Appropriate gift/s for shower hostesses?

strawberrybee9

Hi all,

My FI's aunt, cousin and sister are cohosting a shower for me. As far as I can tell, his aunt has done more of the organizational work. I'm not sure who's primarily covering the cost, but I would guess his aunt.

So... in addition to sending thank you notes, of course, should I be sending gifts to them to thank them for the shower? I thought I might send flowers to his aunt the day after the shower as a thank you, but what about my future SIL and my FI's cousin? I was thinking about sending them small jewelry gifts, like a bracelet or earrings. I really don't know what kind of tangible gift to send his aunt, who is a generation older, but I could make a guess about what the younger relatives might like.

Do you think it would be weird to send one person flowers, but tangible gifts to the other two? If you do think it would be weird, what should I consider as a gift to his aunt? Should I spend more on this gift since I think she is the primary host? Any other thoughts?

Thank you!

Teddy917

Get them a gift like you would for their birthday. Don't worry about making it the same unless they like the same stuff.

novella1186

First, flowers are tangible. 

tan·gi·ble

ˈtanjəb(ə)l/

adjective

1. 1.

   perceptible by touch.

   "the atmosphere of neglect and abandonment was almost tangible"

   synonyms:

   touchable, palpable, material, physical, real, substantial, corporeal,solid, concrete; More

noun

Sorry, I'm not trying to be a jackass, but I'm a writer I get what you're saying though. The flowers will die. The jewelry is forever. 

I agree with @Teddy917. Get them something as if it's their birthday. Sending the aunt flowers is a nice gesture and I'm sure will be appreciated. You could also do a nice gift basket, fancy scented candles, a nice bottle of wine, etc. But I don't see a problem with giving her something different than what you give the other two. The important part is thanking them and making sure they know you appreciate their hosting the party, which it sounds like you have covered! 

labro

I gave a bottle of wine and a restaurant gift card as a thank you gift to each of my shower hostesses. It suited them both (one loves red wine, the other white) and the restaurant is one of their favorite places to eat. I think as long as your gift is thoughtful and personal to the person you're giving it to you are fine.