Health Issues

phat49firstime

My fiancé has gone through a series of testing prostate related and now we are waiting to see the urologist. One week ago he had a stroke. I've told him that I will marry him no matter what happens because he asked me if I still wanted to marry him. I've had people comment that they are surprised I haven't left him or think I should. Most have been empathetic. Before this happened I was so excited and was so ahead of everything. Now I've pulled back to focus on the health issues. I am exhausted to be honest. Our wedding is in May and I know much can happen in six months

MairePoppy

I'm sorry for your fi's health issues. Those people who are surprised that you would stand by him are asses. I guess you know who will have your back in times of crisis. If you have to scale back on your guest list, you know who to cut, right?

I hope you get hopeful news from the urologist.

RebeccaFlower

I'm so sorry you're facing this. Would you consider moving the wedding up? 

paperpusher

I don't have any advice.  You'll be in my thoughts.

levioosa

Wow, those people are dicks.  

I'm so sorry to hear about what you guys are going though.  You're in my thoughts and prayers.  

huskypuppy14

phat49firstime said:

My fiancé has gone through a series of testing prostate related and now we are waiting to see the urologist. One week ago he had a stroke. I've told him that I will marry him no matter what happens because he asked me if I still wanted to marry him. I've had people comment that they are surprised I haven't left him or think I should. Most have been empathetic. Before this happened I was so excited and was so ahead of everything. Now I've pulled back to focus on the health issues. I am exhausted to be honest. Our wedding is in May and I know much can happen in six months

natswild

OP, I'm sorry that the 2 of you are going through this.  I'm definitely thinking about you.  I'm hoping that he was looked at and treated right away, that makes all the difference.  I had a couple people during my practicum who didn't think anything about their symptoms and ended up with permanent damage

novella1186

I'm sorry this is happening. I'm even more sorry that people are awful enough to think you should leave him for health issues. You should ask them when and how they lost their souls. I wish you both the best, and good luck with the health issues.

steph861

huskypuppy14 said:

phat49firstime said:

My fiancé has gone through a series of testing prostate related and now we are waiting to see the urologist. One week ago he had a stroke. I've told him that I will marry him no matter what happens because he asked me if I still wanted to marry him. I've had people comment that they are surprised I haven't left him or think I should. Most have been empathetic. Before this happened I was so excited and was so ahead of everything. Now I've pulled back to focus on the health issues. I am exhausted to be honest. Our wedding is in May and I know much can happen in six months

Seriously, who the hell says this?! People are nuts.

lovegood90

I'm sorry you're going through this! I agree with others, sometimes the things that come out of people's mouths just astound me. Sending good vibes to you!

dolewhipper

phat49firstime. My father was engaged to a woman when we found out he had cancer and the dr gave him 9-15 months. The bitch left him, and the whole family thinks she's a disgusting asshole of a woman.

Luckily that opened the door for my now step mother and longtime friend of my dad to step in and say no matter what or how long, she wanted to be with him. His 9 months turned into 5 years and they had the most inspirational marriage I've ever witnessed. 

This can only make your relationship stronger. Pulling back is okay, and a LOT can happen in six months, as you said. Ts & Ps.

wrigleyville

Those comments are bullshit. Those people would be off our wedding list and out of our lives so fast their heads would spin.