So, my FMIL and I have a rocky relationship. She's very overbearing and wants to be involved in every little thing about my life, not just wedding. My fiance is her only child so I do try to include her, but when I do she oversteps her welcome. Basically with her if I give her an inch she takes a mile. Total cliche mother in law situation.
So, my question is about the dress. I took her wedding dress shopping with me because i knew she would appreciate it and it went somewhat ok. The main thing that stung was when I tried on a more form fitted wedding dress that everyone loved I expressed that while it looked ok, I didn't feel fully comfortable in it. I like dresses that poof out at my waist. I have an hourglass figure and I feel most confident in that but she is always trying to get me to wear different types of dresses and says I wear the same style all the time. So, when I tried the tighter dress on and stated that while I felt bridal, I wasnt feeling comfortable she said "If you don't feel comfortable just loose a few pounds and you will be ok". Like, really? Is it ok to ever tell someone to lose weight but you're really going to tell me this while I am in a wedding dress??
After that trip I went shopping with my MOH and found the dress. I bought it and didn't bother telling her since she tends to insult my dress selections. But, I am guessing she is mad at me for not taking her when I found the dress and not sending her photos later. However, the last wedding we went to as a family I bought a pretty blue dress and when I showed her she said "Really? You're wearing that?". My own mother knows how much this woman stresses me out and has told me that it might be a good idea not to show her my dress until the big day. I really don't want to show my FMIL my dress and have her say something like "really? that dress?", but I feel like she will nag so much that in the end I will show her. Any ideas about how to smooth this situation over? I just am not in the mood to deal with anyone saying anything negative about my selection, and she constantly does this. Plus she's already tried to take over decoations and catering and I've about had it with her.