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Is this weird?

So my parents are coming next week to visit.  We will not see them again before xmas.  I've been racking my brain for a gift.    They are going to Hawaii for xmas with my sister and her family.  I was thinking of getting them an activity but my sister is a super-planner.   I asked about what they are doing and she was like "snorkel one day, zip line another day, blah, blah". I tired to ask about details like the when, where and with who to maybe get a GC to pay for the activity.   She didn't respond.  Finally today she said most of the activities have been paid for.       

Okay, it would have been nice to know that earlier so I could look at other stuff.     Anyway, they do have some non-planned days.  My dad loves to fly.  He taught flying to pay his way throw college.   I found a airplane tour that I think they would love to do.   They do not have gift certificates.  I also do not know their plans to make a reservation now for them.

So would it be weird to approach them when they are here that we would like to give them this tour and make/pay for the reservation while they are here?

My parents have money and do not need anything.  They tend to give us a check for xmas.  It would be weird to just give them say a visa gift card towards the activity.   








What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 

Re: Is this weird?

  • Which island?  Can you get them a gift card to one of the nicer restaurants there?  I like your idea, but it just might become a pain in the butt to pay for it for them.

    Also, since you are on right now, can you ban the spamming vendor who is listed under "Recent Activity" right now?  Username is exqstrikeing
  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    They are going to Kauai.     We can book online, so I can have them pick the date and times and pay for it when they are here.  

    I believe my sister has all the dinners planned.  I do not know the restaurants.  I was going thinking of paying for all of them to go to a luau.  Of course my sister already did that.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • lyndausvi said:
    They are going to Kauai.     We can book online, so I can have them pick the date and times and pay for it when they are here.  

    I believe my sister has all the dinners planned.  I do not know the restaurants.  I was going thinking of paying for all of them to go to a luau.  Of course my sister already did that.
    Call up Brennecke's and see if they'll do lunch and drinks one day and have you pay for it, and tell your sister so that she can get them there on that time/day.
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  • I don't think it would be weird at all! You could always wrap a little home made gift certificate in a box and have them open it and then explain the reservation process and make the reso while they are there with you.
  • lc07 said:
    I don't think it would be weird at all! You could always wrap a little home made gift certificate in a box and have them open it and then explain the reservation process and make the reso while they are there with you.
    Good idea.







    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • Do you know where they're staying? Could you have something sent to them there? Drinks? Food?
  • I don't think it would be weird. I also think you could be a little bit more surprise-y about it and say "I want to make this fun reservation for you, I'm not gonna tell you what it is, but I need to know which day you'll be available to do it." Make sure they clear some time for it. 

    Mail the home-made gift certificate to their hotel that says where and when the airplane tour is. 
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  • I suck real bad at finding gifs. I was trying to find the SNL "simmer down now" because your sister is a freak of nature who plans too much haahah

    That sounds like a nice plan though! Or maybe you could get their reservation number and get them an upgraded room?

                                                                     

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  • jenna8984 said:

    I suck real bad at finding gifs. I was trying to find the SNL "simmer down now" because your sister is a freak of nature who plans too much haahah

    That sounds like a nice plan though! Or maybe you could get their reservation number and get them an upgraded room?

    They are using their Marriott points and already have the best room.  My dad is in the highest tier of their loyalty program (he stays in Marriotts 180+ days a year)  So he gets upgraded to the best room for free.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • Get them nothing. They are filthy rich and don't need your gifts. Buy something for yourself.

    Or give a donation to your favorite charity, in their names.


  • My parents are the same way, they dont' need me to buy them anything (and usually the things they like are out of my price range.)  I usually donate to a charity my mom is heavily involved with in her name and give my dad a gift certificate for the two of us to do a wine or whiskey class together
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  • We just give mine photos because they're the same way but they loooooove photos of us. Their house is pretty much a shrine to me and I think it is SO WEIRD but they're happy, so...yeah. Nice framed photo of you guys on vacation or something? If they're into that?

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  • My sister finally gave me their itinerary.   It was like pulling teeth with her.     Anyway, I booked them an airplane ride on one of their off days. The company said they can change the times and dates if they want.  They have taken similar flights in different parts of the world, so I know they will like something like that.  Plus my sister is happy that they are doing something without them - hehe.

    We have  no kids and do pretty good ourselves.  I enjoy giving them experience type gifts.


    @amelisha - once grandkids come long, they couldn't care less about pictures of their own kids.  The only pictures of us are our wedding pictures and some collages of when we were kids ourselves.  






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • That really sounds like a great gift that they will enjoy! Also, I am glad that the company made it easy for you to gift them the experience.
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