Question

adamwar

I have a bridesmaid in high school is it ok to invite her to my bachelorette party she would be the only one in high school, i do have one other person in her age range i could also invite as well. Any suggestions

sarawifenow

 

adamwar said:

I have a bridesmaid in high school is it ok to invite her to my bachelorette party she would be the only one in high school, i do have one other person in her age range i could also invite as well. Any suggestions

What kind of activities will be planned?

 

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loro929

I think it depends on the activities that you have planned, i.e. if you are going bar-hopping with a group of + aged people than it might not be appropriate to have them come along but if you are having a spa-day with manis and pedis why not.

Maggie0829

Depends on the activities.  But I am a strong believer that when you have someone underage in your wedding party at least part of your bach party should be accommodating to those individuals.  Such as a spa day or a really nice dinner out.  Then if you want to do some bar hopping that is fine.  But you should be able to include those underage in some fashion.

theartistformerlyknownas

Maggie0829 said:

Depends on the activities.  But I am a strong believer that when you have someone underage in your wedding party at least part of your bach party should be accommodating to those individuals.  Such as a spa day or a really nice dinner out.  Then if you want to do some bar hopping that is fine.  But you should be able to include those underage in some fashion.

I agree with this. Whenever this has come up in the past, we had an all-ages dinner then just the 21+ went out afterward. The party should be planned so she's included in some portion of it.

wandajune6

It would seem horribly mean to me to have a bachelorette party that was designed to exclude a bridesmaid. I think your bachelorette must be structured to give her the option to be included. That said, bar-hopping afterwards isn't a problem.

Also, remember not to invite anyone to the bachelorette party who won't be invited to the wedding. While it's thoughtful to include someone else the bridesmaid's age, it is not ok to invite someone who won't be invited to the wedding.

MairePoppy

All bms should be invited to the bp, which means part of it should be age appropriate to the youngest bm. Make sure she has arrangements to get home before you do any bar hopping.

l9i

Maggie0829 said:

Depends on the activities.  But I am a strong believer that when you have someone underage in your wedding party at least part of your bach party should be accommodating to those individuals.  Such as a spa day or a really nice dinner out.  Then if you want to do some bar hopping that is fine.  But you should be able to include those underage in some fashion.

This.  I had my SIL in the wedding who is in high school.  We went to the lake and did a spa day with dinner out and it was wonderful.

I had two BM that were really pushing to go bar hopping despite the fact that it would rule out my SIL.  I'm glad my MOH stood up for an event in which everyone can participate in.... plus bar hopping isn't my thing

In your case make sure your BP is something your BM can attend.  As for inviting someone else her age that would be up to you.  I personally had a BP with only BMs.  My SIL knew a few of the other girls including the MOH fairly well so I wasn't too worried.

levioosa

This isn't a destination bachelorette party is it?

Ditto PPs.

Sugargirl1019

Sometimes you can even make it an activity that you can drink at and she can have a soda. We went to a painting place that made it a huge party teaching you, and we had wine while the high schoolers had soda. It was great because we all participated and it was NOT about what we were drinking (but I enjoyed my wine a lot).

anjemon

There are ways you can find to include underage people. I was at a bachelorette party where we went out to dinner then went to Dave and Buster's (D&B is like a grown up Chuck E Cheese if it's not a national chain). There was drinking for the over 21 crowd and nobody was excluded. It was also really fun. 

novella1186

anjemon said:

There are ways you can find to include underage people. I was at a bachelorette party where we went out to dinner then went to Dave and Buster's (D&B is like a grown up Chuck E Cheese if it's not a national chain). There was drinking for the over 21 crowd and nobody was excluded. It was also really fun. 

This is a great idea!

There are lots of places that have alcohol but also accommodate people under 21. I think you could easily have a fun party and still include the younger girl, if drinking is something everyone wants to do. 

ETA: if drinking is something the 21 and over girls want to do, I mean