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DARN IT FI...(need to vent)

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FI got added to an email string between FMIL and I, and way down in there I had mentioned what I got him for Christmas so that she wouldn't get him the same thing. And then he made a point of replying to say OH HEY I KNOW WHAT YOU GOT FOR ME! And it made me so stinking mad, like why couldn't he just keep it to himself and pretended to be surprised when I gave him the gift?

I always feel so much pressure to get him the perfect gift, and he's really hard to shop for, and now I feel like it's back to the drawing board again. I'm so grouchy right now that I kind of want to return the gifts that he found out about and get him something completely different, and not care whether he gets the thing he wanted or not.

I know it's not a big deal, and I would feel silly saying anything to him about it so I'm venting here. Pass the wine, please. And give me ideas of gifts for men?
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    What the heck, FMIL?! I'd be more pissed at her than at him. She should have known better.

    Yeah, he could have kept it to himself... but would you be any happier with a fake reaction? You probably would have seen right through it and still been upset that he didn't tell you he knew.

    I would honestly still keep the gift though. It's still thoughtful and awesome even if it's not a surprise. Or maybe make FMIL buy it from you and give it to him since she spoiled it.
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  • loro929loro929 member
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    Ugh, that sucks!
    Ruined surprises are the worst, especially when you put so much time and effort into them.

    Some men gifts could be:

    1. Tickets to a game that he has been wanting to see.
    2. A weekend away, wherever.
    3. A new wallet or belt (I am also a fan of leather products).
    4. Is he techy? I know my FI LOVES getting techy accessories for his various iProducts.
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  • blabla89blabla89 member
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    lolo883 said:
    What the heck, FMIL?! I'd be more pissed at her than at him. She should have known better.

    Yeah, he could have kept it to himself... but would you be any happier with a fake reaction? You probably would have seen right through it and still been upset that he didn't tell you he knew.

    I would honestly still keep the gift though. It's still thoughtful and awesome even if it's not a surprise. Or maybe make FMIL buy it from you and give it to him since she spoiled it.
    Actually, that part is on me...which is the most frustrating part of it. I sent the email while I was up late working and completely forgot that it was in the same email string :(
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    I would just give him what you already got him, especially if he is hard to shop for.


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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    blabla89 said:
    lolo883 said:
    What the heck, FMIL?! I'd be more pissed at her than at him. She should have known better.

    Yeah, he could have kept it to himself... but would you be any happier with a fake reaction? You probably would have seen right through it and still been upset that he didn't tell you he knew.

    I would honestly still keep the gift though. It's still thoughtful and awesome even if it's not a surprise. Or maybe make FMIL buy it from you and give it to him since she spoiled it.
    Actually, that part is on me...which is the most frustrating part of it. I sent the email while I was up late working and completely forgot that it was in the same email string :(
    Ohhhh. :( Sorry, that sucks.

    Maybe you could tell him you returned it, and get him something stupid like a <banana slicer> and some gym socks, then give him the real thing.
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  • loro929loro929 member
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    Ha I like @lolo883 's idea!
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  • flyingfoxesflyingfoxes member
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    Yep, give him what you already got him.  Don't stress yourself out about it too much.
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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    I spoil my presents all the time, but I'm still excited to get them. It doesn't have to be a surprise to make him happy.
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  • hellosweetie1015hellosweetie1015 member
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    FI spoiled his birthday present not too long ago out of the wild blue yonder. 

    He's still getting the damn spiderman sunshade. He may also get beer if I can drag him into the beer store before his birthday.
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  • LittlePeachBlossomLittlePeachBlossom member
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    Stick with the same gift. He may be disappointed if he doesn't get it now that he's expecting it. I'd maybe add an extra little surprise gift to it. 
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