Tuesday Chat

lavenderfields13

speakeasy14 said:

@lmcooper86 start saying you're at maximum capacity and cannot add anyone else

this! I wouldn't let anyone add more people. Not sure if you're giving singles plus ones and they're included in the total but if you're not then I'd definitely want to leave some space in case those people get a SO before the wedding and then you need to invite them too! You just never know what will happen so I'd be freaking out too.

eilis1228

I'm TKing under the influence, so I apologize if I'm a little loopy or don't make sense. I worked a half day from home on just heavy-duty ibuprofen, but I think I overdid it by talking during meetings and eating bigger bites of my soft foods because by mid-day my mouth was throbbing. I took some ultracet (the narcotic painkiller I was prescribed) and have been relaxing around the house. I'm doing my best not to fall asleep on this stuff-- I'm tired of sleeping all the time and want to get some stuff done around the house. It smells because we've neglected all housework since the procedure on Saturday. :-\

Tonight I have a meeting with the wedding venue as well. We have an entourage coming... me, FI, FMIL, MOH, and MOH's mom (my aunt) since my mom isn't able to make it. FI made a very thorough list of questions for tonight, so even if I'm loopy, he'll be able to take over the meeting. Should be interesting.

I've also learned that mac n cheese does not reheat well.

I'm crossing my fingers that I can get by on just the heavy duty ibuprofen tomorrow. Based on how I do tonight, I may actually go into the office tomorrow. We'll see. FI said he's going to make me a bunch of smoothies tonight, so I may be 100% liquid only tomorrow. Lame.

Tomorrow I will do my best to be more interactive! I promise I'm reading everything! 

KeptInStitches

@lmcooper86 - good luck with the DJs.

@speakeasy14 - gorgeous vacation photos!

@goldenpenguin - yay for STDs!

@cocobellaf, he's adorable!

@hummingbird125, hugs over the guest list.

@futuremrshistorian, general hugs. I hope life settles down soon for you and Mr. Historian.

@clogreeneyes, that was an awesome MNF game! I'm jealous that you got to go to the bar to watch!

@phira, sorry Colorado wasn't relaxing.

@eilis1228, get well soon!

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I'm down to knitting dishcloths for the show! I knocked out 2 (9"x9") last night, which isn't bad for not having the pattern in my hands. I also need to tag my items and get all the ends worked in. FI's week is busy now so he might not get his required day off this week. He can take 2 next week without any trouble, though.

FI called the reception venue yesterday and left a message with a new person to try to arrange a tasting. We can' t go anywhere else because of the size of our guest list, so we're really kind of over a barrel and it would be nice if they would work with us. Cross your fingers that this time we'll find a cooperative human being. Ugh. We've been trying to get ahold of them for 4 weeks now.

AlPacina

Sorry I'm so late to this! I read everything a few hours ago, pressed "Love It" a few times, and then had to go to an all morning meeting. So boring. Anyways, here goes.

@lmcooper86 - Yay for getting rid of the crack head! Jeezy kreezy, I couldn't believe the balls on that guy.

@speakeasy14 - Wow, that looks beautiful. The Belhurst looks amazing! Were the rooms as cool as the outside?

@CocoBellaF - That head tilt picture is breaking my heart! Boxers are such freakin sweethearts. I don't blame you for wanting another dog. It has taken a lot of self-control for me to stop obsessing on shelter websites since I finally got my pup. I know I couldn't handle a second dog right now, but I keep asking myself "Well, wouldn't he like to have some company during the day?"........"Some day, Al. Just not today. Some day."

@futuremrshistorian - Did you end up getting surprised on your birthday? I don't remember seeing anything about it.......

@minskat30 - You can make pasta-roni/rice-a-roni in the microwave! Just use pyrex, because I melted a plastic bowl once doing that. I know it's not the healthiest option, but you're cooking in a microwave.

@phira - I have a sister like that. Luckily, she just had twins, so there was a year of her showing off her giant belly, and now showing off the babies. Unfortunately the novelty is starting to wear off, and she's turning into the queen of "Listen to me whine, my life is so full of drama" again... Lady, quit begging for attention and take care of your damn kids.

@LaPeanut1018 - 400 e-mails?!? Gross. I'm so glaed I'm not importnat enough to get that many e-mails yet.

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Life isn't that exciting today. I bought my sister a beautiful necklace at JC Penney yesterday for her birthday, and there was almost no one in line at the post office, so that was a miracle and I got it sent off.

Slept on my neck a little wrong, so it's mad at me. It was hurting most of the night, so I couldn't get comfortable, and alas, I am exhausted today.

Those are LITERALLY the two most exciting things that happened between yesterday's post and today, haha. My life is just................so cool.

lavenderfields13

@keptinstiches that does not sound good about not being able to contact your venue! have you already booked with them? that would make me really anxious.

speakeasy14

@keptinstiches Have you already booked this venue and they're unreachable? 

AlPacina the room we stayed in was amazing, minus the bad carpet.  The original side is the "castle" and is from the 1800s (from pictures of the rooms, I determined not worth the price because they looked really outdated, and the wallpaper gave me bad chills).  The side we stayed on was recently added to the castle. All the rooms on this side have a jacuzzi and fireplace.  Oh and the view of the lake was phenomenal. I think all the rooms have a lake view. But because the castle side is a historic building it was fun to explore. I would definitely stay there again.  

KeptInStitches

@lavenderfields13, we have already booked and they have our deposit. We're really in trouble - I want to go there in person, but FI is more patient and is repeatedly reminding me that we have just under 6 months to the wedding.

GoldenPenguin

KeptInStitches said:

@lmcooper86 - good luck with the DJs.

@speakeasy14 - gorgeous vacation photos!

@goldenpenguin - yay for STDs!

@cocobellaf, he's adorable!

@hummingbird125, hugs over the guest list.

@futuremrshistorian, general hugs. I hope life settles down soon for you and Mr. Historian.

@clogreeneyes, that was an awesome MNF game! I'm jealous that you got to go to the bar to watch!

@phira, sorry Colorado wasn't relaxing.

@eilis1228, get well soon!

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I'm down to knitting dishcloths for the show! I knocked out 2 (9"x9") last night, which isn't bad for not having the pattern in my hands. I also need to tag my items and get all the ends worked in. FI's week is busy now so he might not get his required day off this week. He can take 2 next week without any trouble, though.

FI called the reception venue yesterday and left a message with a new person to try to arrange a tasting. We can' t go anywhere else because of the size of our guest list, so we're really kind of over a barrel and it would be nice if they would work with us. Cross your fingers that this time we'll find a cooperative human being. Ugh. We've been trying to get ahold of them for 4 weeks now.

Welcome to The Knot - where congratulating people on their STDs is a GOOD thing!

I'll show the final versions off on here once they're out - I don't want to ruin anyone's surprise!!

speakeasy14

KeptInStitches said:

@lavenderfields13, we have already booked and they have our deposit. We're really in trouble - I want to go there in person, but FI is more patient and is repeatedly reminding me that we have just under 6 months to the wedding.

Give them until the end of the week, if there is still no response, go in person. I've had to do that with venues I use for work; it sucks, but they are working for you and need to comply. 

phira

@alpacina Ugh so glad someone else understands! It's just such a pain; either things are going great with her and it's annoying, or things are going not-so-great with her and it's annoying. Fun times.

@eilis1228 Lady, please tell your mouth that it needs to calm the hell down! Eesh

WildMagelet

@speakeasy14 - That resort is gorgeous!

@Dignity100 - I can understand the house vs home thing.  When I moved in with BF into his old house 7 years ago it definitely felt like "his house" and my stuff we just kind of in it.  It wasn't until we moved into our new home a few years ago that it really felt like "ours."

@southernpeach89 - That looks yummy!  I bet even BF would like it.  (He's not a fish person, but he is a hot sauce person!)

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I'm currently shopping around for a new car.  FSD turns 16 next month and is determined to get immediately drive something of her own.  We haven't decided if we're gifting her an existing vehicle or just pitching in (she currently has a "deal" worked out with her dad & grandpa about matching her savings), but somehow its also turned into me looking for a new-to-me sedan and BF wanting to trade in his SUV & sedan for a truck.  Unfortunately its sort of stressing me out ;(  - P.S. Why are leather seats in a sedan so hard to FIND.

Onnnnnn a happier note, BF & I have finally talked out all of the major "hurdles" that we had that were keeping us from getting married.  (Apparently I just need to go away to training for a week more often.)  We're supposed to talk about timelines sometime in the next week or so.  I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders.

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@KeptinStiches, thanks!  And @AlPacina, no, I didn't...but I was right!  He told me last night that he had hoped to surprise me that weekend...before they called his team back for something about which he couldn't tell me (because...shocker...it's classified).  So, I guess "he tried" is good enough.  He never tells me when he's going to surprise me because something like that could happen...which, since I'm feeling more optimistic tonight, makes the times he does manage it pretty damn special.

I'm feeling a lot better tonight, at least about that.  I took a good half hour earlier and did a job search for jobs in the States (or at least in foreign countries that are relatively safe and where I could go too!) and sent them to him.  He mentioned during our talk last night really wanting to be closer to his parents/sisters and his kids (and me, of course, although because he spent most of that part of the conversation talking about how much he misses his kids, the BSC part of my brain heard "I just want to come home to spend all my time with my kids, screw you"...which is TOTALLY NOT TRUE but like I said...BSC part of my brain).  Hopefully something will come of that and he can come home to stay.

Sidenote: I love his kids, and the relationship he has with them.  I don't feel any animosity towards them at all; last night my brain was just a little...nuts.

Edited: Words are hard.

lmcooper86

@speakeasy14 and @lavenderfields13 - I asked FI to talk to his mom and make it very clear that this is where our numbers are and that we can't (read: absolutely will not) add any more people. She said these are the last ones.

Our current numbers include plus ones for friends who are currently truly single, plus a few people that we aren't 100% sure we're going to invite. FI's parents are very confident that a bunch of people won't come (please explain to me why we're even inviting them…) but I refuse to invite more people than we have space for. Not happening.

To be fair, his parents ARE contributing a large part of our budget so they obviously do get a say in the guest list. But they gave us a substantial list already, so adding anyone else isn't really an option. FI's been reminding them that every person we (they) add will up the costs for food and drink, centrepieces for additional tables, invites and other paper, etc etc. I don't want there to be any surprises when we have to start paying balances!