birth control question

teddygirl9

I have mirena. Got it in July.

 

The insertion was terrible. I have not yet had kids, which is supposed to make it easier. Initially, it just felt uncomfortable, like cramping. Then I started getting hot and dizzy and felt like I was going to throw up and or pass out. I stayed in the drs office for probably an hour, still didn't feel better, called in to work that I wouldn't be coming back (silly me booked it on my lunch break lol), and drove home (also should not have done in my condition) and tried to sleep it off. I was in pain for probably 3 days, but it did lessen. My first period was painful, but I also used my BC pills to skip most of my periods, so I probably did not know what it felt like. Anyways, since then it's been good. I get the lightest spotting around period time, barely enough for the thinnest pad. I'd probably just wear black undies and not even notice. My skin HAS gotten worse though. It's been a struggle, because I used BC pills to have nicer skin, so going to less than perfect is rough. It's not terrible, or cystic, but there are many small ones. You can obviously take a pill to counteract that, but you'd have to take it every day and you may as well just take BC pills if that's the case.

 

Overall, I'd probably still recommend it. 3 days of pain for 5 years of protection, I will take it.

d&bbride2015

butterscotchjbeans said:

Danielle0413 said:

I have the Implanon it's in my arm. I absolutely love it and it might be an option since you haven't has children. I've never had an IUD but I do have friends that have them and LOVE them but I have a few that have horror stories. I know a few girls that have the same BC as I do but wanted the Mirena but because they did not have children yet they steered them away. 

I love this because it's ZERO maintenance. I know some women had bleeding issues when it was first inserted but i know thats a risk with the Mirena too. This type last for 3 years and then you go in after the 3 years and have it taken out or replaced. This might be a little TMI but when I do have my period it's a panty liner for 2-3 day tops! just another option for you to look into  

Sounds great! But one question!!! Did you gain weight?? My friend gained 30 pounds in 2 months. And I was like NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO never ever. But that might be her. lol 

I didn't gain any weight at all!!!! Actually I've had no problem losing weigh while on it. It's worked so great for my body. The worst part of the whole thing is the numbing when they put it in lol well and the nasty bruise after. No maintenance is the best perk! 

labro

I got the Paragard IUD earlier (non-hormonal unlike Mirena and Skyla) this year and I've been really happy with it! My acne hasn't come back to anything like it was in my early 20s...I experience some blackheads and occasionally a couple small pimples close to my period now (I didn't on the pill) but it's nothing so terrible.

Insertion was a bitch though. My ob prescribed some sort of medication that was supposed to help open my cervix (fine) and I think it worked but insertion sucked. The part that was most painful was when they "measure" your uterus to make sure the device will fit....after that "fun" experience, the insertion of the IUD hurt but wasn't as bad. I think I had more pain in the hours afterwards with severe, contraction like feelings in my uterus. After a day or two though I felt completely normal again.

My doctor said I was a good candidate for Paragard because before taking a hormonal pill I had veryregular, not super heavy periods. It took about a month or so but my periods are back to being about every 29 days and last for usually 4 to 5 days with a few days of heavy bleeding in the middle. I have not experienced any crazy cramping aside from the first month I had my period after getting Paragard and I haven't had any other issues either.

Kind of like @phira I have a tilted cervix or something that makes it difficult to find and feel my cervix. My ob wrapped the strings up around my cervix since she said I'd never be able to reach up and feel them anyway. My H has never noticed them.

As far as your BF's opinions on BC. Why does he want you to be on the pill if it fails for you? That's the part I really don't get.

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teddygirl9

PrettyGirlLost said:

butterscotchjbeans said:

So after our own whoppsie that sadly didn't happen, I went to my doctor and asked about other kinds of contraceptives. The pill is great, but obviously I am part of that 0.01% that has no explanation but a big uh oh. Mirena is a possibility but DH wants me to continue with the pill, since I have no idea how Mirena can affect my body or what reactions it can cause. That is with any new medication pretty much. 

My question, after the background story, do any of you have Mirena? If so, what kind of changes have you experienced since you first got it? Would you recommend it?

My insurance is good, and it would only be a co-pay of 25 for the thing and then check ups every year, unless it falls (?)

Did you actually take the pill every day, on time, at the same time?

IUD insertion for women who have not had children, and thus their cervix has never dilated, is not a fun experience. . . depending on your tolerance for pain it can be quite nasty so I have been told by OBs and friends who have had them inserted.  Your doctor will either have to medically or mechanically dilate your cervix to insert it ><

No thank you, lol!

I've never heard of 'mechanically' dilating a cervix, they're pretty small to start prying it open. They also offer a 'pill' that you put in yourself, 8-12 hours before the insertion that is supposed to relax the muscles, but has it's own side effects, but it is supposed to make insertion easier.

PrettyGirlLost

teddygirl9 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

butterscotchjbeans said:

So after our own whoppsie that sadly didn't happen, I went to my doctor and asked about other kinds of contraceptives. The pill is great, but obviously I am part of that 0.01% that has no explanation but a big uh oh. Mirena is a possibility but DH wants me to continue with the pill, since I have no idea how Mirena can affect my body or what reactions it can cause. That is with any new medication pretty much. 

My question, after the background story, do any of you have Mirena? If so, what kind of changes have you experienced since you first got it? Would you recommend it?

My insurance is good, and it would only be a co-pay of 25 for the thing and then check ups every year, unless it falls (?)

Did you actually take the pill every day, on time, at the same time?

IUD insertion for women who have not had children, and thus their cervix has never dilated, is not a fun experience. . . depending on your tolerance for pain it can be quite nasty so I have been told by OBs and friends who have had them inserted.  Your doctor will either have to medically or mechanically dilate your cervix to insert it ><

No thank you, lol!

I've never heard of 'mechanically' dilating a cervix, they're pretty small to start prying it open. They also offer a 'pill' that you put in yourself, 8-12 hours before the insertion that is supposed to relax the muscles, but has it's own side effects, but it is supposed to make insertion easier.

There's a device that is used to manually dilate the cervix enough to insert the IUD. . . I don't recall what it is called, but several of my friends had this done.

Fran1985

sarawifenow said:

rajahmd said:

butterscotchjbeans said:

misshart00 said:

OP, I though before you GBCK'd, you came back and said "JK! I'm not pregnant!" So now I'm confused. Are you pregnant? Were you pregnant? Did you have a miscarriage?

I never said the bolded. But yes, as I stated up there in the OP I had a miscarriage (second one). Therefore we aren't TTC since there is something that isn't working out down there. 

Actually, you did.

QFT. Several of us remember you saying that. I highly doubt we're all having the same delusion.

I remember this as well.

Me too. I specifically commented on it and believed used the phrase "really fucked up."

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ShesSoCold

butterscotchjbeans said:

sarawifenow said:

rajahmd said:

butterscotchjbeans said:

misshart00 said:

OP, I though before you GBCK'd, you came back and said "JK! I'm not pregnant!" So now I'm confused. Are you pregnant? Were you pregnant? Did you have a miscarriage?

I never said the bolded. But yes, as I stated up there in the OP I had a miscarriage (second one). Therefore we aren't TTC since there is something that isn't working out down there. 

Actually, you did.

QFT. Several of us remember you saying that. I highly doubt we're all having the same delusion.

I remember this as well.

Me too. I specifically commented on it and believed used the phrase "really fucked up."

Sadly, to what you are referring to is the fact I said I wasn't pregnant when I asked for help for my wedding. After that, many of you pushed and then Isaid. Yes I was. But obviously I was called I liar. Then. The thread continued and you guys were just saying" truths " because obviously none of you are bullies. None. So yeah. I'm so sorry my life and words had so much impact on yours. Do you use Mirena? Or what kind of BC are you on?

Yet, you're here. Again. Asking us what kind of BC we use. 

Makes sense.

holyguacamole79

@shessocold, the expression on your dog's face in your sig matches your last post perfectly.  

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VulgarGirl

butterscotchjbeans said:

Do you use Mirena? Or what kind of BC are you on?

I fuck girls. I highly reccomend it.

ShesSoCold

butterscotchjbeans said:

ShesSoCold said:

butterscotchjbeans said:

sarawifenow said:

rajahmd said:

butterscotchjbeans said:

misshart00 said:

OP, I though before you GBCK'd, you came back and said "JK! I'm not pregnant!" So now I'm confused. Are you pregnant? Were you pregnant? Did you have a miscarriage?

I never said the bolded. But yes, as I stated up there in the OP I had a miscarriage (second one). Therefore we aren't TTC since there is something that isn't working out down there. 

Actually, you did.

QFT. Several of us remember you saying that. I highly doubt we're all having the same delusion.

I remember this as well.

Me too. I specifically commented on it and believed used the phrase "really fucked up."

Sadly, to what you are referring to is the fact I said I wasn't pregnant when I asked for help for my wedding. After that, many of you pushed and then Isaid. Yes I was. But obviously I was called I liar. Then. The thread continued and you guys were just saying" truths " because obviously none of you are bullies. None. So yeah. I'm so sorry my life and words had so much impact on yours. Do you use Mirena? Or what kind of BC are you on?

Yet, you're here. Again. Asking us what kind of BC we use. 

Makes sense.

You are free to answer, comment, bash, ....anything you want. I have gotten great responses from other girls, I don't know if you have noticed that.

Umm. From me too. You're welcome. 

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Fran1985

butterscotchjbeans said:

sarawifenow said:

rajahmd said:

butterscotchjbeans said:

misshart00 said:

OP, I though before you GBCK'd, you came back and said "JK! I'm not pregnant!" So now I'm confused. Are you pregnant? Were you pregnant? Did you have a miscarriage?

I never said the bolded. But yes, as I stated up there in the OP I had a miscarriage (second one). Therefore we aren't TTC since there is something that isn't working out down there. 

Actually, you did.

QFT. Several of us remember you saying that. I highly doubt we're all having the same delusion.

I remember this as well.

Me too. I specifically commented on it and believed used the phrase "really fucked up."

Sadly, to what you are referring to is the fact I said I wasn't pregnant when I asked for help for my wedding. After that, many of you pushed and then Isaid. Yes I was. But obviously I was called I liar. Then. The thread continued and you guys were just saying" truths " because obviously none of you are bullies. None. So yeah. I'm so sorry my life and words had so much impact on yours. Do you use Mirena? Or what kind of BC are you on?

No impact on my life. But people were genuinely concerned for you because you were going head first into a marriage when two weeks before you thought your H was cheating and were concerned about his felony convictions. When people showed the concern you blew up at them. Then you came back and (tried) to shame people for things they had shared on here, and even stalked someone on social media. I don't want to always bring up your past everytime you post, but if someones a bully, its the girl who tracked someone down on social media and (tried) to make fun of their photos.

Im on the pill but we are going to switch to him using instead- and he wants whatever is best for me and my body and would never refuse to use them.

holyguacamole79

@butterscotchjbeans, I would also encourage you to ask your ob-gyn why you've had two miscarriages.  I know some women who have never gotten answers, and I know some who have been able to have several healthy babies after miscarriages once the doctor identified the underlying issue (perhaps your progesterone was low?).  

PrettyGirlLost

butterscotchjbeans said:

sarawifenow said:

rajahmd said:

butterscotchjbeans said:

misshart00 said:

OP, I though before you GBCK'd, you came back and said "JK! I'm not pregnant!" So now I'm confused. Are you pregnant? Were you pregnant? Did you have a miscarriage?

I never said the bolded. But yes, as I stated up there in the OP I had a miscarriage (second one). Therefore we aren't TTC since there is something that isn't working out down there. 

Actually, you did.

QFT. Several of us remember you saying that. I highly doubt we're all having the same delusion.

I remember this as well.

Me too. I specifically commented on it and believed used the phrase "really fucked up."

Sadly, to what you are referring to is the fact I said I wasn't pregnant when I asked for help for my wedding. After that, many of you pushed and then Isaid. Yes I was. But obviously I was called I liar. Then. The thread continued and you guys were just saying" truths " because obviously none of you are bullies. None. So yeah. I'm so sorry my life and words had so much impact on yours. Do you use Mirena? Or what kind of BC are you on?

It's not that.

We have pretty good memories when it comes to BSC threads that then result in the OP attempting to GBCK. . . and then coming back under the same account name.

You had your posts deleted, otherwise a Google Cache serach would be far easier and more productive.

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JennyColada

phira said:

@jennycolada I wonder if Skyla might work for you if Mirena is too painful, since Skyla is smaller. But that really sucks

@phira It's not normally an issue, and normally when it does happen it's just a mild annoyance, which made it even more frustrating that it happened in the first place. >:(

I quite enjoyed The Pill for many many years though, and we will probably be thinking about kids in ~2 years, so I'll have to get the IUD out anyhow eventually.

doeydo

I won't be much help, because I'm just on the pill and it seems to work for me.  I am so sorry about you miscarriages, BSJB. 

WinstonsGirl

teddygirl9 said:

I've never heard of 'mechanically' dilating a cervix, they're pretty small to start prying it open. They also offer a 'pill' that you put in yourself, 8-12 hours before the insertion that is supposed to relax the muscles, but has it's own side effects, but it is supposed to make insertion easier. 

From what I could tell, since I wasn't really looking, it's like a little clamp thing that pulls your cervix open a little.  My Dr. recommends that you get it inserted while on your period, so that 1. you're lubed up, and 2. cos your cervix does dilate a smidge, so insertion is slightly easier.  The opening of the cervix is uncomfortable, but insertion sucks more.  The opening is more of a pinching whereas insertion is like fucking contractions, I imagine.  

phira

The pill people are talking about helps to make it easier to dilate your cervix, but yes, you do have to manually dilate it to insert the IUD. The only exception would be if you have an IUD placed immediately after giving birth (the easiest time to do it), when your cervix is still like, "What just happened?!!"

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holyguacamole79

Why six months?

lovesclimbing

I use the diaphragm.  Not a big fan.  It's a bit annoying to have to put in every time we want to have sex.  However, I don't like the idea of putting hormonal BC into my body.  I know too many women who gained weight on it or have had terrible mood swings. As far as the IUD, it's too expensive. 

So far, we've been married two years.  No babies.

atlastmrsg

Love my Mirena. But you must have faith and patience.

The day I got it, I thought I was dying. They gave me medication day before to "soften cervix" because I haven't had children, so it's harder to place. Felt like period cramps. When the doctor put it in, I was immediately sweaty, weak, with the spins. Evidently it's some kind of "vagal" reaction--your body in panic.

I had to lay down before I could leave office.

Finally drove myself home--couldn't go back to work. Felt like extreme period cramps for a few days. And it bled. For a few weeks.

After a few weeks of bleeding, turned to spotting about once a month. Bummer since I couldn't predict it, but panty liner was more than adequate.

Then a few months later, something miraculous happened. No periods. No weight changes. Nothing that resembles a cycle. And I've now had it three years. It's a keeper!

The only thing I don't love--my skin was better on ortho tri-cyclen. Never had acne. Now I get some on my chin. But I like knowing I can't forget to take it and that it's exceptionally effective.

I'll get another in 2016--I'm sold.

morphemes

I have the Mirena and I LOVE it! I got it last Spring and I have had no complaints. I took two advil before the procedure and my doctor had to manually expand my cervix. That being said, I didn't feel it! I definitely felt when he measured my uterus for placement, but honestly the insertion didn't hurt me at all (I've never had kids). I think there's some build-up and I was certainly nervous. I was also crampy for a few hours after, then it went away. I haven't had my period since, although I did have some spotting the first month. 

I highly recommend it! Up to 7 years protection and literally no upkeep. 

ashley8918

butterscotchjbeans said:

stalking? as much as I care of dearest lolo, I was looking into boudoir pics myself and went into a pinterest hunt. It is not my fault that her picture was pinned a couple times. I am not going to go wasting my life on her.

I was not previsouly aware of this batshit craziness.

theartistformerlyknownas

ashley8918 said:

butterscotchjbeans said:

stalking? as much as I care of dearest lolo, I was looking into boudoir pics myself and went into a pinterest hunt. It is not my fault that her picture was pinned a couple times. I am not going to go wasting my life on her.

I was not previsouly aware of this batshit craziness.

Yeah @ashley8918‌ . Dearest darling BSCbeans, in an attempt to slut-shame me for pictures I willingly shared to boost others' confidence, claimed she had shared my boudoir pics on Pinterest. I, however, was unfazed. I did warn her of the copyright infringement she had committed, and then she denied having actually shared them. Shocker; someone has trouble with the truth. Never saw that coming. :-|

It's quite simple to prove with a reverse image search that my pictures do not exist on Pinterest , but if they did I would feel no shame since they were taken as a photographer's promo to begin with.

Try again. That thirst is unquenchable.