I posted a few months ago asking if I should chip in to pay for my own engagement ring. I wanted a Neil Lane ring that was slightly over 6,000$. Fiancé only wanted to pay 3,000$. Going by the advice I was given here, we went to a local jeweler who told us he could make it for 3,400$, and include warranty, cleanings, etc. I LOVE this ring. I've looked at others but this is really what I want.
Tonight after discussing buying the ring, Fiancé informs me that 3,000$ is ridiculous to pay for a ring, a ring has no value in the event of an emergency, and he thinks we should shoot for something under a 1,000$
what. the hell????
Our relationship has been better than ever. He makes plenty of money, he has money saved up. I told him he had no problem buying his ex wife a 5,000$ ring (which she kept). He said yes, he very much regrets wasting 5,000$ on a ring. He said 3,000$ could be used for clothes, or whatever else I want or need. I pointed out that he has no problem spending 2,000$ on taking his daughter from his previous marriage to Disneyland (and she has been asking him to take her to Disneyworld, which he thinks is a great idea). He responded that was for making memories with her. I also told him he has had no problem in the past spending thousands on guns, a jet ski and what he is currently wanting, a truck. He tells me that we needs guns in the event of WW3 breaking out (okay), a jet ski in case it floods and also for his one stress release (uhhh) and he needs money for a good truck because he needs to haul trailors and wood. . He told me a diamond really isn't useful, it is a rock and holds no value except what we deem it.
To an extent, I see his point and agree with him. HOWEVER I am upset bc I feel like
1. I don't ask him for jack. I never ask for presents. I DONT want a fancy wedding, I just want to go to the courthouse. This will SAVE money. I have always just wanted a really, really nice ring.
2. I feel like he pulled a bait and switch
3. I am once again reminded and irritated that he has an ex wife. It never bothered me when we were just dating, but now situations like this come up where he had no problem doing it once, before with her. However now he wont/cant.
So what should we do? The jeweler gave us this great offer, and said he would give us 24hrs to think about it. He REALLY bought the price down and gave us a deal. Fiance agrees it's great deal. He just doesn't want to spend the money. I have no idea how to feel or what to do.