What's the story with the Nest?

themosthappy91

So since my wedding is coming up and I'm pretty much done with the planning, the past week or so I've started venturing over to lurk on the Nest, just sort of out of curiosity of what the next "step" is.  Though I initially had a lot of fun reading all the drama on the Trouble in Paradise thread, I'm starting to get the impression the boards over there are really dead!  Do y'all think that's really the case, or do I just have bad timing/not looking in the right boards?  It just seems nowhere near as active as over here!

lovesclimbing

I go on there once in awhile, but I have found the exact same problem, it seems very dead.

And the only ones that seem to be decently busy are ones I don't really care for, like Trouble in Paradise. 

I wanted to go on the cooking board, but well over half the threads were the same two or three people making a new thread every. single. time. they made a new blog post.  It was so annoying. If someone wants to read your every single blog post, they will add you to an RSS feed or follow your blog.  Make one thread and post updates in that.

The last time I checked a couple months ago, it seemed like they had stopped doing that, thank goodness.  But I still don't over there.

WinstonsGirl

A long time ago, before most of you were engaged, the Nest was a happening place.  Then the Knot/Nest Gods went crazy and brought in a bunch or stuff that everyone hated (don't ask me what, cos I wasn't there, I was only on TK, but I think it was not being allowed to swear, etc.) and everyone bailed to Proboards GBCN (Goodbye Cruel Nest).  TN has never recovered, unlike TK, probably since there's always an influx of new wedding people.  And once everyone sees how dead it is on TN, they move on to other sites, or to become crazy Bumpies.    

ETA - Or, the cool kids stay here.  

hellohkb

Every time I have gone on TK it has been so dead. Except the politics board, but most people of the politics posters and I probably wouldn't agree on much anyhow.

paperpusher

I too lurked on TN for a little while. But found it so dead that I came back to TK. I tried looking at multiple boards, but nothing interesting was happening. Here I really only have time for Chit Chat with how busy it is.

doeydo

I feel like it is sectioned off to these sections so I would never post on it unless you have a kind of specific topic to talk or ask about.  

raissyrais

Yep TN has been dead since the incident explained by by WinstonsGirl. I lurked from time to time when I first got on TK, and in those almost three years, TN hasn't been really active. 

cupcait927

The only board I ever go on over at TN is Money Matters. Those women are awesome and incredibly supportive.

jenna8984

Wecan all promise to go over there together and make it a happening place?! Oooooooor we can just stay and do it here forever, I'm happy either way!

kmmssg

The cooking board used to be incredible.  Many bloggers and professionals.  They decided they needed their own place somewhere else (I don't think that was linked to everyone else leaving) and it was invitation only.

Yeah - the nest and the knot used to have a lot more movement than they do now, but what can you do...

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

I lurk a lot.  Mostly now it's just "Trouble in Paradise" and "Getting Pregnant" that seem moderately active.  I get annoyed with the TIP board because sometimes I feel like Tarpy dissects every single word before moving on.  Multiple times.

themosthappy91

Huh that's actually pretty disappointing... not that I don't like all you ladies over here, I just don't think I could sustain longterm interest in talking about wedding stuff!  

Is the Bump really as crazy as everyone makes it sound?  I'm a good five years away from wanting to have kids so I've never really looked into it, but it'd be good to kno

theartistformerlyknownas

themosthappy91 said:

Huh that's actually pretty disappointing... not that I don't like all you ladies over here, I just don't think I could sustain longterm interest in talking about wedding stuff!  

Is the Bump really as crazy as everyone makes it sound?  I'm a good five years away from wanting to have kids so I've never really looked into it, but it'd be good to kno

YES. It's terrifying. 

Stay here, we're supportive!

MommyKristin88

lolo883 said:

themosthappy91 said:

Huh that's actually pretty disappointing... not that I don't like all you ladies over here, I just don't think I could sustain longterm interest in talking about wedding stuff!  

Is the Bump really as crazy as everyone makes it sound?  I'm a good five years away from wanting to have kids so I've never really looked into it, but it'd be good to kno

YES. It's terrifying. 

Stay here, we're supportive!

Haha I'm from TB. I just started coming on here. The bump is like The Real World, mixed with high school, and raging hormones.Some boards are better than others.

emmyg65

Nah, The Bump isn't that bad. Well, not all of it. It definitely varies board to board, much more so than The Knot. Some of it is awesome and some of it is absolutely batshit.

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goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

I just don't get The Bump.  I mean, I can't get a clean vibe off a board and if I'll fit in or not.  I lurk there too and I am scared of them.

larrygaga

Okay so I picked a thread at random

http://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12467975/sister-is-pregnant-she-let-me-find-out-in-a-horrible-way-serious-vent

And I'm confused. She is mad her sister didnt bring up her pregnancy while her dad was dying? Does the poster care her dad died? The poster is mad the sister posted about the pregnancy on FB? 

Imma just stay here at the knot

climbingsingle

Yeah, I'm staying here. 

holyguacamole79

@larrygaga, that story is frustrating.  I think the OP is justified in her feelings.  I think the passing of her father compounds the feelings.  I get the feeling that she felt "kicked when she was down".  But then again, this is also coming from a woman dealing with fertility issues.

ohmrs2014

I post on the Getting Pregnant board because thats our next step and those women are awesome.

But not as awesome as you ladies.

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

ohmrs2014 said:

I post on the Getting Pregnant board because thats our next step and those women are awesome.

But not as awesome as you ladies.

themosthappy91

holyguacamole79 said:

@larrygaga, that story is frustrating.  I think the OP is justified in her feelings.  I think the passing of her father compounds the feelings.  I get the feeling that she felt "kicked when she was down".  But then again, this is also coming from a woman dealing with fertility issues.

Yeah, that thread was from the Trouble Trying To Conceive board I believe, which, from the little bit I've looked around over there seems VERY sensitive- and I'm not saying that as a criticism, honestly if I were in that position I would want that kind of sensitivity.  Like they put in the title of all their posts if they even mention a child.  That's one of the boards that, though obviously I hope I would never need to post there, I can see the helpfulness of it much more so than boards arguing over if you should give your child fruit snacks.  

holyguacamole79

themosthappy91 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

@larrygaga, that story is frustrating.  I think the OP is justified in her feelings.  I think the passing of her father compounds the feelings.  I get the feeling that she felt "kicked when she was down".  But then again, this is also coming from a woman dealing with fertility issues.

Yeah, that thread was from the Trouble Trying To Conceive board I believe, which, from the little bit I've looked around over there seems VERY sensitive- and I'm not saying that as a criticism, honestly if I were in that position I would want that kind of sensitivity.  Like they put in the title of all their posts if they even mention a child.  That's one of the boards that, though obviously I hope I would never need to post there, I can see the helpfulness of it much more so than boards arguing over if you should give your child fruit snacks.  

Yeah.  I'm actually a part of an NFP group on Facebook.  There are people in that group that are TTA as well as TTC.  The TTC women / women with fertility issues claim they are "marginalized" because the majority of people express frustrations about TTA.  It's quite the drama.  Add hormones to the mix, and it's a jolly good time. 

larrygaga

I see what she is upset about now!!! I thought she was just mad her sister didn't tell her.

destinationtake2

kmmssg said:

The cooking board used to be incredible.  Many bloggers and professionals.  They decided they needed their own place somewhere else (I don't think that was linked to everyone else leaving) and it was invitation only.

Yeah - the nest and the knot used to have a lot more movement than they do now, but what can you do...

I was a regular on the Cooking Board for years and it WAS incredible. I "met" some amazing ladies and some of the most popular bloggers that I see today on Pinterest, FB, etc. on that board. I went to the invite only board as well but eventually left because it wasn't quite the same.

It's funny reading this thread because I am an oldie and was here when they started The Nest and all of the "old marrieds" were like "You want us to go WHERE?" LOL But then a ton of us went as the day came when we finally did get just a wee bit tired of wedding talk. And it was great for quite some time. Oh well.

holyguacamole79

larrygaga said:

I see what she is upset about now!!! I thought she was just mad her sister didn't tell her.

If I found out about my sisters pregnancy that way, I'd be pissed, too.

paperpusher

holyguacamole79 said:

themosthappy91 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

@larrygaga, that story is frustrating.  I think the OP is justified in her feelings.  I think the passing of her father compounds the feelings.  I get the feeling that she felt "kicked when she was down".  But then again, this is also coming from a woman dealing with fertility issues.

Yeah, that thread was from the Trouble Trying To Conceive board I believe, which, from the little bit I've looked around over there seems VERY sensitive- and I'm not saying that as a criticism, honestly if I were in that position I would want that kind of sensitivity.  Like they put in the title of all their posts if they even mention a child.  That's one of the boards that, though obviously I hope I would never need to post there, I can see the helpfulness of it much more so than boards arguing over if you should give your child fruit snacks.  

Yeah.  I'm actually a part of an NFP group on Facebook.  There are people in that group that are TTA as well as TTC.  The TTC women / women with fertility issues claim they are "marginalized" because the majority of people express frustrations about TTA.  It's quite the drama.  Add hormones to the mix, and it's a jolly good time. 

What is TTA?  TTC is trying to conceive right?

holyguacamole79

paperpusher said:

holyguacamole79 said:

themosthappy91 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

@larrygaga, that story is frustrating.  I think the OP is justified in her feelings.  I think the passing of her father compounds the feelings.  I get the feeling that she felt "kicked when she was down".  But then again, this is also coming from a woman dealing with fertility issues.

Yeah, that thread was from the Trouble Trying To Conceive board I believe, which, from the little bit I've looked around over there seems VERY sensitive- and I'm not saying that as a criticism, honestly if I were in that position I would want that kind of sensitivity.  Like they put in the title of all their posts if they even mention a child.  That's one of the boards that, though obviously I hope I would never need to post there, I can see the helpfulness of it much more so than boards arguing over if you should give your child fruit snacks.  

Yeah.  I'm actually a part of an NFP group on Facebook.  There are people in that group that are TTA as well as TTC.  The TTC women / women with fertility issues claim they are "marginalized" because the majority of people express frustrations about TTA.  It's quite the drama.  Add hormones to the mix, and it's a jolly good time. 



What is TTA?  TTC is trying to conceive right?


Yeah. TTA is trying to avoid (pregnancy)

larrygaga

holyguacamole79 My guess is trying to adopt 

hellohkb

I think the birth month forums are the scariest. They are rabid, I am convinced. I lurked in Attachment Parenting and it was very tame.