Women Against Feminism.

beethery

pinkrevenge said:

UGH.

The "Why isn't is Humanism or Equalism" bullshit. Don't get me started.
I also really need this mug in my life.

oh shiiiiiit, well now I know what I want as a stocking stuffer this year.

VulgarGirl

kat1114 said:

I really hope this tumblr is just trolling because I refuse to believe people are this dumb. Example: "I don't need feminism because we are all human and we should all be equal."

When I was in high school touting my "I'm a feminist" ways, I was told many times by other girls that they weren't feminists because they believed in equality between men and women and also they like to shave their legs.

I never tried to sleep with those girls. I don't do stupid.

KatieinBkln

An antidote? Or at least something awesome: www.the-toast.net 

theartistformerlyknownas

Ughhhh further proof we need feminism:

Boys pirate costume, child to tween:

Girls pirate costume, child to tween:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lindsay-ferrier/heres-proof-that-tween-girl-halloween-costumes-are-way-too-sexed-up_b_6062460.html

amelisha

I can't even type a reply to this, it's so dumb.

Any(woman) who thinks she's against feminism doesn't understand what feminism is. Period.

KatieinBkln

lolo883 said:

Ughhhh further proof we need feminism:

Boys pirate costume, child to tween:

Girls pirate costume, child to tween:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lindsay-ferrier/heres-proof-that-tween-girl-halloween-costumes-are-way-too-sexed-up_b_6062460.html

Tween?

TWEEN?

ARE YOU KIDDING ME WHY ARE WE SEXUALIZING CHILDREN FUCK!

levioosa

I can't choose between this gif: 



and this meme:

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theartistformerlyknownas

KatieinBkln said: lolo883 said: Ughhhh further proof we need feminism:
Boys pirate costume, child to tween:

Girls pirate costume, child to tween:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lindsay-ferrier/heres-proof-that-tween-girl-halloween-costumes-are-way-too-sexed-up_b_6062460.html
Tween?


TWEEN?

ARE YOU KIDDING ME WHY ARE WE SEXUALIZING CHILDREN FUCK! Yeah. Those aren't even the TEEN costumes, they're made for TEN YEAR OLDS. Ten year old children. Furthermore, it's only the ten year old girls who are made to look like sex slaves. The boys still look like regular children.

slothiegal

I'm near TEARS that link made me so angry.  I can't even form coherent thoughts/arguments/words to say other than FUCK.  YOU.

In middle school, I found an old sweatshirt of my mom's; it had the quote "Feminism is the radical notion that women are people" across the front.  I decided I wanted to wear it to school one day.  I distinctly remember my social studies teacher (I can picture him to this day) laughing at me and telling me how ridiculous my shirt was.  I went home that day and told Momma Slothie.  She pondered this for a moment, then looked me in the  eye.

"Slothiegal, do you like that shirt?"

"Yes."

"And you know what it means?"
"Yes."
"Well then, you wear it every fucking day if you want and I'll take care of the rest."

At some point, she went in to the school to talk to him.  He seemed a little bit scared of me from then on out and never, ever said another word about my shirt.

Mind you, this is the same teacher who chaperoned a trip to DC when I was in 8th grade and didn't bat an eye when, at our meet up place, boys showed up with bags from Victoria's Secret with bras they had bought for the "hot" girl on the trip.  He thought that was just so cute.

hellohkb

I belong to several feminist groups, so posts from this tumblr blog has been shared fairly often. Each one made me facepalm so hard. I don't get this phenomenon. I don't get women who eschew feminism all while reaping the many benefits. Working/choosing to stay home, voting, being on the internet, going to school, owning land, driving, having the right to choose to have kids/choose not to have them... Those were given to us by feminists before us. These were things people have fought so hard for.

Susan B. Anthony and Co. are spinning in their graves.

Sugargirl1019

lulu411 said:

I DO need feminism because when a 6 year old child I worked with told another child in his class that if she didn't stop (whatever she was doing) he was going to shove his d*ck down her throat, and the teacher met with the kid's parents, Dad says, "That's my boy. Putting a woman in her place" while the mother sat there quietly the entire time. 

I almost lost my job that day. 

And this is why dirt bag sleazy douchbag cat calling harassers exist.

esstee33

slothiegal said:

I'm near TEARS that link made me so angry.  I can't even form coherent thoughts/arguments/words to say other than FUCK.  YOU.

In middle school, I found an old sweatshirt of my mom's; it had the quote "Feminism is the radical notion that women are people" across the front.  I decided I wanted to wear it to school one day.  I distinctly remember my social studies teacher (I can picture him to this day) laughing at me and telling me how ridiculous my shirt was.  I went home that day and told Momma Slothie.  She pondered this for a moment, then looked me in the  eye.

"Slothiegal, do you like that shirt?"

"Yes."

"And you know what it means?"
"Yes."
"Well then, you wear it every fucking day if you want and I'll take care of the rest."

At some point, she went in to the school to talk to him.  He seemed a little bit scared of me from then on out and never, ever said another word about my shirt.

Mind you, this is the same teacher who chaperoned a trip to DC when I was in 8th grade and didn't bat an eye when, at our meet up place, boys showed up with bags from Victoria's Secret with bras they had bought for the "hot" girl on the trip.  He thought that was just so cute.

I love your mom. 

Something happened to my mom along the way and she went all wrong. She was cool like this when I was a kid and teenager, making sure to teach me to stand up for myself and that I was worthwhile, smart, and capable with or without a man. Then in the past 10 years or so she's gone... wrong. I stopped speaking to her after she agreed with my sister and sister's then-FI who told my then-boyfriend to hold me down and rape me until I learned my place and learned not to "talk back," after he overheard then-BF and I having an intellectual discussion bordering on debate about something. My mom said I shouldn't expect an apology because I was "probably asking for it." 

That's why I need feminism. 

I don't understand how that teacher still had a job after the Victoria's Secret horseshit. That is so beyond inappropriate to allow at all, let alone encourage.

princessofgenovia

I thought of my own reasons against feminism.

I don't need feminism because when I was 8 years old and a 12 year old boy grabbed my breasts on the playground and said he wanted to titty fuck me, it really was my own fault for growing breasts so young. I should've kept my mouth shut, he got kicked out of school for it, that was my fault.

I don't need feminism because when I was 12 years old I received first place in the science fair, I was told that girls don't belong and I made the second place boy feel bad. I should have done worse so he coudl feel better.

I don't need feminism because when I was 15 I won a DECA competition and was told women don't belong in the kitchen, the boy who came in 3rd was made he lost to a girl, he didn't care about the boy that was in 2nd ahead of him, just the girl in first. I should've done worse so he wouldn't loose to a girl.

I don't need feminism because when I was raped at 17 it really was my fault. I was a sexually active girl who went to party with alcohol. I was asking for it. I shouldn't have accused the boy of raping me. He wasn't punished, but his girlfriend broke up with him. 

I don't need feminism because I didn't really need to have the right to choose to terminate the resulting pregnancy from the aforementioned rape.

I don't need feminism because it really is ok that I know a guy who does my exact same job and makes $30,000 more a year then I do. Even though I have a masters and he barely finished college, even though I graduated in the top 10% of my college class, even though I have more experience. It's ok that he makes more then me. He has to take care of a woman probably.

I don't need feminism because I'm ok with people implying that I'm marrying FI just so he'll pay the bills because clearly all my education was just to earn an MRS degree.

I don't need feminism because as a woman I know I don't deserve the same amount of respect that a man does. God made Eve from Adam's rib after all...to support Adam. Not to stand one her own two feet. 

These girls are fucking idiots. 

theartistformerlyknownas

I stopped speaking to her after she agreed with my sister and sister's then-FI who told my then-boyfriend to hold me down and rape me until I learned my place and learned not to "talk back," after he overheard then-BF and I having an intellectual discussion bordering on debate about something. My mom said I shouldn't expect an apology because I was "probably asking for it."

WHAT.

slothiegal

esstee33 said:

slothiegal said:

I'm near TEARS that link made me so angry.  I can't even form coherent thoughts/arguments/words to say other than FUCK.  YOU.

In middle school, I found an old sweatshirt of my mom's; it had the quote "Feminism is the radical notion that women are people" across the front.  I decided I wanted to wear it to school one day.  I distinctly remember my social studies teacher (I can picture him to this day) laughing at me and telling me how ridiculous my shirt was.  I went home that day and told Momma Slothie.  She pondered this for a moment, then looked me in the  eye.

"Slothiegal, do you like that shirt?"

"Yes."

"And you know what it means?"
"Yes."
"Well then, you wear it every fucking day if you want and I'll take care of the rest."

At some point, she went in to the school to talk to him.  He seemed a little bit scared of me from then on out and never, ever said another word about my shirt.

Mind you, this is the same teacher who chaperoned a trip to DC when I was in 8th grade and didn't bat an eye when, at our meet up place, boys showed up with bags from Victoria's Secret with bras they had bought for the "hot" girl on the trip.  He thought that was just so cute.

I love your mom. 

Something happened to my mom along the way and she went all wrong. She was cool like this when I was a kid and teenager, making sure to teach me to stand up for myself and that I was worthwhile, smart, and capable with or without a man. Then in the past 10 years or so she's gone... wrong. I stopped speaking to her after she agreed with my sister and sister's then-FI who told my then-boyfriend to hold me down and rape me until I learned my place and learned not to "talk back," after he overheard then-BF and I having an intellectual discussion bordering on debate about something. My mom said I shouldn't expect an apology because I was "probably asking for it." 

That's why I need feminism. 

I don't understand how that teacher still had a job after the Victoria's Secret horseshit. That is so beyond inappropriate to allow at all, let alone encourage.

Holy.  Fucking.  Shit.  I'm so glad you have a good head on your shoulders to not believe that BULLSHIT.

My ex told me I "probably had it coming" after I confided in him I had been raped.  I stayed with him waaaaay too long after that (because unfortunatenly, I did not have a good head on my shoulders during that period of my life).  I don't know what I would do if my mother said something along those lines.  

kat1114

All these stories make me so sad and angry at the same time.

esstee33

Yup. But she taught me all those things about standing up for myself because I'm worth it, so I cut her and my sister out of my life. They've spent the past two years since this happened trashing my reputation among the rest of the family, who all believe I'm making everything up, so I don't speak to any of them anymore. She sends me random guilt-trip cards periodically and I just don't respond. 

Last year was the best. She sent me a random box of presents in between my birthday (12/15) and Christmas with no card, so I'm not sure if they were birthday presents or Christmas or both. Half of it was clothes that *might've* fit me when I was 14, but even then not so much. We're talking large children's sizes or small juniors at best. One of those is a pair of hot pink leopard print sleeping shorts which FI thinks are hilarious because they literally cover half my butt cheeks. He loves when I wear those. Also included: a Twilight keepsake journal (she knows I absolutely despise the Twilight series), a one-cup coffee maker I'm positive she pulled out of a dumpster (no, really, she dumpster dives for gifts often), nevermind that she knows I have a Keurig, and a bunch of weird feather hair clips. 

Ironically and sadly, the BF they told to rape me did eventually sexually assault me. But I'm smart enough to know I wasn't asking for it and he's a fucking slimeball. 

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slothiegal

esstee33 said:

Yup. But she taught me all those things about standing up for myself because I'm worth it, so I cut her and my sister out of my life. They've spent the past two years since this happened trashing my reputation among the rest of the family, who all believe I'm making everything up, so I don't speak to any of them anymore. She sends me random guilt-trip cards periodically and I just don't respond. 

Last year was the best. She sent me a random box of presents in between my birthday (12/15) and Christmas with no card, so I'm not sure if they were birthday presents or Christmas or both. Half of it was clothes that *might've* fit me when I was 14, but even then not so much. We're talking large children's sizes or small juniors at best. One of those is a pair of hot pink leopard print sleeping shorts which FI thinks are hilarious because they literally cover half my butt cheeks. He loves when I wear those. Also included: a Twilight keepsake journal (she knows I absolutely despise the Twilight series), a one-cup coffee maker I'm positive she pulled out of a dumpster (no, really, she dumpster dives for gifts often), nevermind that she knows I have a Keurig, and a bunch of weird feather hair clips. 

Ironically and sadly, the BF they told to rape me did eventually sexually assault me. But I'm smart enough to know I wasn't asking for it and he's a fucking slimeball. 

Is there something that happened that caused such a dramatic shift in behavior?  (Sorry if I'm being nosy, please feel free to tell me to shut up or bean dip me away.)  

southernbelle0915

Shame on these girls.

They are standing on the shoulders of giants. And instead of respecting the blood, sweat, and tears that have gone into the fight for equal rights for women, they are basically saying "I don't want to be considered equal to a man." Fucking idiots. Take a god damn history lesson. 

princessofgenovia

pinkrevenge said:

My high school bf said he didn't want to date a crazy feminist. I said "Really? Because you're making out with one. Got my feminist cooties".

He was totally taken aback. You mean feminists wear bras and can like boys????

Another time, when I said I didn't want kids, he chuckled and said "You'll change your mind. All women want kids."

And with that I went to sit in the passenger seat of the car and said "Well, I'm done. You can take me home now. And not touch me. No, we're done here."

He was a decent kid, but his mom told him a lot of poisonous shit, and it's a big reason why he can't keep a girlfriend.

I once had a guy tell me he'd never fucked a feminist because feminists didn't like to have sex with men. And I was about to fuck him! Like the shirt was off the bra was gone, he was gonna get some. He said that and my legs closed right up, I got dressed and said "No, you've never fucked a feminist because when one is laying in your bed trying to fuck you, you say dumb shit like that", he told everyone I was an uptight prude who wouldn't let him do anything.

beethery

esstee33 said:

Yup. But she taught me all those things about standing up for myself because I'm worth it, so I cut her and my sister out of my life. They've spent the past two years since this happened trashing my reputation among the rest of the family, who all believe I'm making everything up, so I don't speak to any of them anymore. She sends me random guilt-trip cards periodically and I just don't respond. 

Last year was the best. She sent me a random box of presents in between my birthday (12/15) and Christmas with no card, so I'm not sure if they were birthday presents or Christmas or both. Half of it was clothes that *might've* fit me when I was 14, but even then not so much. We're talking large children's sizes or small juniors at best. One of those is a pair of hot pink leopard print sleeping shorts which FI thinks are hilarious because they literally cover half my butt cheeks. He loves when I wear those. Also included: a Twilight keepsake journal (she knows I absolutely despise the Twilight series), a one-cup coffee maker I'm positive she pulled out of a dumpster (no, really, she dumpster dives for gifts often), nevermind that she knows I have a Keurig, and a bunch of weird feather hair clips. 

Ironically and sadly, the BF they told to rape me did eventually sexually assault me. But I'm smart enough to know I wasn't asking for it and he's a fucking slimeball. 

You are a fabulous person and I admire you for standing up for yourself. You deserve ONLY THE BEST.

esstee33

@slothiegal Nah, I don't mind talking about it. 

My best guess is that because my sister weaponizes my nephew and withholds visits when she doesn't get her way, they all just want to acquiesce to her every whim. If there is ever a dispute between my sister and I, everyone takes her side, no matter what. Even when she is blatantly, clearly wrong, nobody dares say anything to her for fear of not being able to see my nephew. They pay her mortgage when she spends all her money on tattoos, bail her out every time the flavor of the week guy beats her up, etc. It's a cycle we've all been going through for 11 years. It's just gotten progressively worse over the past 5 or so. Now it's more like she goes along with my sister because she genuinely agrees, not because she's just trying to keep the peace. She has a number of very serious health issues for which she's very heavily medicated, and I know some of them have fucked with her mentally, but this seems to be even beyond that. She's always been a touch fucked in the head, though -- this was the final straw after many years of her being awful. 

@beethery Thanks, lady. I spent a long time deliberately single so I could learn how to actually be self-reliant, not just financially but emotionally and mentally as well. That served me well for reasons I couldn't have predicted.

slothiegal

@esstee33, thanks for answering.  (I realized as I was getting coffee, "you idiot, that was an incredibly personal thing to ask" and felt really rude.)

I'm sorry for all of that noise.  Again, it sounds like you've got a great head on your shoulders and are in a pretty damn good place  

esstee33

slothiegal said:

@esstee33, thanks for answering.  (I realized as I was getting coffee, "you idiot, that was an incredibly personal thing to ask" and felt really rude.)

I'm sorry for all of that noise.  Again, it sounds like you've got a great head on your shoulders and are in a pretty damn good place  

Oh, no, it's cool. I'm pretty much an open book. 

I'm in an awesome place now. I'm expecting a shitstorm very soon since my grandma has undoubtedly told them all I'm engaged, and I can only imagine how that's going to play out. We're having a very small wedding two hours away to which they are definitely not invited. Too bad so sad, asshooooooles.

arrippa

My friend, in her 30's looked at me crazy when I mentioned that I was a feminist.

 I asked her is she believed that men and women should make the same amount of money in the same job. She said yes.

I asked her if a woman should have a choice if she wanted to be a SAHM or working mom. She said yes.

I told her she was a feminist too. It blew her mind. This is a woman in her 30's and she had no idea what feminism was.

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CrazyCatLady3

There's this:

http://confusedcatsagainstfeminism.tumblr.com/

http://www.vice.com/read/the-guy-who-created-confused-cats-against-feminism-is-tired-of-mansplaining-to-other-men-801

novella1186

esstee33 said:

@slothiegal Nah, I don't mind talking about it. 

My best guess is that because my sister weaponizes my nephew and withholds visits when she doesn't get her way, they all just want to acquiesce to her every whim. If there is ever a dispute between my sister and I, everyone takes her side, no matter what. Even when she is blatantly, clearly wrong, nobody dares say anything to her for fear of not being able to see my nephew. They pay her mortgage when she spends all her money on tattoos, bail her out every time the flavor of the week guy beats her up, etc. It's a cycle we've all been going through for 11 years. It's just gotten progressively worse over the past 5 or so. Now it's more like she goes along with my sister because she genuinely agrees, not because she's just trying to keep the peace. She has a number of very serious health issues for which she's very heavily medicated, and I know some of them have fucked with her mentally, but this seems to be even beyond that. She's always been a touch fucked in the head, though -- this was the final straw after many years of her being awful. 

@beethery Thanks, lady. I spent a long time deliberately single so I could learn how to actually be self-reliant, not just financially but emotionally and mentally as well. That served me well for reasons I couldn't have predicted.

Why is it that the evil sister always gets catered to and the good sister gets stepped on? You've seen the posts on my family drama. One theory of why my parents cave to my crazy raving bitch sister is cuz she ignored them and wouldn't visit them for years. Now she's coming around again. I think they're afraid of losing her so they kiss her ass. They know I'll always be around cuz I value my family and I'm loyal to my parents. Ugh. 

I'm sorry you've gone through so much shit, but the advice you've given me based on your experience has really meant a lot to me and it has helped a lot! You're pretty fucking awesome.