Just a little bit of a vent here, and I also wouldn't mind some opinions. I'm not even really that upset, I'm honestly just kind of confused as to why it's so hard to pick out a long dress. I'm letting my BMs pick their own dresses. I gave them a color palette, so they have several different colors to choose from. The only "requirements" are that the dress is long, and not satin. And I'll totally compromise on those requirements.
For example, one of the BMs asked if she could wear a dress she already owned which was kind of tea length/ankle length and it was in the color palette. So yes, of course she can wear that one rather than spend money on a new one. But then to be fair to the other girls, I said that if they preferred tea length or ankle length instead of floor length, that's ok. One of them jumped on it and said "what about knee length?" I know this is stupid, and I know it shouldn't matter, but just as my own personal preference, no. I'd prefer it if they didn't wear knee length. It's just too short.
Two of the girls are really excited to wear floor length. One of them told the other girls that she plans on possibly getting the dress hemmed to a shorter length after the wedding so that she can wear it as a cocktail dress. Perfect! Another girl started a facebook group for all the BMs since we live in different cities and one of them is in a different country, so they could all talk to each other via the group. This girl has been finding great deals on floor length dresses online and has been posting them to the group to help out the other girls (she found an amazing dress in the right color that was floor length for $24 on clearance; she always finds great stuff like that).
I thought since they got to pick their own, have their own budget, decide on whichever color in the palette they like, decide from 3 different choices in length, etc that it would be no big deal. I thought this would be more fun and easier for them than having to wear a dress that I choose that they may not like, may not fit their body type, etc.
This morning I get a text from the same girl who had asked to wear knee length before, and she asked again. "Can I wear knee length or is that too short?" Maybe she forgot that we talked about this before, who knows. I said "sorry, too short." But then I thought, "Why does she keep asking this?" I understand that ankle length is definitely NOT popular (or flattering on some heights) and I understand that some people hate floor length dresses. Which is exactly why I gave them the option of tea length. I really don't understand. Am I being awful by saying no knee length? I mean, there's hardly any requirements for this stupid dress. I didn't think I was asking much. Now I'm starting to wonder if I'm totally wrong.
And I'll also add, this is a hill that's not worth dying on for me. There's still almost 6 months till my wedding, so the girls still have plenty of time to pick a dress. If the short dress girl insists on wearing a short dress, I'm not going to fight her on it or be demanding in anyway. I'll just say fine, wear the short dress. But honestly it bothers me a little bit. They're doing their hair however they want (and I offered to pay for them to get their hair done if they want it), and wearing whatever jewelry/shoes/accessories they want. Why is the stupid length of the dress so difficult?
Am I being an asshole? Is it dumb to even care about the length? What should I do here?