decembergrl2014 said:No, but like everyone else I'm entitled to express an opinion about a comment, and that's exactly what I did!
No, but like everyone else I'm entitled to express an opinion about a comment, and that's exactly what I did!
Before the other night the last time he did this was a year ago.
Some people responded to me about suggesting the e cigarette to him. I think that's a good compromise, and he says he's willing to do that! :-) He can still "smoke" to help with stress, and I won't have to worry about another migraine trigger. The real cigarettes though will always be a non negotiable with me.
Again, it's really the deception that should bother you. There is no way he's being honest about only smoking twice and the fact that you caught him both times is a hilariously bad lie on his part. Smoking is an addiction, and although it's not necessarily the worst addiction he probably won't just stop because you threaten to leave him. You gotta make good on your threats if that's how you plan on solving the issue, or else this will keep happening (or continuously happen).I'm not a smoker (except at times when I drink), but smoking would not be a dealbreaker for me. What would be a dealbreaker is the LYING. LYING is a bigger concern.
I always just assumed I had super powers and nobody else does, therefore no addiction. You know?But for real, there are people who can smoke on occasion and be fine. However, she caught him both times he did it, so that makes me suspect that he actually smokes more than that. I mean, what are the chances?Unless he's getting caught on purpose. I guess it's possible that he did only smoke twice, in which case the lying is still the main concern.I'm really hungover and mostly talking out of my asscrack.
Just that he was smoking when he was married to his ex, and I was married to a liar.
He thinks I'm overreacting. He said he had one cigarette in the afternoon. He said if he had been smoking all day, or if we were in a crowded room full of smoke, that he could understand that. He also says things like, "it's not like you caught me cheating or texting another girl. It's just one cigarette." Then he also said that he's having one tomorrow. "There's your heads up!" He says to me