First experience with an ex-boyfriend getting married. It’s definitely a weird mixture of judgment of the wedding and happiness for him and his new bride.
Judgment (just me snarking; please don’t be offended): Sunday wedding, mason jars everywhere, incredibly cheesy B&G formals (and cheesy engagement photos from a few months ago)
Happiness: smiling couple, beautiful fall colors, pretty flowers, and lovely bride and her wedding dress
Kind of just interesting is all… wondering if anyone else had similar thoughts when their exes got married?
Re: Ex boyfriend got married
The ones I'm still cool with haven't gotten there yet. When the time comes, I'll be happy for them.
I'm the fuck out.
Apart from the odd selfie on instagram I have no idea what he's up to until people (mutual friends) see the need to update me on his latest douchery. I'm much happier without any trace of him in my life. It's crazy how well SO treats me and how happy I am now.
The last guy I dated before I met FI, I honestly hope that he meets the woman of his dreams and I will lurk all their wedding pictures on facebook. I know that will be a weird feeling when it happens, but I'll be mostly happy for them.
It was October 9, 2005. The Astros and Braves were in the NLDS and I was at the game. It was in 15th inning and my phone rang. I didn't recognize the number but answered it anyway.
"Hello?"
"Hey, it's Ryan"
"Who?"
"Ryan X" (his last name)
"Oh. Hi."
"Got a sec?"
"Not really, I'm at the Astros game and it's in the 15th inning."
"Oh. Cool. I was just calling to tell you that I got engaged."
"Holy shit, Roger Clemens is coming in to pinch-hit!!! I gotta go - talk later!"
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2005_National_League_Division_Series#Game_4.2C_October_9
I called him later and we chatted briefly. We are Facebook friends, but I haven't seen him in at least 10 years. I had mixed emotions, but never one of jealousy or anger.
I still talk to one of my other exes because that split up was also fairly amicable and we have some shared friends. He got married shortly after we did.
My most recent ex is still single as far as I know. He's a complete jerkwad and I recently told him to stop stalking my LinkedIn profile.
My first serious boyfriend and first love was a really abusive dickhead. So we definitely cut all ties and did not stay friends. When a mutual friend said a few years later that he got married I was a little weirdly mad/ jealous/ who knows what. It wasn't that I wanted him, it was more how did he get there before me when I'm awesome and he's an asshole?
But I noticed him "like" a friend's facebook post recently. So of course I clicked on him to be a nosey nelly after all these years. I texted my best friend and said "I clicked on Nate on FB.....I was reeeally hoping his new baby was ugly, but I can't lie, she's frigen adorable."
I missed my stop because it was like a punch in the gut. Went to hang out with him and the best friend anyway, who at that point didn't know anything about it yet (apparently this guy and his bf's ex had just made the decision earlier that day) and got shit-faced. I told him I just wanted to be friends and wandered off. Wandered back later because I'd lost my cell phone and they both helped me look for it. This was after the guy had told his ex-bf about this and ex-bf had slugged him in the solar plexus.
So there's that.
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I was not completely over it when I found out and although I knew we'd never get back together it hurt/was weird to hear about it. They married a year later. After I heard about his engagement I un-friended him on FB. I figured if it hurt to hear he was engaged I probably wasn't ready to be friends on FB. That was long before I met my DH and after meeting him I completely knew why my ex and I would've never made it. Hindsight, experience, and wisdom are AMAZING things!
Last ex was a total douche canoe. Alcoholic and abusive. We were together 7 years and lived together for 5.5 of those years. When I finally broke it off for good, it took several months for him to get it through his head. I ended things in November 2011 and he was still trying to get me to take him back the following July. Then I saw on FB December of 2012 that he just had a baby with some girl. So yeah, baby mama was 4 months preggo while he was trying to get me back. How the hell were you gonna explain that one, dipshit?!? She's pretty trashy looking, but I honestly just feel sorry for her. I cut him loose, but now she's gonna have to deal with his shitty decisions for the rest of her life.
I met FI in August 2012 and never looked back. He is amazing, and I can appreciate his awesomeness even more now that I've dealt with the opposite end of the spectrum.