I feel like I'm going crazy and being ridiculous. FH has his BM planning the bachelor party. I said I wasn't comfortable with Vegas, because I am far from comfortable with strippers and strip clubs. And I feel really stupid for letting it bother me so much, but I found out after four years that he lied about going to one on a trip with friends. I guess it's the lying that bothers me. I know I need to trust that he will respect me, and that his friends will respect me, but I just don't feel like they do. He says that it isn't his party, and that his BM is planning it. He told me he had already told his BM that, and then there's a text asking about how many people will be invited to Vegas. Now the new choice (since he had to tell his BM no to Vegas) is New Orleans. I'm probably more upset that I've asked about going there because I think it would be great, and he always tells me how much he doesn't want to go, but now it's okay? Besides all of that, if it's not his party, why should I trust that I will be respected on the trip? I'm just frustrated, and I know I'm driving myself crazy thinking about it and letting it bother me too much. It's a long weekend, and that shouldn't be an issue. Most of his friends are single, especially the ones that would be going.
Any words of wisdom to help me calm down about all of this nonsense? Or possibly anyone who has had these issues, and figured out a way to deal?
(really, I've been typing this and I feel crazy, so I know I'm overreacting.)