flower girl

missmarissa14

Might be a dumb question but....who purchases the flower girl dress? Me or the flower girl's parents?

Maggie0829

Typically, like a BM, the flower girl (or in this case her parents) purchases her own attire.

But many times the bride will offer to purchase it for the flower girl.  It is really up to you what you would like to do.

southernbelle0915

missmarissa14 said:

Might be a dumb question but....who purchases the flower girl dress? Me or the flower girl's parents?

If you have the budget, it's a nice gesture. If you don't, ask them what their budget is and shop within it. 

Or you could just tell them to buy a [insert color] dress and let them figure it out.

dcbride86

I'm so glad you asked this!!  I've been wondering that too!  I also don't know if I'm expected to pay for the flower girls dresses (I have 2) since my mom paid for the bridesmaids dresses. 

How are you selecting the dress?  I don't know if I should send a link of a few dresses to their mom (they live over 3 hours away, so I don't know if I'll be able to go there to help pick them out)

Aray82

We purchased our FG's dresses because we knew BIL and SIL were already dropping a lot of cash on a plane ticket, hotel, and BIL's groomsmen tux so we didn't want them to have to spend anymore. That said, if the wedding were local to them, I would have been fine with just having them buy the dresses.

JaxInBlue

We paid for our flower girl's dresses.  Our process was: ask parents if girls could be in the wedding, ask girls if they wanted to be in the wedding, find dress, okay dress with parents and get sizes, buy dresses and deliver to flower girls.  We bought tights as well but the parents provided shoes.

Like a bridesmaids dresses, paying for the dresses yourself gives you a bit more control over the dress - not that you get the whole say, more like the final vote.  Asking the parents to pay for the dress gives the parents the right to set the budget, and to have more say in the dress itself. 

Aray82

ssautter said:

I'm so glad you asked this!!  I've been wondering that too!  I also don't know if I'm expected to pay for the flower girls dresses (I have 2) since my mom paid for the bridesmaids dresses. 

How are you selecting the dress?  I don't know if I should send a link of a few dresses to their mom (they live over 3 hours away, so I don't know if I'll be able to go there to help pick them out)

I sent their Mom links to some styles I liked online at David's Bridal, as well as the BM dress color in case there were any ribbons or sashes to match. I didn't know what their selection would be like at their local store, so I just said basically, here are some styles I was thinking of (just so they had a basis of where to start), but really anything in Ivory that they liked in x price range would be fine with me. Once they picked them out (Facetimed with me in the store, so cute!), I called the store to place the order with their sizes and voila. 

theartistformerlyknownas

Our FG's parents (BIL and his wife) paid. We just asked them to choose whatever they liked for her in either aqua, champagne or gold, but not white. They got her a white dress. Whatever.

ElcaB

I'd say it's the responsibility of the parent of the flower girl, but we offered to cover our flower girls' dresses ourselves. 

birdybride2014

Our RB and FG parents offered to pay for their outfits, but since we had room in the budget I decided we would cover it. I managed to get both outfits for under $50 a piece. 

Cookie Pusher

We didn't have a FG but we did have a RB and 2 child ushers. We made no requests for specific or special clothing - we told their parents to dress them however they would like. The parents took care of dressing the kids themselves. We have no idea whether it was stuff they already owned or they bought new outfits.

photokitty

I wouldn't be surprised if my flower girl's dress cost more than my gown :-) 

I merely told her mom what color I would like it to be (white) and let her pick one out. She paid for it. Had I wanted something specific I would have offered to pay for it. 

LtPowers

One is never responsible for dressing one's guests, attendants or not. However, if you're insisting upon a particular item of clothing, it is both generous and polite to offer to pay.

twitterbird

I got my flower girl's dress as I saw one I liked at a super great price at a going out of business sale.

l9i

I had two FG and the parents (B and SIL) paid for their dresses.  I wanted them in black like the BMs which was a little hardr to find in person so I sent SIL a link to about 6 different dresses, all priced under $45 and told her to pick.  They were absolutely adorable and I know SIL was happy bc she already had another occasion for the girls to wear the dresses again.

futuremrshp

Thank you for asking that question!  I was wondering the same thing!!! 

cbus13

I assumed it was the bride and groom who paid for the flower girl dress. I am having 2 flower girls and it never crossed my mind to ask the parents to pay. I was able to find at DB two matching dresses for $50 a piece. I just asked the parents what the girls' sizes are. The parents of the flower girls, however, are taking care of shoes and tights. 

I really think you should try to pay for it, though. You can find really pretty dresses pretty cheap. 

dcbride86

HReis13 said:

I assumed it was the bride and groom who paid for the flower girl dress. I am having 2 flower girls and it never crossed my mind to ask the parents to pay. I was able to find at DB two matching dresses for $50 a piece. I just asked the parents what the girls' sizes are. The parents of the flower girls, however, are taking care of shoes and tights. 

I really think you should try to pay for it, though. You can find really pretty dresses pretty cheap. 

This is exactly what we did!  I wonder if we got the same dress for our flower girls!

We also paid for the dress, but the parents are taking care of shoes and tights.  I told them they can wear any shoes and tights they want, so hopefully they don't have to buy anything new for that