I'm going to take a second to vent about something I need to get off my chest, because I have a strong feeling I need to keep my mouth shut in real life:
Backstory: My sister moved back to the area after getting out of a crummy relationship with her ex-boyfriend. He was abusive towards her, and pretty neglectful of the two kids they have together. He still lives in another state about 5 hours away, and sees the kids occasionally as allowed by a court order. During their relationship I expressed concern on numerous occasions about him, and his treatment of her and the kids . She got quite defensive, and was angry with me for awhile. I understand why though, because often times it is difficult to see how abusive a relationship is when you are in the middle of it.
My sister lives more locally now with the two kids, ages 5 and 9. She has a new boyfriend, which is what I need to vent about. She just told the family about him a few weeks ago. She indicates that they have been together since August. She introduced him to our parents a few weeks ago, and we'll all be having dinner together tonight. I met him for about 5 minutes at my job the other day. He seems nice, but there is a lot of stuff that doesn't really match up. When I was with my sister for drinks in September she mentioned two guys she had gone on a date each with, and neither seemed great. She never mentioned the bf. When I saw her in October she was literally crying about a nasty text she had gotten from a guy on her birthday calling her all sorts of awful stuff for not wanting to go on a second date with her, again no mention of the bf. I was asking her about him when she finally told me about him, where he was from, what he does, etc. His story seems all over the place and doesn't really make sense. I know DH is going to grill him about his military experience at dinner. When my dad and I chatted after he met him he told me, "he seems nice but his stories just don't add up."
Obviously I want my sister to be happy, but it turns out that this man is now living at her house, I guess they were dating long distance since August and right before Thanksgiving he came here and moved into her house. . . . .with her kids. When she is at work he will watch her kids and take them places. I think that is what makes me so nervous. I am very protective of my nieces because they have gone through so much already. I'm just afraid that something isn't right here and it makes me very nervous.
At the same time, I don't want to be the biatch sister who judges her!!!!