Need suggestions

Knottie94122343

I am the sister of the Groom and the Matron of Honor, which means I am suppose to give a speech. I would feel more comfortable singing than speaking. Does anyone have any suggestions on a good song for me to sing to my brother and his wife. I Hope You Dance is a good song but not a good choice for us, he is a bit past all that advice.

beethery

You don't have to give a speech, you're definitely not obligated. Anyone who tells you that it's a requirement is wrong.

That said, people going up and singing solos at wedding is super awkward. I'd skip it and just be down to party.

lc07

Knottie94122343 said:

I am the sister of the Groom and the Matron of Honor, which means I am suppose to give a speech. I would feel more comfortable singing than speaking. Does anyone have any suggestions on a good song for me to sing to my brother and his wife. I Hope You Dance is a good song but not a good choice for us, he is a bit past all that advice.

Do they know that you are going to sing them a song? If not, I would clear that idea with the couple before you put too much effort into this plan. I wouldn't be comfortable having someone sing at my wedding reception and would politely decline your offer if I were the one getting married.

climbingsingle

Please don't sing. It ends up being super awkward. I have seen this in person and everyone was cringing.

AddieCake

Unless they asked you to sing in the ceremony, there should be no singing. It's going to be so very awkward. Don't sing randomly at their reception, please.

JaxInBlue

Agree with PPs.  You aren't obligated to give a speech but if you do it shouldn't be song unless you've been asked to sing.

If you want to say something in honor of your brother and FSIL, or you've agreed to say something, here's something that might help you get started on a few words:  Think of the songs you'd want to sing.  Start a list of why you'd use those songs - either what the message is or the advice you'd share.  From the list, you will likely find one or two things that could make a good short speech.  You might even be able to quote a lyric or two. 

Your speech could then be something like "BroGroom and FSIL, it's been a joy to be a part of your wedding today, and to be a part of your lives.  Seeing how happy [or excited or joyful, etc.] you are today reminds me of the song 'Some Song Here.'  When I hear that song, I remember that <<here's where you'd put the message or advice>>.   Keeping that in mind has served me well in my own marriage [since you said you're the Matron of Honor], and I hope it will be that way for you.  It's been wonderful to share in the start of this verse of your song.  I wish you both a lifetime of love and happiness.  Congratulations!"

artbyallie

Knottie94122343 said: I am the sister of the Groom and the Matron of Honor, which means I am suppose to give a speech. I would feel more comfortable singing than speaking. Does anyone have any suggestions on a good song for me to sing to my brother and his wife. I Hope You Dance is a good song but not a good choice for us, he is a bit past all that advice.
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You're not supposed to give a speech, though. At most, it is typical to propose a toast. This can be thirty seconds or even less. Literally all you need to say if you wish to give a toast is something like, "To my brother and the love of his life. May you have many happy years together." And then you raise your glass and everyone follows suit. Easy peasy.

RebeccaFlower

No, no, no, don't do this. Sorry, but it's not your place. If I went to a wedding and anyone sang instead of a speech, I would think they were a total attention whore. 

Plus, you don't have to give a speech, it's NOT a speech, it's a toast. It should be less than a minute. 

"Thank you all for being here to celebrate the happy couple. I've watched their love grow over the years and I am beyond happy for them and to be welcoming my brother's beautiful wife into our family. Please raise your glass and join me in wishing them a happy, healthy marriage." 

Done and done.