What's bugging you?

theartistformerlyknownas

Work is a giant shit show. I had to go to HR about one of my employees, and have a few super awkward conversations soon about her performance and attitude. 

My sister was "crashing for a few days" at our house (she got a new job and sold her house) but it's been 3.5 weeks and she's shown no indication of getting an apartment. H is getting annoyed with her being there, but I was the dummy who didn't set specific time parameters around her "short stay" to begin with so I don't know how to bring up the "soooo... when ya gettin' the fuck out?" topic without sounding like a jerk. But... fully HALF of our newlywed life to date has been with a houseguest, and you'd think she'd notice how awkward it is. But no. 

Aaaaand now a former colleague posted a link on FB to a "Giving Tree" account for his sister- and brother-in-law who have 2 kids, tried for a third, and WHOOPS got triplets. Um. Yeah it's expensive but do you realize how many people would kill for TOO MANY BABIES to be their problem?! Damn. You made a choice; own it. Don't go to the internet trying to raise money for a bigger car.

What's pissing you off today? Share your gripes.

Sugargirl1019

I totally feel ya on the house guest not jiving with being a newly wed. One month left of living with my parents! It's awful on us but my mom seems to love having her babies in the house eating her food. Maybe you can offer her info on an apartment you found that she might really like at a good price. You know, start that conversation up that way.

holyguacamole79

I just found out that we have off Dec 24 & 25 for work.  Which is great - yay Christmas.  BUT it means that I have to take Dec 26 off if I want a long weekend.  My former employer gave us Christmas + the day before or after.  So, if CHristmas fell on a Tuesday or Thursday, you'd get the Monday or Friday off to give people a long weekend.

Grrr...

novella1186

Ew. That's some annoying shit. I unfortunately just shared my gripe of the day in a HUUUUUUGGE long post. But the very brief summary is that my dad is being a total pain in the ass. 

chibiyui

Customers. Always customers.

I have one guy who's upset cause he doesn't know what a business day is and thinks his merchandise should be in by now, and another who was upset that a chair and ottoman was sold separate and claimed she didn't know that. Until I misquoted the price of the Ottoman. Then she knew exactly how much it was.

larrygaga

Yesterday I was bragging about how I never get sick and today I am home sick from work. How embarrassing.

holyguacamole79

@lolo883, my  dad lived with me for 6 months leading up to our wedding.  I had to be very clear and say "Wedding is Feb 2.  Eviction notice is Feb 3."  My brother moved in with us for 2 weeks this past May.  Again, 2 weeks and done.  It's frustrating - I get it.

luckya23

My BFF is going through a break up, and her reaction of being almost unable to function just seems ridiculous to me.  I never liked the guy anyway, so I'm having trouble being supportive.

My dogs are fighting between daily and multiple times a day and it's driving me crazy!  I have a dog trainer coming tomorrow, so hopefully that will help.  I'm also bringing them to a pet psychic, but couldn't get an appt until Dec 3. 

theartistformerlyknownas

holyguacamole79 said:

I just found out that we have off Dec 24 & 25 for work.  Which is great - yay Christmas.  BUT it means that I have to take Dec 26 off if I want a long weekend.  My former employer gave us Christmas + the day before or after.  So, if CHristmas fell on a Tuesday or Thursday, you'd get the Monday or Friday off to give people a long weekend.

Grrr...

Ewwww. Work for the auto industry - we're off 12/24-1/2.

Sugargirl1019 said:

I totally feel ya on the house guest not jiving with being a newly wed. One month left of living with my parents! It's awful on us but my mom seems to love having her babies in the house eating her food. Maybe you can offer her info on an apartment you found that she might really like at a good price. You know, start that conversation up that way.

She's looked at a few... but is totally lackadaisical about it, not a lot of gumption. She drives the fuck all over the state visiting friends on the weekends and days off instead of looking for a place. I think I will start sending her suggestions though.

southernbelle0915

My skin is dry and irritated because winter.

I have to pee but the janitors are cleaning the women's bathroom.

My boss hasn't approved my time off for Christmas and I'm a type A planner who NEEDS TO KNOW!

FiancB

I am looking for someone to lease/maybe buy my horse and I forgot how much I hate dealing with time wasting flakes. 90% of them just drop off without any explanation. 

Or they're dumb. Like you list the horse for $1 because you want to discuss and negotiate, and explain that in the ad, and list all these qualities that make the horse clearly worth a few thousand dollars, and they literally think you are selling the horse for one dollar. Or the ad says in all caps FOR LEASE and they just don't notice that. 

It makes me stabby. 

Or a lot of people have a cutoff for minimum height in mind, and my horse is a half inch under a popular one and they are just nuh uh not interested for that reason. 

daria24

I'm having a hard time deciding whether to send a snarky reply or not...

My boss gets things wrong so often that we've actually started to think she has early onset dementia (she's in her late 40s or early 50s). She CONSTANTLY schedules meetings and then gets the dates/times wrong. IE she'll schedule a phone call for 3pm Friday and at 3pm Thursday she calls and is confused about why you aren't ready.

On Monday she sent an email titled "Post Meeting Thursday". The body of the email asks if we can meet at 12pm Thursday. 15 minutes ago I get a follow up email saying "please reconfirm you can meet at 12pm today." Someone replies the meeting is tomorrow and boss responds "no we scheduled it for today." THE TITLE OF THE EMAIL IS POST MEETING THURSDAY LADY.

So I really think I'm going to have to just bluntly say "This email is entitled "Post Meeting Thursday. It is currently Wednesday, unless you are in Australia. " Because I can't take it anymooooooooooore.

lacqueredlover

Everything is bugging me right now.  I'm tired from getting about 3 hours of sleep total.  I'm annoyed with my FI for just a bunch of little stupid things.  I'm annoyed we have to spend the next 3 weekends with his family.  I"m annoyed that I have to go up to my parents house for Thanksgiving next week.  I'm annoyed that it's so freaking cold out.  I'm annoyed that the cowlick in the front of my hair looks stupid.  I'm annoyed that I have cramps.  I'm annoyed that my arm hurts from the flu shot.

Shall I go on?  

novella1186

lolo883 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

I just found out that we have off Dec 24 & 25 for work.  Which is great - yay Christmas.  BUT it means that I have to take Dec 26 off if I want a long weekend.  My former employer gave us Christmas + the day before or after.  So, if CHristmas fell on a Tuesday or Thursday, you'd get the Monday or Friday off to give people a long weekend.

Grrr...

Ewwww. Work for the auto industry - we're off 12/24-1/2.

Sugargirl1019 said:

I totally feel ya on the house guest not jiving with being a newly wed. One month left of living with my parents! It's awful on us but my mom seems to love having her babies in the house eating her food. Maybe you can offer her info on an apartment you found that she might really like at a good price. You know, start that conversation up that way.

She's looked at a few... but is totally lackadaisical about it, not a lot of gumption. She drives the fuck all over the state visiting friends on the weekends and days off instead of looking for a place. I think I will start sending her suggestions though.

That would totally make me mad. I have some major sympathy for you; FI's annoying friend showed up at our house Friday afternoon for a party we were having Saturday night. He did not leave till Sunday night and we had to work the next day. I was trying to be a good host but I was piiiiiiiissed. I can't even imagine having someone crash at my house for weeks and weeks. Nope! 

sarawifenow

Today is H's birthday. I would much rather be cleaning my house for our dinner guests than doing portfolio reviews. Ugh!

cupcait927

I'm annoyed with H for all sorts of little things lately. This includes, but is not limited to, the fact that while the actual hole in our wall is gone, it's still a mess and the project is half finished (meaning no sanding, no clean up, no paint). He also has yet to finish up my mini bathroom remodel, which was supposed to be done by my birthday - which is next Monday. And we're busy every day until then.

I'm annoyed that I probably won't get the day after Christmas off, even though my supervisor did approve it, because everyone else wants it off as well. I'm sure my request won't take priority since I don't have kids and I'm not going out of town.

I'm also irritated that almost every free second of the Thanksgiving holiday (Wed - Sat) has been taken up by H's family and work (mostly H's family). And then on the Sunday after Thanksgiving I reluctantly agreed to go to the Bills game with my besties and H, even though I loathe football. This means I have to get up at 5 am, because god forbid we leave to go to the 1 pm game any later than 7 am (we live an hour and a half away from the stadium),  and I won't get home until god knows what time, just in time to go back to work the next day. It's on me for agreeing to go, but I wanted to be a good wife to H and do something that he likes.

 

kat1114

lolo883 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

I just found out that we have off Dec 24 & 25 for work.  Which is great - yay Christmas.  BUT it means that I have to take Dec 26 off if I want a long weekend.  My former employer gave us Christmas + the day before or after.  So, if CHristmas fell on a Tuesday or Thursday, you'd get the Monday or Friday off to give people a long weekend.

Grrr...

Ewwww. Work for the auto industry - we're off 12/24-1/2.

Or the aviation industry. We're also off those days.

Today my stomach is pissing me off. My lower right abdomen has been hurting constantly for over 3 years. I've been to several doctors, done lots of tests, and they can't seem to figure it out. Sometimes it hurts less than others, but it always hurts. It seemed like it was at least getting manageable for a while, but it has come back with a vengeance this week. Having stomach issues at work is so incredibly uncomfortable.

novella1186

kat1114 said:

lolo883 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

I just found out that we have off Dec 24 & 25 for work.  Which is great - yay Christmas.  BUT it means that I have to take Dec 26 off if I want a long weekend.  My former employer gave us Christmas + the day before or after.  So, if CHristmas fell on a Tuesday or Thursday, you'd get the Monday or Friday off to give people a long weekend.

Grrr...

Ewwww. Work for the auto industry - we're off 12/24-1/2.

Or the aviation industry. We're also off those days.

Today my stomach is pissing me off. My lower right abdomen has been hurting constantly for over 3 years. I've been to several doctors, done lots of tests, and they can't seem to figure it out. Sometimes it hurts less than others, but it always hurts. It seemed like it was at least getting manageable for a while, but it has come back with a vengeance this week. Having stomach issues at work is so incredibly uncomfortable.

That sounds awful. I've been dealing with stomach issues lately too and had to work from home 4 different days this month already. I feel like an asshole when I have to tell my boss I'm not coming in. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all that pain, and especially mystery pain  

beethery

My bestie is blowing me up for advice about her relationship. Her BF didn't understand that, even though he had no non-platonic feelings for her, hanging out (outside of work) with a co-worker who is actively trying to get you to cheat on your GF is inappropriate. That was a while ago and apparently he boarded the clue train and got with the fucking program for a while.

Well lately he's been talking to some girl about how they used to bang and how they're both sad she never sent him topless pics. Nobody besides them would know about this shit if Bestie hadn't logged into his facebook to check up on him. She couldn't figure out how to approach it and at least knew I was right when I told her there was no way to bring it up without looking a million percent crazy. This girl he's talking to apparently is digging for info about Bestie to see how their relationship is doing, etc etc.

She told me all about this shit last week and I explained that she ought to fucking mosey. She has trust issues, which aren't exactly unfounded. It's very clear that motherfucker doesn't understand boundaries (and she doesn't either because logging into his fb to check on his messages is some boundary-crossing shit if I ever heard any).

I told her last year when they moved in together that if she calls me up going off about him treating her like shit, she ought to be ending the statement with, "...and I'm packing my shit now to get the fuck out of here."

It's very clear that he sucks. I don't know if he's playing oblivious about not understanding that you don't need to have these conversations with people when you're in a relationship with someone because it's inappropriate, or if he really doesn't see the problem with it.

All that is big doin's, but when she found out I got FI an xbox and was playing Destiny, she asked her BF if she could give it a shot (since it's his xbox at their apt). So I went on there, and we got headsets and were running around. I hear, "So... am I going to get to try the game? Or did you just give me the headset so I could talk to B while you play. I guess this is alright but you said I could try it."

I hear motherfucker tell her he's busy raiding and that B is a good shield.

FUCKIN' SCUSE YOU?????? I am nobody's fucking shield. Also, share with your fucking girlfriend for 5 minutes. JFC.

I will say though, I was excited that we were in the Crucible area when I heard this, because I grenaded/void bombed the living fuck out of him and his character died. Bitch.

smalfrie19

I am annoyed that my start date for my new job isn't until the 1st of december. 

climbingsingle

My brother said he's going to call me later, and he wants to talk about hanging out this weekend. And I have a feeling it's going to entail me driving him to some show or something, and then paying for his drinks because he never has any money. 

ashley8918

The inevitably awkward situation that i'm going to be put in soon is bugging me.

So, my second cousin lost her battle with cancer yesterday. She was very young (my mom's age) and it's really awful. I am feeling really blah and sad today.

But the thing that's actually bugging me is how my grandma is likely to handle this. A while back, I posted about how she is estranged from all of her children and grandchildren but me. She and my grandpa (who I asked to walk me down the aisle) didn't come to my wedding because of it.

This particular secon cousin is on my grandma's side and we are not super close with them, so we found out through a chain of calls. So, it stands to reason that my grandma doesn't know that we (my mom, aunts, uncles, me, etc.) don't know yet. I suspect that she will call and tell me about it, and I am concerned that she will tall me not to tell my mom or give her details about the wake, etc. I know this seems like a weird conclusion to jump to before it happens, but trust me. Similar things have happened. I am really worried that she will try to put me in this position, and I will have to tell her how fucking wrong she is being.

l9i

I'm annoyed that H has had the last three days off work and has done absolutely nothing around the house, if anything it's more cluttered....  I get relaxing, but come on, start the dishwasher or put some clothes in the washer.  Those things take a few minutes and then you can continue to relax... grrrrr

holyguacamole79

I'm sorry for your loss, @Ashley8918.

chibiyui

I'm getting my period soon, and I can not stop eating Reese mini peanut butter cups.

larrygaga

beethery said:

My bestie is blowing me up for advice about her relationship. Her BF didn't understand that, even though he had no non-platonic feelings for her, hanging out (outside of work) with a co-worker who is actively trying to get you to cheat on your GF is inappropriate. That was a while ago and apparently he boarded the clue train and got with the fucking program for a while.

Well lately he's been talking to some girl about how they used to bang and how they're both sad she never sent him topless pics. Nobody besides them would know about this shit if Bestie hadn't logged into his facebook to check up on him. She couldn't figure out how to approach it and at least knew I was right when I told her there was no way to bring it up without looking a million percent crazy. This girl he's talking to apparently is digging for info about Bestie to see how their relationship is doing, etc etc.

She told me all about this shit last week and I explained that she ought to fucking mosey. She has trust issues, which aren't exactly unfounded. It's very clear that motherfucker doesn't understand boundaries (and she doesn't either because logging into his fb to check on his messages is some boundary-crossing shit if I ever heard any).

I told her last year when they moved in together that if she calls me up going off about him treating her like shit, she ought to be ending the statement with, "...and I'm packing my shit now to get the fuck out of here."

It's very clear that he sucks. I don't know if he's playing oblivious about not understanding that you don't need to have these conversations with people when you're in a relationship with someone because it's inappropriate, or if he really doesn't see the problem with it.

All that is big doin's, but when she found out I got FI an xbox and was playing Destiny, she asked her BF if she could give it a shot (since it's his xbox at their apt). So I went on there, and we got headsets and were running around. I hear, "So... am I going to get to try the game? Or did you just give me the headset so I could talk to B while you play. I guess this is alright but you said I could try it."

I hear motherfucker tell her he's busy raiding and that B is a good shield.

FUCKIN' SCUSE YOU?????? I am nobody's fucking shield. Also, share with your fucking girlfriend for 5 minutes. JFC.

I will say though, I was excited that we were in the Crucible area when I heard this, because I grenaded/void bombed the living fuck out of him and his character died. Bitch.

HAHAHAHA. I use my little sister as a shield in every game we play. I constantly throw her under the bus in l4d2. LOL

Jells2dot0

I have a fever that won't go away. It's not an infection and it spikes randomly. It will spike up over the course of any hour and then the next hour it will be gone. It was really bad this morning at 102.5. That probably doesn't seem too bad to most, but for someone recovering from cancer, it's a big deal. The doctor just keeps telling me it's from a cold I had two weeks ago. I didn't have a fever when I had the cold, so I'm not sure I agree.

Sugargirl1019

holyguacamole79 said:

I'm sorry for your loss, @Ashley8918.

So sorry. Hugs for you, thinking of your family.

beethery

Jells2dot0 said:

I have a fever that won't go away. It's not an infection and it spikes randomly. It will spike up over the course of any hour and then the next hour it will be gone. It was really bad this morning at 102.5. That probably doesn't seem too bad to most, but for someone recovering from cancer, it's a big deal. The doctor just keeps telling me it's from a cold I had two weeks ago. I didn't have a fever when I had the cold, so I'm not sure I agree.

Uuuuugh fevers are terrible! I'm sorry you're dealing with that. They make you feel so extra shitty

Jells2dot0

ashley8918 said:

The inevitably awkward situation that i'm going to be put in soon is bugging me.

So, my second cousin lost her battle with cancer yesterday. She was very young (my mom's age) and it's really awful. I am feeling really blah and sad today.

But the thing that's actually bugging me is how my grandma is likely to handle this. A while back, I posted about how she is estranged from all of her children and grandchildren but me. She and my grandpa (who I asked to walk me down the aisle) didn't come to my wedding because of it.

This particular secon cousin is on my grandma's side and we are not super close with them, so we found out through a chain of calls. So, it stands to reason that my grandma doesn't know that we (my mom, aunts, uncles, me, etc.) don't know yet. I suspect that she will call and tell me about it, and I am concerned that she will tall me not to tell my mom or give her details about the wake, etc. I know this seems like a weird conclusion to jump to before it happens, but trust me. Similar things have happened. I am really worried that she will try to put me in this position, and I will have to tell her how fucking wrong she is being.

So sorry for your loss. I hate cancer SOOO much.

climbingsingle

I'm so sorry for your loss Ashley.