It's been said many times, but needs repeating:UPDATE

BrandNewJ

A girl on my Facebook posted the complete wedding invitation of her best friend on facebook with the caption #shitjustgotreal. Full names, date, time, place, everything. If I can see it, I know her entire feed can see it.

DONT SHARE OTHER PEOPLE'S INFORMATION, especially on social media where hundreds of people can see. It's so rude and a safety concern. Not everything needs a post. 

UPDATE: someone commented on the picture, "does this mean that everyone who sees this is invited?" It was perfect. She took the picture down about 30 minutes later. 

beethery

oh my god nooooooooooooooooooo

BrandNewJ

beethery said:

oh my god nooooooooooooooooooo

I went to middle school with the bride and the girl who posted. I just so happen to have also gone to high school and am fairly close with another one of their close friends.

I'm having an inner struggle if I should text our mutual friend to let her know it's really not a good idea to be doing that. 

ETA: tense

Cookie Pusher

Ugh, that is so frustrating! As someone who had something similar happen to them, it just strikes as being very thoughtless. While we didn't have an intimate wedding by any stretch, we did have to make some hard cuts on our guest list. Having someone with zero privacy settings but many mutual friends (who were not invited) post the invitation for all to see was totally a WTF moment. It didn't matter that I have it set that I have to approve tags to appear on my profile - it was still showing up in the feeds of all their friends.

BrandNewJ

@Cookie Pusher‌ that's this exact situation! Although I don't know how the bride feels about it. Should I say something to the mutual friend or let someone else handle it?

dcbride86

I sent out my STDs this weekend.  So far they've been posted on FB and Instagram.  I called a cousin and very politely asked her to take a post down, and she blew up at me about how I should be "thankful" that she's "even excited" about my wedding.

So thankful.

blabla89

ssautter said:

I sent out my STDs this weekend.  So far they've been posted on FB and Instagram.  I called a cousin and very politely asked her to take a post down, and she blew up at me about how I should be "thankful" that she's "even excited" about my wedding.

So thankful.

Oh my gosh. This is making me re-think whether we should send one to FSIL because she would totally do this...maybe it will get lost in the mail...

novella1186

ssautter said:

I sent out my STDs this weekend.  So far they've been posted on FB and Instagram.  I called a cousin and very politely asked her to take a post down, and she blew up at me about how I should be "thankful" that she's "even excited" about my wedding.

So thankful.

What a bitch! 

And if anyone over-shared my wedding crap on facebook like that I would be piiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiissed! I have a psycho abusive ex who stalked me for several years, even after I got a restraining order on him. My personal info does not need to be spread all over the internet. Fuck that noise. 

peachy13

I would cringe, and then probably decline.

climbingsingle

Yup, I'd murder her. 

weddingcactus

I would be super pissed. For that matter, I'm not on FB so I really hope no one has posted a pic of our save the dates. Ugh. Not cool people. Not everything belongs on social media.

blabla89

@Peachy13 are you from Jefferson City?!

ShesSoCold

My MIL and I are not friends (on FB or in real life) but she's friends with one of our best friends. She apparently posted our wedding info and some passive aggressive horseshit about how we didn't invite her family, but we couldn't stop her from letting them know the details. 

After the friend told us about it, she blocked him. Then at the wedding told him, "Sometimes you just have to block people - you understand, right". 

SMH. I'm waiting patiently for H to be ready to tell her the same thing - in real life. 

BrandNewJ

ShesSoCold said:

My MIL and I are not friends (on FB or in real life) but she's friends with one of our best friends. She apparently posted our wedding info and some passive aggressive horseshit about how we didn't invite her family, but we couldn't stop her from letting them know the details. 

After the friend told us about it, she blocked him. Then at the wedding told him, "Sometimes you just have to block people - you understand, right". 

SMH. I'm waiting patiently for H to be ready to tell her the same thing - in real life. 

That's a special sort of crazy right there.

BrandNewJ

ssautter said:

I sent out my STDs this weekend.  So far they've been posted on FB and Instagram.  I called a cousin and very politely asked her to take a post down, and she blew up at me about how I should be "thankful" that she's "even excited" about my wedding.

So thankful.

That shiz is ridiculous! Did she take it down at least? How could anyone be excited when someone else is blasting their personal information to the world?!

sophhabobopha

simplyelise

Utterly ridiculous. I'm so glad none of my guests did this.

Also crazy to see other mid-MO people on here. I'm in Columbia and I'm about to go search through my friends to see if I can find this.

peachy13

blabla89 said:

@Peachy13 are you from Jefferson City?!

No, I saw that on Pinterest, among with many others just like it!

blabla89

peachy13 said:

blabla89 said:

@Peachy13 are you from Jefferson City?!

No, I saw that on Pinterest, among with many others just like it!

Ha! That STD is pretty awful. That's my hometown and now I'm all over facebook trying to figure out which Samatha it might have been...

loveislouder

I HATE when people overshare my business on facebook. My sister does it all the damn time. "OMG. LOVEISLOUDER GOT ATTACKED BY A DOG TODAY!! EVERYONE SHOULD SEND HER FOOD BECAUSE SHE CAN'T COOK FOR HERSELF RIGHT NOW!!! THERE WAS BLOOD EVERYWHERE!" (Not kidding) And when I had FI at the hospital this weekend she made sure to post a status that said where we were, how long we waited and tagged us both in it before we had a chance to call his family and let them know what was up. Like, FFS

BrandNewJ

loveislouder said:

I HATE when people overshare my business on facebook. My sister does it all the damn time. "OMG. LOVEISLOUDER GOT ATTACKED BY A DOG TODAY!! EVERYONE SHOULD SEND HER FOOD BECAUSE SHE CAN'T COOK FOR HERSELF RIGHT NOW!!! THERE WAS BLOOD EVERYWHERE!" (Not kidding) And when I had FI at the hospital this weekend she made sure to post a status that said where we were, how long we waited and tagged us both in it before we had a chance to call his family and let them know what was up. Like, FFS

Wooooooow. I sincerely hope that you're okay! That's definitely your information to share, if you choose to share it. Jeez.

lc07

I remember reading a story about people who watch obituary/funeral/memorial notices so they can go rob houses while everyone is gone. It makes me think of that. Stupid. 

beethery

ssautter said:

I sent out my STDs this weekend.  So far they've been posted on FB and Instagram.  I called a cousin and very politely asked her to take a post down, and she blew up at me about how I should be "thankful" that she's "even excited" about my wedding.

So thankful.

I bet you're "excited" you sent that loon ass broad a STD

lc07

loveislouder said:

I HATE when people overshare my business on facebook. My sister does it all the damn time. "OMG. LOVEISLOUDER GOT ATTACKED BY A DOG TODAY!! EVERYONE SHOULD SEND HER FOOD BECAUSE SHE CAN'T COOK FOR HERSELF RIGHT NOW!!! THERE WAS BLOOD EVERYWHERE!" (Not kidding) And when I had FI at the hospital this weekend she made sure to post a status that said where we were, how long we waited and tagged us both in it before we had a chance to call his family and let them know what was up. Like, FFS

That's awful. I would stop telling her things that I didn't want the general public to know. And I'd tell her that was what I was doing.

PS I hope you guys are okay, too.

dcbride86

BrandNewJ said:

ssautter said:

I sent out my STDs this weekend.  So far they've been posted on FB and Instagram.  I called a cousin and very politely asked her to take a post down, and she blew up at me about how I should be "thankful" that she's "even excited" about my wedding.

So thankful.

That shiz is ridiculous! Did she take it down at least? How could anyone be excited when someone else is blasting their personal information to the world?!

She did take it down, but then put up a passive aggressive status about how she's not allowed to be excited for weddings anymore.  She's kind of the worst.  She's actually my mom's cousin (I can never figure out exactly what to call her), and she tends to be mean sometimes.  When she found out I got engaged, she asked when the wedding was.  When I said it would be a 2 year engagement, her exact response was "I feel so bad for your mom!" because she thought I would constantly bug my mom nonstop for 2 years about every detail.

Sidenote: the 2 year engagement has actually led to everything being so low stress.  We got the venue we wanted, NOTHING was booked, I got my dress, everything.  AND - btw - we waited 2 years because I didn't want to be distracted by wedding planning while I was finishing law school (where I graduated cum laude), studying for the bar (which I passed), and applying for jobs (which I got with the Feds).  I told her this, and she just rolled her eyes. 

dcbride86

beethery said:

ssautter said:

I sent out my STDs this weekend.  So far they've been posted on FB and Instagram.  I called a cousin and very politely asked her to take a post down, and she blew up at me about how I should be "thankful" that she's "even excited" about my wedding.

So thankful.

I bet you're "excited" you sent that loon ass broad a STD

I didn't want to invite her, but she's on my mom's list (my parents are paying).  Whatever.  I mostly just feel bad for whomever she shares a table with

novella1186

dcbride86 said:

beethery said:

ssautter said:

I sent out my STDs this weekend.  So far they've been posted on FB and Instagram.  I called a cousin and very politely asked her to take a post down, and she blew up at me about how I should be "thankful" that she's "even excited" about my wedding.

So thankful.

I bet you're "excited" you sent that loon ass broad a STD

I didn't want to invite her, but she's on my mom's list (my parents are paying).  Whatever.  I mostly just feel bad for whomever she shares a table with

I know a few people she could sit with. 

climbingsingle

lc07 said:

I remember reading a story about people who watch obituary/funeral/memorial notices so they can go rob houses while everyone is gone. It makes me think of that. Stupid. 

This actually happened to a guy I was friends with. He died in a motorcycle accident, and the next day, two people were robbing his house. Thank god a relative caught them in the act and they were arrested. And even worse, the guy robbing the house knew my deceased friend from school too. 

loveislouder I hope you're OK!

novella1186

ClimbingBrideNY said:

lc07 said:

I remember reading a story about people who watch obituary/funeral/memorial notices so they can go rob houses while everyone is gone. It makes me think of that. Stupid. 

This actually happened to a guy I was friends with. He died in a motorcycle accident, and the next day, two people were robbing his house. Thank god a relative caught them in the act and they were arrested. And even worse, the guy robbing the house knew my deceased friend from school too. 

loveislouder I hope you're OK!

There's a very special place in hell for those people

BrandNewJ

novella1186 said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

lc07 said:

I remember reading a story about people who watch obituary/funeral/memorial notices so they can go rob houses while everyone is gone. It makes me think of that. Stupid. 

This actually happened to a guy I was friends with. He died in a motorcycle accident, and the next day, two people were robbing his house. Thank god a relative caught them in the act and they were arrested. And even worse, the guy robbing the house knew my deceased friend from school too. 

loveislouder I hope you're OK!

There's a very special place in hell for those people

QFT. how horrible!

lbuet348

One of my guest posted a pic of our invitation on Facebook and the RSVP card had my phone number on it.... My husband commented- way to blast lbuet348's phone number on Facebook and she immediately deleted it and apologized. I know she was just excited but I thought she was smarter than that!