I don't for one second think your post was motivated by concern. So thank you for reminding not to post about having a fight with my husband.

CMGragain

I understand the fighting with your husband.  I don't understand  the significance of sharing his last name.  I think that is why you received the responses.

huskypuppy14

RajahBMFD said:

Hey I'm allowed to ask questions.

  I also don't see how this caused such a big fight, but I'm well aware that stupid things cause fights once in awhile. But the point that the OP didn't accept her husband's apology over something so stupid, made me wonder if there was more to it.

The OP has been married for less than a month, and she's already having fights with her husband that she's pissed that they share a last name? And not accepting his apology?  I think that's extreme.

OMG! I'm pretty sure that the last name comment was a joke as part of her venting. Good fucking grief.

climbingsingle

CMGragain said:

I understand the fighting with your husband.  I don't understand  the significance of sharing his last name.  I think that is why you received the responses.

While we were still in this fight, I was sitting at work changing my last name on work email. So it was a funny thought that popped into my head. You guys are reading way too much into this.

raissyrais

ClimbingBrideNY said:

I understand the fighting with your husband.  I don't understand  the significance of sharing his last name.  I think that is why you received the responses.

While we were still in this fight, I was sitting at work changing my last name on work email. So it was a funny thought that popped into my head. You guys are reading way too much into this.

Yep, y'all are reading way too much into this, Cimbing was just being sarcastic.

LakeR2014

OY!  Comment made in jest.  After a stressful week.  I think @climbingbrideNY's been on here long enough that we can tell she's totally and utterly in love with her DH and is allowed to have the moments of jesting where she jokes about changing her last name.

Also - it happens where a fight, although over, can still make you fume.  I think she was still a bit in the fumming stage when she posted and added in the sarcasm.   Totally understand that.  You can be over a fight with your SO and still be a bit 'Really?' afterwards. 

climbingsingle

LakeR2014 said:

OY!  Comment made in jest.  After a stressful week.  I think @climbingbrideNY's been on here long enough that we can tell she's totally and utterly in love with her DH and is allowed to have the moments of jesting where she jokes about changing her last name.

Also - it happens where a fight, although over, can still make you fume.  I think she was still a bit in the fumming stage when she posted and added in the sarcasm.   Totally understand that.  You can be over a fight with your SO and still be a bit 'Really?' afterwards. 

Exactly!! Thank you. 

LittlePeachBlossom

This is being over analyzed. Arguments are part of a healthy relationship. I don't know about you but an apology doesn't instantly make me happy again. There's a cooling off period before I get to my happy place again. The reference to "but she's a newlywed" is absurd. I didn't know being a newlywed meant you had to be perfect and never fight.

larrygaga

To be fair, TK hasn't had much drama lately. It's not as much fun if we make our own.

Climbing B, I thought your joke was funny.