Not inviting a SO

weddinggirlw

...and that SO would be me!  My FI just received an invitation addressed to him only.  I don't know the couple as well as he does, but I have met them and hung out with them on a several occasions. The best part about the whole thing...the wedding is on Valentine's Day!  Yes, thank you for inviting my FI to a wedding without me on Valentine's Day...I'm sure he'll leave me home to watch you get married.  Actually, I'm not really complaining about not being invited because I wouldn't have gone anyway, but just wanted to post a note to the people out there that say you don't have to invite a SO - you're wrong and you're rude.  Get over yourself.    

Edited because I can't type. 

plainjane0415

weddinggirlw said:

...and that SO would be me!  My FI just received an invitation addressed to him only.  I don't know the couple as well as he does, but I have met them and hung out with them on a several occasions. The best part about the whole thing...the wedding is on Valentine's Day!  Yes, thank you for inviting my FI to a wedding without me on Valentine's Day...I'm sure he'll leave me home to watch you get married.  Actually, I'm not really complaining about not being invited because I wouldn't have gone anyway, but just wanted to post a note to the people out there that say you don't have to invite a SO - you're wrong and you're rude.  Get over yourself.    

Edited because I can't type. 

This has happened to both me and my FI.  Neither of us attended the weddings.  Because it is extremely rude, and most of the time the couple will cite budget issues as to why they didn't invite SO or whatever.  It's rude, and I'm sorry this happened to you.  What does your FI say about it?

lovegood90

Ugh, gross! I hope he's not going. Being excluded from an invite or "and guest"-ed always sucks.

redoryx

So. Gross.

HERE EVERYONE! COME CELEBRATE MY RELATIONSHIP ON THE MOST ROMANTIC DAY OF THE YEAR. BUT OH, WAIT, YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISN'T IMPORTANT ENOUGH TO BE INCLUDED LOLOLOLOL

arrrghmatey

Wha?? How rude! I hope your FI refuses to attend!

And thank you for posting this to put the 'inviting SOs' in perspective front he other viewpoint.

Edit: And do you know if other SOs are being invited? Or was it just you and perhaps a select few others who were excluded? It's rude either way, but I am just curious.

plainjane0415

redoryx said:

So. Gross.

HERE EVERYONE! COME CELEBRATE MY RELATIONSHIP ON THE MOST ROMANTIC DAY OF THE YEAR. BUT OH, WAIT, YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISN'T IMPORTANT ENOUGH TO BE INCLUDED LOLOLOLOL

Rudeness is evolving every day... and I don't like it.

weddinggirlw

He is DEFINITELY not going and laughed at the entire thing! 

arrrghmatey

weddinggirlw said:

He is DEFINITELY not going and laughed at the entire thing! 

Good man!

daria24

RSVP with Regrets, as you already have a date planned to see the 50 Shades movie...drunk. 

plainjane0415

weddinggirlw said:

He is DEFINITELY not going and laughed at the entire thing! 

When I got invited to a wedding and FI didn't, he was all like "you can go, I don't mind" and I told him absolutely not!  He's so sweet... I could tell he really didn't want me to go without him, but he also didn't want me to miss a friend's wedding... but there was no way in hell I would be going after they clearly did not invite him.

redoryx

weddinggirlw said:

He is DEFINITELY not going and laughed at the entire thing! 

I hope he is direct and tells them why he's not going. I also anticipate -- especially given the date -- lots of declines for the same reason as I doubt you were the only couple effected.

Oh well, I'm sure they have big long B-List they can then put to use.

weddinggirlw

 

arrrghmatey said:

Wha?? How rude! I hope your FI refuses to attend!

And thank you for posting this to put the 'inviting SOs' in perspective front he other viewpoint.

Edit: And do you know if other SOs are being invited? Or was it just you and perhaps a select few others who were excluded? It's rude either way, but I am just curious.

arrrghmatey said:

Wha?? How rude! I hope your FI refuses to attend!

And thank you for posting this to put the 'inviting SOs' in perspective front he other viewpoint.

Edit: And do you know if other SOs are being invited? Or was it just you and perhaps a select few others who were excluded? It's rude either way, but I am just curious.

I do know of another SO that was invited so perhaps it was just me that was excluded. Either way, they can suck it.  

EDIT: Not only can't I type but I can't quote either. 

sarawifenow

I saw this title and thought, "Here we go again!" Haha!

 

I'm glad your FI isn't going and I ditto @redoryx . I hope he tells them why!

jenijoyk

So terrible! My DH was invited to a wedding without me... after we had only been dating about 2 years. DH had never even hung out with them without me in tow because we were all on a sports team together. Another mutual friend did some sleuthing for us, and learned that one of her bridesmaids had a crush on DH and specifically requested that I not be invited to "give her a chance." And this did not take place in highschool. We were all like 30 when this happened. It was a relationship-ending move on their part. We no longer talk to any of those whores.

And yet somehow, three years later, I continue to get email updates from her "gofundme" page.

lovegood90

jenijoyk said:

So terrible! My DH was invited to a wedding without me... after we had only been dating about 2 years. DH had never even hung out with them without me in tow because we were all on a sports team together. Another mutual friend did some sleuthing for us, and learned that one of her bridesmaids had a crush on DH and specifically requested that I not be invited to "give her a chance." And this did not take place in highschool. We were all like 30 when this happened. It was a relationship-ending move on their part. We no longer talk to any of those whores.

And yet somehow, three years later, I continue to get email updates from her "gofundme" page.

WOW they have balls! How disrespectful.

NYCMercedes

They sent the invitation out over two months in advance so that after they receive some declines, they can call him to tell him that they "forgot" to include you on the invitation.

weddinggirlw

jenijoyk said:

So terrible! My DH was invited to a wedding without me... after we had only been dating about 2 years. DH had never even hung out with them without me in tow because we were all on a sports team together. Another mutual friend did some sleuthing for us, and learned that one of her bridesmaids had a crush on DH and specifically requested that I not be invited to "give her a chance." And this did not take place in highschool. We were all like 30 when this happened. It was a relationship-ending move on their part. We no longer talk to any of those whores.

And yet somehow, three years later, I continue to get email updates from her "gofundme" page.

Wow!  I wouldn't be talking to those whores either.  Ew. 

d&bbride2015

My best friend ran into a similar situation. Her bf was the best man in a wedding and received the invite without her name being on it. Him being a boy thought nothing of the invite coming without her name being addressed on it. She said No I can't go because they did not invite me. So her bf being who he is and thinking he was right called his BEST FRIEND and said "hey is Gf invited?"  he was then told that they put her on the B list so when they get responses back and if there is an opening then she would then be invited. Jaw Drop. 

loveislouder

jenijoyk said:

So terrible! My DH was invited to a wedding without me... after we had only been dating about 2 years. DH had never even hung out with them without me in tow because we were all on a sports team together. Another mutual friend did some sleuthing for us, and learned that one of her bridesmaids had a crush on DH and specifically requested that I not be invited to "give her a chance." And this did not take place in highschool. We were all like 30 when this happened. It was a relationship-ending move on their part. We no longer talk to any of those whores.

And yet somehow, three years later, I continue to get email updates from her "gofundme" page.

Who the EFF does that!

badbnagdway

I think Valentine's Day is pretty dumb but I would still be annoyed if someone picked that as a wedding date.

cbus13

That is so annoying! I would have been as equally of frustrated! I remember last year I was the MOH in a wedding that was out of town and my fiance was coming as my date. The bride told me fiance was not invited to the rehearsal or dinner... so he had to sit in the hotel room by himself while I attended the rehearsal dinner. I felt like this was rude and I knew I could not skip the rehearsal dinner as I was the MOH. Obviously this is nowhere near as egregious as just flat out not being invited but I remember feeling bad for my fiance... especially since we traveled all that way together. 

badbnagdway

loveislouder said:

jenijoyk said:

So terrible! My DH was invited to a wedding without me... after we had only been dating about 2 years. DH had never even hung out with them without me in tow because we were all on a sports team together. Another mutual friend did some sleuthing for us, and learned that one of her bridesmaids had a crush on DH and specifically requested that I not be invited to "give her a chance." And this did not take place in highschool. We were all like 30 when this happened. It was a relationship-ending move on their part. We no longer talk to any of those whores.

And yet somehow, three years later, I continue to get email updates from her "gofundme" page.

Who the EFF does that!

Agreed. If a guy is taken, he is taken. If you make advances on a guy who is in a relationship, and he gets with you while he is in that relationship, congratulations, you hooked up with a cheater. Even if he then gets into a relationship with you, guess what, he would clearly cheat on you if presented with the opportunity. 

I have known too many people who started relationships by cheating. Guess how they all eventually end. 

End random rant. 

levioosa

I was just in a wedding where SO wasn't invited, even though we double date with the B & G.  I thought it was total bullshit.  It was even more infuriating when I saw other guests there with their SOs and I was in  the freaking wedding party without mine.  WTF.    

weddinggirlw

levioosa said:

I was just in a wedding where SO wasn't invited, even though we double date with the B & G.  I thought it was total bullshit.  It was even more infuriating when I saw other guests there with their SOs and I was in  the freaking wedding party without mine.  WTF.    

WTF is right!  Seriously, what is wrong with people? 

fwtx5815

jenijoyk said:

So terrible! My DH was invited to a wedding without me... after we had only been dating about 2 years. DH had never even hung out with them without me in tow because we were all on a sports team together. Another mutual friend did some sleuthing for us, and learned that one of her bridesmaids had a crush on DH and specifically requested that I not be invited to "give her a chance." And this did not take place in highschool. We were all like 30 when this happened. It was a relationship-ending move on their part. We no longer talk to any of those whores.

And yet somehow, three years later, I continue to get email updates from her "gofundme" page.

Just reading that is infuriating. I'd tell them all to get fucked.

jenijoyk

dallasbetch said:

jenijoyk said:

So terrible! My DH was invited to a wedding without me... after we had only been dating about 2 years. DH had never even hung out with them without me in tow because we were all on a sports team together. Another mutual friend did some sleuthing for us, and learned that one of her bridesmaids had a crush on DH and specifically requested that I not be invited to "give her a chance." And this did not take place in highschool. We were all like 30 when this happened. It was a relationship-ending move on their part. We no longer talk to any of those whores.

And yet somehow, three years later, I continue to get email updates from her "gofundme" page.

Just reading that is infuriating. I'd tell them all to get fucked.

Haha. So infuriating! People are soooo amazing.

MadHops21

Saw the title and came in here to wag my finger at you for making a no-no. Saw first sentence and was relieved but ticked off for you. 

Even if you don't like Valentines Day or celebrate it, it's still annoying for the couple to choose a holiday for themselves and invite WITHOUT SO'S. Like seriously. 

How much of a special snowflake do you have to be to pull SO's apart for one of the most romantically recognized holidays of the year?

sophhabobopha

sophhabobopha

jenijoyk said:

So terrible! My DH was invited to a wedding without me... after we had only been dating about 2 years. DH had never even hung out with them without me in tow because we were all on a sports team together. Another mutual friend did some sleuthing for us, and learned that one of her bridesmaids had a crush on DH and specifically requested that I not be invited to "give her a chance." And this did not take place in highschool. We were all like 30 when this happened. It was a relationship-ending move on their part. We no longer talk to any of those whores.

And yet somehow, three years later, I continue to get email updates from her "gofundme" page.