Am I being unreasonable

Knottie41362858

First off, I'm new to the board...so HI!!!!

Im getting married in less than 2 weeks!!! So excited! I still have a lot to do (I still need to find shoes!!) but I'm slowing getting things done.

Im a little annoyed though. My brother lives in Ohio (I live in Florida) and he lets my parents (also in Florida) use an older car that he has so they don't have to pay car payments. Well him and his fiancé are flying in for the wedding the Thursday before. He wants to use his car to get around town, show his fiancé the sights, etc.  My mom asked me if I can pick her up from work since my brother will have his car.  Its 2 days and the day before my wedding!!! She lives 45 minutes from her job and I live a half hour from her house (not counting traffic). I will be spending my evenings after I get off work taking her home instead of getting last minute things done for the wedding. I was planning on getting my nails done on Friday after I get off work but if I have to pick her up I can't.

Am I being unreasonable by being annoyed at her request?  I could always hurry up and get things done by the Wed before the wedding, and just get my nails done the morning of. Should I be a nice daughter and help her out?  Or tell her that I would like to enjoy my experience as this is the first and last time I plan on ever having a wedding?

6fsn

I certainly wouldn't want to do it.  You can rent a car pretty cheaply.

NOLABridesmaid

Can anyone else pick her up?

Knottie41362858

My dad is the only other person in the family with a car (here in Florida it's only my parents and my great aunt, who is 80 and the poor woman couldnt find my moms work if she tried) is my dad. He normally works nights and my mom gets off work at 6:30. An hour and a half after me.

I just remembered that we bought lower level lightning tickets and special lighting tshirts that we were going to put "bride" and "groom" on for the Thursday before. I can't pick her up on Thursday if I wanted to. Between the tshirts, and the tickets, its a lot of money to throw away for a ride home. And we were going to try and get on the jumbotron "kiss cam." I dont want to miss out on my lightning experience. This is one thing about the wedding thing that my fiance is excited about lol!!!! Both my brother and my mom know about our lightning night out. They are going to have to figure something out for that Thursday, at least.

MesmrEwe

IMO - you're not being unreasonable (taking the wedding out of it)...  It's cheaper to hail a cab or rental car for those days than it is for you to drive that kind of distance in gas alone..

ChemFanatic25

She can rent a car. Discounts online and if she does her research it can't cost too much. Does she have triple A? Tons of discounts through that. Also, if you rent with some credit cards you can get discounts through that 

thejucheidea

Can your brother pick her up?

*Barbie*

enjoy the hockey game - your mom needs to work it out with your brother. 

dharmabunny

Uber. Or Lyft. Or Bro.

Knottie41362858

I told them about the hockey game and my mom said that she will work it out with my dad or brother. And she hasn't responded to me since so I don't think she his happy about it. But I talked to my great aunt and apparently I am selfish for not helping her out when my dad has been working to help pay for the reception. I just wish we would've went to Vegas! If it was up to me we would have but my fiance actually likes his family and wanted them involved.

loveislouder

Knottie41362858 said:

First off, I'm new to the board...so HI!!!!

Im getting married in less than 2 weeks!!! So excited! I still have a lot to do (I still need to find shoes!!) but I'm slowing getting things done.

Im a little annoyed though. My brother lives in Ohio (I live in Florida) and he lets my parents (also in Florida) use an older car that he has so they don't have to pay car payments. Well him and his fiancé are flying in for the wedding the Thursday before. He wants to use his car to get around town, show his fiancé the sights, etc.  My mom asked me if I can pick her up from work since my brother will have his car.  Its 2 days and the day before my wedding!!! She lives 45 minutes from her job and I live a half hour from her house (not counting traffic). I will be spending my evenings after I get off work taking her home instead of getting last minute things done for the wedding. I was planning on getting my nails done on Friday after I get off work but if I have to pick her up I can't.

Am I being unreasonable by being annoyed at her request?  I could always hurry up and get things done by the Wed before the wedding, and just get my nails done the morning of. Should I be a nice daughter and help her out?  Or tell her that I would like to enjoy my experience as this is the first and last time I plan on ever having a wedding?

...She birthed you. Literally gave you life and you won't pick her up?  To the bolded, you only get one day.  I think you're being selfish.

Knottie41362858

I talked to my brother, he said don't worry about it, dont change my plans, he will make sure she gets home from work. I'm not sure why my mom came to me and asked me to begin with if my brother was ok picking her up. To stress me out I guess!!!

6fsn

loveislouder

...She birthed you. Literally gave you life and you won't pick her up?  To the bolded, you only get one day.  I think you're being selfish.

Giving birth to someone doesn't mean you have to bow down to them whenever. If OP was just busy with life it doesn't mean she necessarily owes her mom an inconvenient ride.

Knottie41362858

I could go on to add that my mom didn't raise me, she gave up guardianship of me when I was 9 and I was raised by my great aunt, great uncle, and great grandma. You want to talk about selfish? I didn't ask to be born, nor did I ask for money on the reception. When I try to refuse my mom says that it's something that her and my dad want to do. Our relationship is just now starting to rebuild. But that is a story for a whole different thread or therapist!