So I got married recently (October 5!), so I don't yet have my new driver's license (as in, that's how recently I've begun the process of changing my name).
I opened up a new 401K (eTrade) in my married name and I'm looking to roll over the funds from my old work 401Ks (Fidelity) (still in my maiden name) to the account. From the sounds of it, I'll have to contact my old employers to get my name changed on their end and it will automatically update to Fidelity. I called eTrade to see if it would be an issue if the check is made out to c/o my maiden name, and they said that they check would be rejected, so this seems like something that I do have to do.
I told DH about it and his reply was "you have to do that?" to which I said "well yea, that's what you have to do when you change your name." and he says "what a hassle" and reply "yea. That's what happens when you change your name. It's a hassle." and then he throws back something about "well you only have to do all that if you choose to, there are ways around it" and then kinda stormed off. Granted my "it's a hassle" comment was kind of snarky to him. But at this moment I just kind of felt like he wasn't respecting that I'm fucking changing my name for him. It's a lot of goddamn paperwork to change your name on everything, and he just acts like it's nothing. He can't relate nor does he have to because he doesn't have to fucking do it, I do. All he had to do was get married and then live life as normal with no issues. I had to go to all these government offices and call all these banks and all these HR offices to get everything in my life changed.
Ugh ugh ugh.
I'm just kind of over this whole name changing business right now and need to give a little vent about it.