What your guests are saying about you...

tammym1001

I attended a wedding this weekend in Las Vegas. This post isn't about that wedding, but about a different one that was in Vegas. I sat next to a man on the plane who was probably in his 20's. He said he was going to Vegas for his friend's wedding. He then proceeded to tell me that he didn't even want to go to the wedding, but he had booked the trip before he received the invitation and was stuck. Why didn't he want to go? The couple included an insert with their wedding invitation asking each guest to send them $85 to pay for their dinner and then had the nerve to include gift registry information in the invite as well. He was pissed that he had to pay for his own dinner and said that he wasn't giving them a gift. If he hadn't booked the trip off the STD he said he wouldn't have even attended. 

He sat next to me on the flight home as well so I asked him how the wedding was. He said they changed the time of the wedding at the last minute and he couldn't make it there so he ended up not going. He was out his $85, but he said he was glad he didn't go. Apparently they had 10 people come to the reception who didn't send their check in ahead of time and the couple passed around a basket asking for donations from all the guests who already paid to cover those 10 plates!!! 

Please don't be this couple!!! Your friends will talk about you to strangers on planes and judge you hard core for this kind of selfish behavior. This guy blamed most of it on the bride, which I don't really think is fair, but he also said he wasn't sure he would stay friends with the groom after this because of how selfish and ridiculous they were about their wedding. It really made him judge their character hard core.

msuprincess04

Gross.

ShallowSeas

novella1186

Holy shit. If I were in his place and got the invite after the trip was booked, I would just turn the trip into my own personal vacation and ignore that a wedding was even happening. 

KatWAG

I cant believe he actually sent the check in ahead of time.

tammym1001

KatWAG said:

I cant believe he actually sent the check in ahead of time.

I can't either, but then I don't know him beyond spending 4 hours on a plane with him so I'm not sure what his thinking was on that. 

theartistformerlyknownas

wrigleyville

We declined a wedding in Vegas after learning they were taking everyone to a buffet and expecting everyone to pay for their own meal and beverages. I'm really glad we found out before we got the invitation.

I can't stand hearing, "We don't have enough money," when people have a DW. If you don't have enough money to feed people, maybe you shouldn't have a DW. Or, at least figure out a way to feed everyone. If you're seriously spending your last bit of money on your wedding, your priorities are skewed.

thisismynickname2

I know of someone who did that!  A good friend of mine went to the wedding. Apparently, the couple would have preferred to elope, but since people are so insistent on seeing other folks get married, they basically said, "Well, ok, we'll invite people, but the reception dinner will be $30 if they want to come."

I have no idea if they registered for gifts or sent STDs or how any of it went down, but yeah, they said if people wanted to witness them get married they needed to pay up.

Nevermind the fact that they had a full bridal party and that the bride had once cheated with my friend's brother, and that the bride had this doomsday sourpuss look on her face in all the ceremony photos.

<< Goes to check FB to see if they've divorced since then... >>

esstee33

What the helllllll? If I was that guy, I'd have used that trip as a personal vacation the moment I got wind of the $85 charge for my plate. Abso-fucking-lutely not.

sarawifenow

summerbride2015

My friend had a DW at an all inclusive so all of the guests had already paid for their own food when booking the trip. Not sure if that is acceptable. My FI (now husband) and I kind of judged them at the time.

Liatris2010

I'm with Novella, I'd see the invite asking for the $85, decline, and spend my weekend drinking champagne at the hotel pool. Maybe I'd even take my $85 and buy me a fancy dinner of my choosing. Happy relaxation weekend in Vegas to me!!

theartistformerlyknownas

summerbride2015 said:

My friend had a DW at an all inclusive so all of the guests had already paid for their own food when booking the trip. Not sure if that is acceptable. My FI (now husband) and I kind of judged them at the time.

Nope. Your instincts were right.

BrandNewJ

novella1186 said:

Holy shit. If I were in his place and got the invite after the trip was booked, I would just turn the trip into my own personal vacation and ignore that a wedding was even happening. 

Second! Gotta say though, what a nice guy to actually comply with that insanity. He should ask for a refund.

sophhabobopha

novella1186

lolo883 said:

summerbride2015 said:

My friend had a DW at an all inclusive so all of the guests had already paid for their own food when booking the trip. Not sure if that is acceptable. My FI (now husband) and I kind of judged them at the time.

Nope. Your instincts were right.

I have a "friend" who's doing this. Her DW is this March (I think) and I didn't get an STD or invitation or anything, but then got a text saying "here's the travel agent's number, you have to pay her X amount of money by X date." All-inclusive so I pay for my own food, including the wedding dinner. And it was effing expensive. And it was either you spend the entire week there or don't go at all; there was no option to go for just a few days. I politely declined. 

ETA: she already told me she's doing a PPD a few months after they get back 

bethsmiles

esstee33 said:

What the helllllll? If I was that guy, I'd have used that trip as a personal vacation the moment I got wind of the $85 charge for my plate. Abso-fucking-lutely not.

So much this. What the hell is wrong with people?! I would not stay friends with people like that.

loveislouder

What the hell kind of food were they "serving" that cost $85.00 per plate? Jeeze!

summerbride2015

novella1186 said:

lolo883 said:

summerbride2015 said:

My friend had a DW at an all inclusive so all of the guests had already paid for their own food when booking the trip. Not sure if that is acceptable. My FI (now husband) and I kind of judged them at the time.

Nope. Your instincts were right.

I have a "friend" who's doing this. Her DW is this March (I think) and I didn't get an STD or invitation or anything, but then got a text saying "here's the travel agent's number, you have to pay her X amount of money by X date." All-inclusive so I pay for my own food, including the wedding dinner. And it was effing expensive. And it was either you spend the entire week there or don't go at all; there was no option to go for just a few days. I politely declined. 

ETA: she already told me she's doing a PPD a few months after they get back 

My friend was the travel agent so she made a commission off each guest (about 70 people). My FI and I booked with my travel agent uncle because he offered to give us the commission towards our trip, the friend was ok with it because she wouldn't offer the same deal. And she got angry at people for price checking on Travelocity...

novella1186

summerbride2015 said:

novella1186 said:

lolo883 said:

summerbride2015 said:

My friend had a DW at an all inclusive so all of the guests had already paid for their own food when booking the trip. Not sure if that is acceptable. My FI (now husband) and I kind of judged them at the time.

Nope. Your instincts were right.

I have a "friend" who's doing this. Her DW is this March (I think) and I didn't get an STD or invitation or anything, but then got a text saying "here's the travel agent's number, you have to pay her X amount of money by X date." All-inclusive so I pay for my own food, including the wedding dinner. And it was effing expensive. And it was either you spend the entire week there or don't go at all; there was no option to go for just a few days. I politely declined. 

ETA: she already told me she's doing a PPD a few months after they get back 

My friend was the travel agent so she made a commission off each guest (about 70 people). My FI and I booked with my travel agent uncle because he offered to give us the commission towards our trip, the friend was ok with it because she wouldn't offer the same deal. And she got angry at people for price checking on Travelocity...

That just added a whole 'nother level of gross to the whole thing. 

JeeGooDowster

loveislouder said:

What the hell kind of food were they "serving" that cost $85.00 per plate? Jeeze!

I wouldn't be surprised with this couple if the real cost is like $30/plate and pocketed the $50!

loveislouder

mrsdowster said:

loveislouder said:

What the hell kind of food were they "serving" that cost $85.00 per plate? Jeeze!

I wouldn't be surprised with this couple if the real cost is like $30/plate and pocketed the $50!

Ew. That's so terrible.

holyguacamole79

wrigleyville

loveislouder said:

What the hell kind of food were they "serving" that cost $85.00 per plate? Jeeze!

That might include alcohol. When we were looking at restaurants in Vegas, most of the dinner/bar combo packages were $75-95/pp. Hence, we had the reception in our hotel suite, bought our own alcohol, and had a catering company bring in food for about 1/3 of that price.

lc07

tammym1001 said:

I attended a wedding this weekend in Las Vegas. This post isn't about that wedding, but about a different one that was in Vegas. I sat next to a man on the plane who was probably in his 20's. He said he was going to Vegas for his friend's wedding. He then proceeded to tell me that he didn't even want to go to the wedding, but he had booked the trip before he received the invitation and was stuck. Why didn't he want to go? The couple included an insert with their wedding invitation asking each guest to send them $85 to pay for their dinner and then had the nerve to include gift registry information in the invite as well. He was pissed that he had to pay for his own dinner and said that he wasn't giving them a gift. If he hadn't booked the trip off the STD he said he wouldn't have even attended. 

He sat next to me on the flight home as well so I asked him how the wedding was. He said they changed the time of the wedding at the last minute and he couldn't make it there so he ended up not going. He was out his $85, but he said he was glad he didn't go. Apparently they had 10 people come to the reception who didn't send their check in ahead of time and the couple passed around a basket asking for donations from all the guests who already paid to cover those 10 plates!!! 

Please don't be this couple!!! Your friends will talk about you to strangers on planes and judge you hard core for this kind of selfish behavior. This guy blamed most of it on the bride, which I don't really think is fair, but he also said he wasn't sure he would stay friends with the groom after this because of how selfish and ridiculous they were about their wedding. It really made him judge their character hard core.

Was this really a wedding you did not attend? Why did you end up sitting next to the same guy flying to Vegas and from Vegas? What are the odds?

BMoreBride6

Not as bad but one of my friends showed me an invitation she got (probably about 1 year or so ago) and on the RSVP card it listed entree options but if you picked something other than the chicken it told you how much money to send with the RSVP.  You could also buy more drink tickets ahead of time for a discounted price "for convenience".

novella1186

BMoreBride6 said:

Not as bad but one of my friends showed me an invitation she got (probably about 1 year or so ago) and on the RSVP card it listed entree options but if you picked something other than the chicken it told you how much money to send with the RSVP.  You could also buy more drink tickets ahead of time for a discounted price "for convenience".

WTF? 

msuprincess04

summerbride2015 said:

My friend had a DW at an all inclusive so all of the guests had already paid for their own food when booking the trip. Not sure if that is acceptable. My FI (now husband) and I kind of judged them at the time.

This isn't always correct. I had my destination wedding back in May and although I did not have it at a resort, when I contacted resorts during the planning phase, there is still a $50-100 fee per person if you want a seperate room or have more than 10 people. Receptions are not included in the all-inclusive package.

plainjane0415

novella1186 said:

lolo883 said:

summerbride2015 said:

My friend had a DW at an all inclusive so all of the guests had already paid for their own food when booking the trip. Not sure if that is acceptable. My FI (now husband) and I kind of judged them at the time.

Nope. Your instincts were right.

I have a "friend" who's doing this. Her DW is this March (I think) and I didn't get an STD or invitation or anything, but then got a text saying "here's the travel agent's number, you have to pay her X amount of money by X date." All-inclusive so I pay for my own food, including the wedding dinner. And it was effing expensive. And it was either you spend the entire week there or don't go at all; there was no option to go for just a few days. I politely declined. 

ETA: she already told me she's doing a PPD a few months after they get back 

This is apparently the way ALOT of all inclusive places do their weddings... Crazy things like if you don't stay at the resort where the wedding is being held then you are required to pay like $50 to use the facilities...which includes GUESTS COMING TO THE WEDDING! which is INSANE. I'm having a DW, and when we were choosing our hotel/venue we just decided to go with a hotel and using their events manager and not an all inclusive place because we didn't want to have our guests pay for their meal after the ceremony.  We had a real problem with that.  And because we know our family, we knew that they would have a real problem with that too. We also wanted people to have the freedom to choose the hotel they wanted to stay at. I don't really have time to be rounding up my guests and making sure they use our hotel and crap.

ETA: Punctuation

loro929

novella1186 said:

BMoreBride6 said:

Not as bad but one of my friends showed me an invitation she got (probably about 1 year or so ago) and on the RSVP card it listed entree options but if you picked something other than the chicken it told you how much money to send with the RSVP.  You could also buy more drink tickets ahead of time for a discounted price "for convenience".

WTF? 

whattttt?!? It is like the supplements in pre-fixe menus. This is insane! I'm surprised they include some cutesy wedding loyalty card with a cutesy poem on it e.g. "Buy 2 drinks get 1 free because today is the brides day and we want you as happy as can be!!!"