Hey ladies,
I'm just looking for a little advice and maybe some insight into how you make your decisions about which family to visit for the holidays.
Back story:
- BF's family lives one hour away. We see someone from his family at least once a month. I've never brought this up in a conversation about the holidays, but it is a fact.
- My family lives 5 hours away. I have only seen them 3 times in 2014, and my hometown is super boring to my BF.
- I like his family just okay. As I already mentioned, his brother that just moved up is a total dick, and I'm still kind of ticked at his parents because of the whole house buying situation. However, I spent part of Christmas day with them last year, and they made me feel so insanely welcome.
- He gets along with my family. I think it's a very different dynamic than his. We're quieter people who enjoy playing board/card games and talking, while his family typically revolves everything around alcohol.
- We've gone through two sets of holidays together. The first year, we had only been dating a month. We went our separate ways, no big deal. Last year, he went on a road trip with his dad for thanksgiving, and I went home. I spent Christmas eve and Christmas morning with my family last year, then drove four hours ON CHRISTMAS to spend the afternoon/evening with his. He mostly just wanted to be able to spend time with his brother (who now lives near us, rather than in L.A.).
This year, I told him I don't care if we go our separate ways for Thanksgiving, which I don't. He is still saying that spending time with his brother is the reason that he wants to go to his family's. That's fine. But, we've seen the brother 3 times since he moved here a little over a month ago. Now, last night, I tried to talk to BF about Christmas and it sounds like he isn't willing to do the driving with me like I did last year. I am willing to swap who we visit first because he said that Christmas Eve is when they have all their fun. Easy decision then! Well, apparently not for him.
Can anyone think of any alternatives? Mostly, I'm just wondering how you made decisions about the holidays with your SO's? This year I am feeling quite strongly about it, for some reason. I just want to spend Christmas together, damnit!