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Wedding Invitations & Paper
question
My friend lives with her boyfriend but I never met him.
I want to send an invitation for a party and I don't know if I should word it
Mrs. Denise F
and
Mr. Jake B
OR
Put him first and then her?
TIA
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Re: question
No "and" between names of people who are not married to each other, and their names are on separate lines. Ladies first.
Ms. Regina Schwaggner and Mr. Klaus Schwaggner (on the same line).
You must not separate the man's first name from his last name. I personally, prefer the traditional Mr. and Mrs. Klaus Schwaggner, as do many married couples. If I know that they prefer the other listing, then I use it, but it is not the default form.
Ms. Jennifer Smith and Mr. Armen Smith is perfectly acceptable.
Mr. Armen and Mrs. Jennifer Smith is not.
In the 1970's the feminist movement encouraged women to use their names, especially in business. The new title "Ms." simply indicated "female" without any marital status, just as "Mr." means "male". It is no longer considered rude to address a woman's mail by her given name, but it would have horrified ladies before WWII. It would have been considered too familiar and rather rude. This is still the case in some European countries.
Mrs. Mary Smith traditionally indicated a divorced woman.
I, personally like mail that is addressed to both of us to be Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. I'm traditional. If mail is addressed to me alone, it can be Mrs. John Smith, or Ms. Mary Smith. I hate just Mary Smith. That is how junk mail is addressed. I would not like Mrs. Mary Smith, either, because I am not divorced, but I know several divorced ladies with children who do like this.
For the feminists who care, there is nothing wrong with Ms. Mary Smith and Mr. John Smith, instead of Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, but both persons get their last name, whether it be the same, or not.