Why are discussions getting moved?

esstee33

hellosweetie1015 said:

Cookie Pusher said:

hellosweetie1015 said:

Shortened the quote tree.

If you never post on other boards, then you'll never get comfortable posting on other boards. Sometimes, you just have to be a grown-up and put yourself out there to see what will happen. What's the worst that would happen - no one responds to your post? Boo. Hoo. It's not like someone's going to go over to your house and stone you for posting somewhere outside of Chit Chat.

And a lot of CC ladies post on the Etiquette, Wedding Party, Reception, and Snarky Brides boards so you would definitely see familiar names.

Box Fix.

The last time I posted on E, I had my throat jumped down, essentially because of the fact that I'm waaaaaaaaaay more outgoing on the internet than I am in real life, and something that was technically "etiquette approved" would make me choose to leave a party.

Lolo and esstee (and whoever else mentioned it) I do know y'all post elsewhere. But CC is a safe board for me, I feel like. It's almost always the same people, they're always friendly, nobody makes me feel like a dumb country shit. This is the ONLY board on this forum that I feel like that. 

Also - I'm not saying by any means move everything here. I'd go away if that started happening, because that would bring ALL the strangers into my safe place and then I'd be so very not okay. I'm also not saying that you should change the mods' duties to fit my specific needs, or those of any other poster. What I am saying that it shouldn't be "Oh, there's a bunch of threads on here that are wedding related, but CC's not really supposed to be wedding related, and oh, then, let's move JUST THESE TWO because they put us over the new random limit of WR threads for this board." Because then I'm going to be afraid that the next time I post something WR (if I ever do again, haha... still no date), it's going to get moved arbitrarily. And I *don't* post here because it gets more activity, I post here because I *like* you people and you give good advice and have yet to jump down my throat when I do something stupid.

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But that's just the thing -- if you're not comfortable posting on other boards, then don't. I don't know what you posted that you feel like people jumped all over you for, but there are tons of posters on this board and on E and on every other board with a variety of life experiences and different views on things. That can happen on CC just like anywhere else. 

The foundation of your argument seems to be that you're not comfortable posting on other boards so things shouldn't be moved even when they belong elsewhere, and that just makes absolutely no sense. And re: the bolded, that's pretty dramatic. An arbitrary line in the sand of how many wedding-related posts can be allowed on CC at a time? Really? Granted, there can be a ton of overlap between what's "wedding related" and not on a wedding forum where almost everything is wedding related in some capacity, but seriously. You're making this into a big fat hairy deal when it's not. The threads that were moved were moved because they made WAY more sense in the other forum than in CC. 

beethery

@hellosweetie1015 Hypothetical time!

If you posted a question or something that was directly related to invitations on here, it would rightly be moved to I&P. If you were uncomfortable with that, you would basically get told to tough it out. Because that's where it goes. 

It is not as a personal affront to you, it is for organization and search purposes. It makes sense to post things in the categorized boards that they belong on. I don't know what else to tell you besides that if you are not comfortable posting something specifically related to ______ on _____ board, then you could either post and run, lurk, search, or just not post whatever it is if it doesn't make sense on CC (or wherever).

ohannabelle

I dare the organizers to organize the Wedding Woes board, which is 98% chit chat, and 2% woe. 

Not that I care, I just think it would be entertaining to watch. 

photokitty

esstee33 said:

photokitty said:

theycallmelinz said:

Real question: When I get my E-pics back this week, can I not post them on this board? Because this is the board I'm on 98% of the time, so you ladies are the only ones I care to show them to. I feel like if I put them on the Photos and Video board, no one will see them and that'll defeat the purpose of my AW, thus hurting my ego and self-esteem.  

If you want to post photos to review your vendor or get opinions on them bc you aren't happy then the P&V boards is appropriate. 

If you want to AW and say I got married then that is chit chat.

I move threads all the time on the P&V. I don't see anything wrong with putting then on the appropriate page. It's not like the mods are deleting them. Just putting them where the people who frequent those boards, and are often more versed on those topics, can see them and give advice.

It pains me to see a post that says "I didn't post this on XYZ board bc it looks dead" - if we keep that up we might as well get rid of everything but E & CC. But it that happens I'm outta that hot mess.

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I know what you mean when you say "P&V" but I'll admit I'm giggling like a loon over here.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T3wcxHiorJ4

KatieinBkln

hellosweetie1015 said:

. And I *don't* post here because it gets more activity, I post here because I *like* you people and you give good advice and have yet to jump down my throat when I do something stupid.

Oh honey. Try to take the "jump down your throat" as the badge of courage and rite of passage that it is (and has been for so many of us) rather than something to fear. 

Shit, I posted a question on the Ceremonies board a few months ago that got my idea branded AWish and horrible and awkward as fuck! And, upon further reflection, it was indeed awkward as fuck. It felt a little shitty at first, but ultimately it is a sign that the feisty broads on this forum are no more likely to blow sunshine up your ass if you're a reg than if you aren't.

This is going to come across more harsh than perhaps I mean it to, but...if you post in CC and a mod moves it to E or whatever, and people start responding in ways that make you feel bad or too country, that is a You problem, not a Forum problem. But! You can also just...stop checking the thread and let it die its natural death, if that were to happen.

Related to the question at hand: I have occasionally done an XP into CC when a different board wasn't answering me as fast as my impatient little ass prefers, but I do try to mention that it's a XP. @photokitty @beethery @ ...any other mods: I will stop now, and encourage the use and participation of the less-trafficked boards forthwith.

Cookie Pusher

hellosweetie1015 said:

Cookie Pusher said:

hellosweetie1015 said:

Shortened the quote tree.

If you never post on other boards, then you'll never get comfortable posting on other boards. Sometimes, you just have to be a grown-up and put yourself out there to see what will happen. What's the worst that would happen - no one responds to your post? Boo. Hoo. It's not like someone's going to go over to your house and stone you for posting somewhere outside of Chit Chat.

And a lot of CC ladies post on the Etiquette, Wedding Party, Reception, and Snarky Brides boards so you would definitely see familiar names.

Box Fix.

The last time I posted on E, I had my throat jumped down, essentially because of the fact that I'm waaaaaaaaaay more outgoing on the internet than I am in real life, and something that was technically "etiquette approved" would make me choose to leave a party.

Lolo and esstee (and whoever else mentioned it) I do know y'all post elsewhere. But CC is a safe board for me, I feel like. It's almost always the same people, they're always friendly, nobody makes me feel like a dumb country shit. This is the ONLY board on this forum that I feel like that. 

Also - I'm not saying by any means move everything here. I'd go away if that started happening, because that would bring ALL the strangers into my safe place and then I'd be so very not okay. I'm also not saying that you should change the mods' duties to fit my specific needs, or those of any other poster. What I am saying that it shouldn't be "Oh, there's a bunch of threads on here that are wedding related, but CC's not really supposed to be wedding related, and oh, then, let's move JUST THESE TWO because they put us over the new random limit of WR threads for this board." Because then I'm going to be afraid that the next time I post something WR (if I ever do again, haha... still no date), it's going to get moved arbitrarily. And I *don't* post here because it gets more activity, I post here because I *like* you people and you give good advice and have yet to jump down my throat when I do something stupid.

We're the same people who wouldn't validate rude, tacky, and logistically awkward ideas here. If you posted the same thing here, I would expect you'd get the same kind of responses. As @katieinbkln said, if you don't like how people respond to something you post, you do have the option of not reading it. 

Sugargirl1019

I'm going to try to participate on the other boards again. While I was engaged, I always frequented the other boards with what I was dealing with at the time of my planning. Now, I don't have any questions. So I have been on CC only. I'm going to try to respond to others questions now too.

AddieCake

I post everywhere. There is no reason to be afraid to post on certain boards. You do need to tread carefully on Wedding Woes, but that's it. That and maybe Not Engaged are the only boards that really function "in isolation" so to speak.

ETA: I'm going to treat you the same be it here or on any other board, so it's not like CC has any kind of cone of protection around it any more than E has a cone of snark. 

phira

As someone whose thread was moved ...

... eh, I don't really care one way or the other.

beethery

ohannabelle said:

I dare the organizers to organize the Wedding Woes board, which is 98% chit chat, and 2% woe. 

Not that I care, I just think it would be entertaining to watch. 

This is a perfect example.

I've lurked over there, been like:

And known right off the bat, this part ain't for me. So I don't play around on there.

luckya23

AddieCake said:

I post everywhere. There is no reason to be afraid to post on certain boards. You do need to tread carefully on Wedding Woes, but that's it. That and maybe Not Engaged are the only boards that really function "in isolation" so to speak.

Well maybe the efforts to randomly "clean up" can be focused on dysfunctional boards... This just seemed to pop up suddenly today. 

I hang out here, and I would be kind of annoyed if suddenly what I wanted to chat about randomly got moved to a mostly dead board, because it was too "wedding-y." 

At the top of my screen it says Wedding Boards > Chit Chat... not "Not Wedding Related Only".

I can only imagine how dead the actual "NWR" ie, "Life Boards" are. 

Truth be told though, I prefer the WB format where you can see ALL of the newest discussions in one place, no matter which board they were posted to.  Maybe they should add that option if they want to show people that other boards are actually active. 

I don't personally want to pop into each "room" to see if anything is going on... I waste enough time on here!!

ohannabelle

luckya23 said:

AddieCake said:

I post everywhere. There is no reason to be afraid to post on certain boards. You do need to tread carefully on Wedding Woes, but that's it. That and maybe Not Engaged are the only boards that really function "in isolation" so to speak.

Well maybe the efforts to randomly "clean up" can be focused on dysfunctional boards... This just seemed to pop up suddenly today. 

I hang out here, and I would be kind of annoyed if suddenly what I wanted to chat about randomly got moved to a mostly dead board, because it was too "wedding-y." 

At the top of my screen it says Wedding Boards > Chit Chat... not "Not Wedding Related Only".

I can only imagine how dead the actual "NWR" ie, "Life Boards" are. 

Truth be told though, I prefer the WB format where you can see ALL of the newest discussions in one place, no matter which board they were posted to.  Maybe they should add that option if they want to show people that other boards are actually active. 

I don't personally want to pop into each "room" to see if anything is going on... I waste enough time on here!!

X1000. We need a "view all boards" option that displays the most recent posts. This would encourage participation all across the boards, and reduce our chances of missing a good shit show.

esstee33

luckya23 said:

AddieCake said:

I post everywhere. There is no reason to be afraid to post on certain boards. You do need to tread carefully on Wedding Woes, but that's it. That and maybe Not Engaged are the only boards that really function "in isolation" so to speak.

Well maybe the efforts to randomly "clean up" can be focused on dysfunctional boards... This just seemed to pop up suddenly today. 

I hang out here, and I would be kind of annoyed if suddenly what I wanted to chat about randomly got moved to a mostly dead board, because it was too "wedding-y." 

At the top of my screen it says Wedding Boards > Chit Chat... not "Not Wedding Related Only".

I can only imagine how dead the actual "NWR" ie, "Life Boards" are. 

Truth be told though, I prefer the WB format where you can see ALL of the newest discussions in one place, no matter which board they were posted to.  Maybe they should add that option if they want to show people that other boards are actually active. 

I don't personally want to pop into each "room" to see if anything is going on... I waste enough time on here!!

I don't disagree that we need something like a "view all recent posts" option; that would be really helpful in directing traffic to different boards. 

What I think some people are failing to understand is that you're a limited-time-thing for the boards. You know how we all tell posters that your wedding is never going to be as important to other people as it is to you, and it's not the be-all, end-all of the world? Same kind of thing here. You (general you) are a valuable addition to the community, but you're also transient. The things you post are relevant to you right now, but they'll continue to be relevant to other posters for quite a while, even long after you get married and move on from the forums. If you're posing all sorts of wedding-related shit in CC, that means it's NOT getting posted in the more relevant forum that it should go in, thereby limiting the number of future brides who could benefit from that thread because they can't find it. Why not? Because it's in CC. If I'm looking for an answer to a specific etiquette question, I'm not going to look in CC. If I do a search for something very specifically E-related, I'm probably going to limit that search to the E board only, because why the shit would I want results from Customs & Traditions? 

Furthermore, the only reason those boards are comparatively "dead" is because people are posting in CC! Start posting E-related things in the E board, attire things in A&A, etc., and those boards start being significantly less dead. Organization is super important for an online forum this large, and moving threads when they're in the wrong place is a necessary component of that. Otherwise, CC will be like 10 pages of "new" threads, only half of which actually belong here. 

Re: the bolded: Uh, ok? As already stated several times to the OP, if you don't like going to other boards, that's on you. No forum should be changing the way it operates just because some members are too lazy to appropriately use them. 

theartistformerlyknownas

ohannabelle said:

luckya23 said:

AddieCake said:

I post everywhere. There is no reason to be afraid to post on certain boards. You do need to tread carefully on Wedding Woes, but that's it. That and maybe Not Engaged are the only boards that really function "in isolation" so to speak.

Well maybe the efforts to randomly "clean up" can be focused on dysfunctional boards... This just seemed to pop up suddenly today. 

I hang out here, and I would be kind of annoyed if suddenly what I wanted to chat about randomly got moved to a mostly dead board, because it was too "wedding-y." 

At the top of my screen it says Wedding Boards > Chit Chat... not "Not Wedding Related Only".

I can only imagine how dead the actual "NWR" ie, "Life Boards" are. 

Truth be told though, I prefer the WB format where you can see ALL of the newest discussions in one place, no matter which board they were posted to.  Maybe they should add that option if they want to show people that other boards are actually active. 

I don't personally want to pop into each "room" to see if anything is going on... I waste enough time on here!!

X1000. We need a "view all boards" option that displays the most recent posts. This would encourage participation all across the boards, and reduce our chances of missing a good shit show.

If you click the "Wedding Boards" link it'll show you the most recently commented on post.

larrygaga

Ehh not a fan

themosthappy91

What IS the story with Wedding Woes?  One time I posted over there asking what the deal with the Dear Prudence letters was- I had never heard of that advice column and was rather confused when I first joined the Knot and was lurking around... they were very nice about explaining it to me (and a few other lurkers who came out of the woodwork and echoed that they weren't sure what it was about either) but I still am not sure why that isn't considered chit-chat?  

doeydo

Mrs. Conn always posts the Dear Prudence things.  I don't get it, is she Prudence?

Edited because I went through themosthappy91's posting history.  Apparently she just posts the questions because they're funny and they can talk about it.

AddieCake

themosthappy91 said:

What IS the story with Wedding Woes?  One time I posted over there asking what the deal with the Dear Prudence letters was- I had never heard of that advice column and was rather confused when I first joined the Knot and was lurking around... they were very nice about explaining it to me (and a few other lurkers who came out of the woodwork and echoed that they weren't sure what it was about either) but I still am not sure why that isn't considered chit-chat?  

They have been a tight group for many, many years, and it's just the way it is.

buttercup1958

lovegood90 said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

I don't know what team I'm on. 

Just needed to say- I LOVE Curb Your Enthusiasm!

I do too! Larry David is awesome

beethery

Oh my fucking god. There is a redirect link left in CC. Click it if you're looking for the post.

View all would be ideal for those who want a catch-all. I agree with that.

esstee33

One last note before I go off to live my life and drink more wine and begin anew my endless search for my missing social security card (UGH)... 

You know how to stop the "tyrannical" mods from moving your threads? Post them in the correct place to begin with. Problem solved! 

raissyrais

ClimbingBrideNY said:

MagicInk said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

I don't know what team I'm on. 

You can be on my team!

My team is doing nothing, my team doesn't give a shit one way or another just make the link easy for me because I can't even remember where the gay wedding board is, my team might be drinking a hot toddy for medical reasons. The doctor said honey was good for my cough! 

I like your team. Count me in!

Me too. Tacos anyone?