My fiance and I want to get married in Champaign, Illinois. Reception venues in our budget are limited and we found the perfect one (walking distance to hotel AND ceremony location, cabs consistently out front for easy access for our guests). We vibed REALLY well with the caterer upon meeting her and no where else compared (in our price range).
However, communication is abysmal and I don't know what to do from here. I received my first proposal from the caterer 7 days ago. I responded within the hour with some questions and concerns (mostly negotiating booze costs). I had still not heard anything back 3 days later so I sent an email checking in. No response. Day 6 without a response, I emailed the venue coordinator and called the caterer pretty much saying "Hey, we're now 11 months out from our ideal date. Can I get something here". Caterer never called back, Venue coordinator said she can't do anything until I settle food and booze with the caterer.
The problem is, if I admit they're the venue I really want, I lose the leverage I have using competitor's pricing to get my wedding even cheaper. For that reason, I don't want to threaten to pursue other venues because that could leave a bad taste in their mouth (or they'll call my bluff). How do I get what I need without forming a bad relationship with the venue? When is too soon to reach out again?