traditional vows and personalized vows, order??

bridetobemo

Question, If FI and I want to do our own vows but also use the traditional vows, what order do we do them in, do we read our own vows first and then do the traditional ones of do we do the traditional ones first and then our personalized ones??

Help??

Is there protocol or is it personal opinion??

Beazilla

If you're doing a secular wedding, I'd say it's personal opinion. If it's a religious wedding, I'd say talk to your officiant.

bridetobemo

Ok thanks Beazilla, yeah it will be a non religious wedding but I will talk to the officiant just to be safe

[Deleted User]

We are doing this as well and are doing the traditional vows first and then doing our personalized vows a little later in the ceremony.

mandi921vh

We are doing a combination of both; we are writing our own vows but in them we will include some of the traditional vows. I think they will be in the middle or the end, not sure yet.

Tanq&Tonic

It's totally personal opinion, but I don't fully see the point of separating them.  Like mandi said, why not incorporate the lines of the traditional vows into your personalized ones?  For example...

FI, you are [ more awesome than superman ]
You are [ my bestest friend in the whole wide world ]
I promise to [ let you hold the remote and have the last piece of steak ]
I promise to [ something else ]
For better for worse...
For richer or poorer...
In sickness or in health...
Until death do us 'part?

deb84

It is personal opinion but I like the idea of incorporating the traditional vows into your personalized vows. 

Ariasmom

LOL, I would have jumped up and down if I had been you!  Now as to your question about writing your own vows, I suggest you each write them on a piece of paper and have him put yours in his right pocket and his in his left pocket.  Just before the traditional vows, the minister should say "I understand you have something to rad to eachother" and then you each read what you wrote.  After that, he puts the papers back in his pockets so your hands are free for the vows and ring exchange.  This has worked well for all my wedding couples.  Don't try to memorize anything, trust me, it will fly right out of your heads when the time comes.  Good luck!