My fiance recently informed me that he does not want to have a wedding registry. He feels that telling people what to give for a wedding gift is very tacky and impersonal. He would rather have people put some thought into the gift they are giving. Instead of the registry, he says he would rather have people contribute financially to the wedding or honeymoon in some way, but I feel this is a rude thing to ask.
We are in a bit of a situation though because neither he nor I have very big incomes and he is also in the air force and both he and I will be moving to a permenant base after the wedding so he may feel that he doesn't need the hassle of packing up all of our gifts.
However, I feel that a registry is an expected thing now a days and my family has always given lists at Christmas and during birthdays and such so I feel there is no problem with a registry.
Is it acceptable to ask for money instead of registry items? How would we let our guests know that that is what we want?