I'm in the midst of planning a surprise anniversary party for my parents and I have a few questions about who should or shouldn't be on the guest list. Any feedback would be of assistance. The hall we selected can fit 100 people and we are planning on inviting up to 80 to accommodate our budget. Because of the budget I want to know if it would improper to exclude the following people from the guest list...
1. My hubbies family. My parents and in-laws have met on a few occasions, (our wedding, my bridal shower, a christmas dinner, etc.) While they get along, I would not call them friends of my parents. Would it be in poor taste to leave my in-laws off the guest list for parents' anniversary party? If my brother and I do invite them, could we limit it to just my husband's mother, meanwhile excluding my husband's siblings?
2. My parents are from and got married in Trinidad. We still have many family members that live in the islands. Because they likely won't be able to attend due to distance, would be ok if we don't send invitations to those people?
3. Again to keep budgets done, my brother and I were thinking of excluding children under 14 from the guest list. However, we have some family with a child 14 or older and siblings younger than 14. Would it be wrong to not include an invite for those younger siblings if the older siblings gets invited?
4. Both my parents have A LOT of siblings which means I have A LOT of cousins. Would it be wrong to only invite the parents and not the cousins to the anniversary party?
5. We already plan on inviting work friends of my parents, but do you typically invite bosses as well?
Lastly, this isn't guest list related, but what do you all think about showing a video of my parents wedding 30 years ago? My brother and I were debating if that would be a good idea or just simply dumb and boring.