How do you guys handle rude, off the cuff comments?
Tonight, a couple of friends came over to play some board games, and since they're in the wedding party, they were asking some questions about what to wear, when to order, etc. Somehow my wedding dress was brought up, and I made a comment about how it wasn't white. My friend N asked me what color it was, and I said off white and kind of laughed awkwardly since FI was there and I didn't want to divulge too much information. N then says, "Oh haha, I guess that makes sense. It's not like you're fooling anyone-- you're clearly not a virgin," and then she laughed like it was a funny joke. I was in shock, so all I said was, "Well, actually, it's because white doesn't look that great with my skin tone. It washes me out." and then I kinda laughed awkwardly and changed the subject.
Knowing this person, I don't think she meant it as an insult. I think she just opened her mouth and said it without thinking. BUT OH MY GOD WTF! I was raging for a while internally. I was so offended.
So, how do you guys handle that sort of thing? Has anyone said anything like that to any of you before?