Crowdfunding

IrishPirate60

And some good issues raised here. http://seattletimes.com/html/localnews/2024932356_ivfgofundmexml.html

Sugargirl1019

Um.. Yea.. No. The part about $10000 buying you a place in the delivery room? Are you disgusting? And then what if something tragic happens? Would the donor complain about their money? Hopefully not but you never know.

If it's a child you want, and it costs xxxxx to get it, then you save that on your own. Or take out a loan, at least you're paying that money yourself.

BreMR

It's insane that asking for money has become so normal, I hated even asking my dad who rakes in the big bucks for help when my financial aid fell through for school. 

 I just read an article about a girl who crowd funded because her Uber bill after a night of drinking (and apparently blacking out) was way more than she thought and now she didn't have enough money for rent.  

Guess what?  Her goal was about $360 bucks, and she raised over $500 last I checked.  Disgusting.

huskypuppy14

If you want a child so bad, and you can't pay for IVF or adoption, what about fostering to adopt. There are a lot of kids in foster care that need to be adopted, and they don't cost nearly that much money.

The 10K for delivery room access is disgusting. Like my Dad would say, no shame, no class.

hellohkb

I was watching a documentary on adoption and it touched on how expensive and unattainable it can be. I don't think gofundme is the answer, but it is sad how so many willing people are unable to adopt.

holyguacamole79

hellohkb said:

I was watching a documentary on adoption and it touched on how expensive and unattainable it can be. I don't think gofundme is the answer, but it is sad how so many willing people are unable to adopt.

H and I are most likely going to start the paperwork for adoption in the new year. It can get crazy expensive, and I'm not sure how we are going to be able to do it. 

I have a friend who adopted a toddler from Ethiopia a few years ago. Instead of Gofundme or something like that, they did real fundraising. They sold shirts, hosted bbqs, and had other events where the price of the "ticket" went towards their adoption costs. I have much more respect for this way of doing it.

JennyColada

The thing that always boggles my mind with this is: how much do you think it's costs to raise a child?

If you put every dollar in a jar that you otherwise wouldn't have spent on that baby (diapers, clothes, etc) then I think it's be easy to save $10,000 in a year or two.

I mean, down payments for houses are more than that. So what do you expect to do then?

hellohkb

holyguacamole79 said:

hellohkb said:

I was watching a documentary on adoption and it touched on how expensive and unattainable it can be. I don't think gofundme is the answer, but it is sad how so many willing people are unable to adopt.

H and I are most likely going to start the paperwork for adoption in the new year. It can get crazy expensive, and I'm not sure how we are going to be able to do it. 

I have a friend who adopted a toddler from Ethiopia a few years ago. Instead of Gofundme or something like that, they did real fundraising. They sold shirts, hosted bbqs, and had other events where the price of the "ticket" went towards their adoption costs. I have much more respect for this way of doing it.

I agree, I think that's better. Yes, it's insane how much it costs to adopt. Someone my mom knew in the 90s adopted a baby from Russia. It was almost 70k... In the 90s!

lyndausvi

This crowdfunding thing has gotten out of hand.    An Uber bill?  Really?   Maybe you shouldn't be going out if for a night of drinking if a taxi bill is going to make you unable to pay rent?    Your bar bill would be better in a savings account in case of emergencies.

I get adoption is expensive, but still not a reason for crowdfunding.  I would be more willing to donate to the over all adoption process to get the costs down for everyone, then give money to one couple.

lc07

hellohkb said:

I was watching a documentary on adoption and it touched on how expensive and unattainable it can be. I don't think gofundme is the answer, but it is sad how so many willing people are unable to adopt.

You can adopt an older child for peanuts. 

lc07

lyndausvi said:

This crowdfunding thing has gotten out of hand.    An Uber bill?  Really?   Maybe you shouldn't be going out if for a night of drinking if a taxi bill is going to make you unable to pay rent?    Your bar bill would be better in a savings account in case of emergencies.

I get adoption is expensive, but still not a reason for crowdfunding.  I would be more willing to donate to the over all adoption process to get the costs down for everyone, then give money to one couple.

Your taxes already cover that.

huskypuppy14

lc07 said:

hellohkb said:

I was watching a documentary on adoption and it touched on how expensive and unattainable it can be. I don't think gofundme is the answer, but it is sad how so many willing people are unable to adopt.

You can adopt an older child for peanuts. 

But everyone wants a baby. *Eyeroll*

daria24

I thought the Uber crowdsourcing was hilarious because Uber is such a predatory company. You don't know what your ride is going to cost until hours later-the price they estimate when you book is not guaranteed. So you order a car with it saying it will cost $40 and then wake up to a $360 bill the next day. Just take a yellow cab lady!

lyndausvi

daria24 said:

I thought the Uber crowdsourcing was hilarious because Uber is such a predatory company. You don't know what your ride is going to cost until hours later-the price they estimate when you book is not guaranteed. So you order a car with it saying it will cost $40 and then wake up to a $360 bill the next day. Just take a yellow cab lady!

I've used Uber bunch of times in various different cites.   I've never had a surprise bill.   The estimate was pretty much what they said it would be. I knew the final cost as soon as we arrived at our destination.  

hellohkb

lc07 said:

hellohkb said:

I was watching a documentary on adoption and it touched on how expensive and unattainable it can be. I don't think gofundme is the answer, but it is sad how so many willing people are unable to adopt.

You can adopt an older child for peanuts. 


One of the women adopted an older girl from Ethiopia and it was just such an insane process. I'm not familiar with the US adoption system but I have heard it is not terribly easy to adopt here either.

lc07

hellohkb said:

hellohkb said:

I was watching a documentary on adoption and it touched on how expensive and unattainable it can be. I don't think gofundme is the answer, but it is sad how so many willing people are unable to adopt.

You can adopt an older child for peanuts. 

One of the women adopted an older girl from Ethiopia and it was just such an insane process. I'm not familiar with the US adoption system but I have heard it is not terribly easy to adopt here either.

I have never adopted but I do volunteer work for a local US governmental group that places foster children in adoptive homes. Sometimes it's free to the adoptive family. I think the most it costs the adoptive family in fees is under $1,000 because our tax dollars cover most of the costs of the home studies and legal work. My experience is with adoptions of US children in the foster care system who are available for adoption to US families. Also, there are LOTS of kids waiting to be placed in homes. In my experience, it's simply harder to place sibling sets, older children, and children with medical or mental disabilities due to lack of interest in adopting them.

hellohkb

Hmm, interesting! I would be willing to adopt an older child I FH and I decide to adopt. That's good information to know (the cost).

IrishPirate60

I worked with a private, long-term foster care agency (Casey Family Program) a number of years ago. They work with kids over 5 who aren't going home again. I became a mom to a 10 year old. Toughest 4 years of my life-- partly because I did it as a single parent, but if had a great group of friends who became part of the village. We could have gone the adoption route, but she was ambivalent and then blew out of the placement. She's now grown with kids of her own and I'm Mom.