Is this a weird question for someone to ask...

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I recently had a friend ask me what I wanted her to buy me as a wedding gift.  It kind of took me off guard and struck me as an odd question.  I told her that we are just happy to have her come to the wedding.  I just really didn't know what else to say.  Maybe she asked this because she cannot afford a gift for us, or maybe she just doesn't like the items we have added to our registries (lots of items and lots of price ranges, btw) and wants to give something more unique and personal.  Does this happen often that people will directly ask you what you want, even if you are registered?  Or that people will not like the ideas on your registry?  Maybe it would have seemed less weird if it was someone who I am closer to had asked me this.

manateehugger

I hated when people asked this. What are you supposed to say? "I'd like you to get me something off my registry or some cold hard cash." I think some people are uncertain gift-givers or don't know how to ask, "Where are you registered?"

You gave her the right answer though, and you have registries out there. If she doesn't like the stuff you registered for or wants to do something different, that's on her. There's not much else you can do except repeating the same line. 

huskypuppy14

I had someone ask me do you want X or Y off your registry. I just said whichever one he wanted to get. 

For your situation I would have said the same thing, but if they persisted, maybe say anything off the registry?

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Yeah.  She said that she looked at our registries and still didn't know what to get us.  I guess it is what it is... an awkward and unnecessary discussion.  I hope other people don't ask.  It's at least better than the time when someone who won't invited to the wedding asked if she'd be invited to the wedding!

jenijoyk

This happened to me. I had a coworker that multiple times asked me if I wanted something off the registry, or if I wanted him to give me cash. So awkard!

huskypuppy14

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Yeah.  She said that she looked at our registries and still didn't know what to get us.  I guess it is what it is... an awkward and unnecessary discussion.  I hope other people don't ask.  It's at least better than the time when someone who won't invited to the wedding asked if she'd be invited to the wedding!

She's asking you what you want, when you have a list of items you want? Clearly, you want one of those items, and if you wanted something else it would be on the list.

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I know!!!  I didn't understand either.  Registries are a pretty fool-proof way to give someone a gift you know they will like and appreciate.  I felt like she didn't want to buy something off of any of them for some reason, but I didn't ask because I felt like that would be equally as weird.

manateehugger

Ugh, why do people make this so hard? When I look at the registry and only see random utensils or towels, I write a check or buy a gift card. 

XrebeccaX

We had a very dear family member ask us this question, several times. Aside from putting us in an awkward position, it was adding another "to-do" and another decision to make during a time when we were up to here with to-do's and decision making.

I ended up telling the person that we would love to have something that reminded us of the place we got married (which I realize might not apply to everyone) and that seemed to do the trick.

But yeah it's a difficult question to answer, particularly if you have a registry!

twitterbird

I've gotten that question a few times. I tell them where we are registered and that we're saving for new furniture. And that they don't have to get us anything. Its a super awkward question.

melbenso

I had a friend ask me that too. I didn't really find it odd. I told her she didn't have to get me anything, but if she wanted to get me a gift, we had a small registry at BBB.