The Anti Burn Book -- spreading some love

novella1186

That thread about cyber bullying got me thinking about what total assholes some people can be. 

I remember watching horrible things on the news a few years ago and coming to the realization that I really can't stop terrible people from doing terrible things, but I can try to counter-balance them or cancel them out by doing awesome things. So I started my "random acts of kindness" mission. 

princessofgenovia!) 

So here it is! 

novella1186

princessofgenovia inspired this thread, my first anti-burn is for you! 

I think you're awesome. I've never seen you say one mean thing to anyone, and I always love reading your posts. I'm so glad you're part of TK!  

southernbelle0915

Last winter, some random person brushed the snow off my car in my work parking lot. Maybe they thought it was their car until they unburied it, but I like to think they did it just to be kind.

novella1186

esstee33 you always take the time to give me genuine, caring advice about my family drama and it has helped me a ton. You're kind of amazing. 

novella1186

southernbelle0915 said:

Last winter, some random person brushed the snow off my car in my work parking lot. Maybe they thought it was their car until they unburied it, but I like to think they did it just to be kind.

I've done this! If I'm out there brushing snow anyway, why not get the car next to me too? I've also had someone do this to my car and it made me smile! 

And once last winter, someone bought my drink for my in the drive thru at Starbucks! 

novella1186

ClimbingBrideNY you are the type of person I would love to be friends with IRL (as are so many knotties!) 

You seem extremely grounded and cool, and I love how honest you are in your posts. 

buttercup1958

@novella1186 I'm very grateful that you vent about your family here because it makes me feel less alone with my family. We have very similar family drama. I also want to thank @beethry for always suggesting cool places to go in Atlana. Also thanks everyone for giving me advice on my weight goals and hair advice. Everyone here is awesome.

novella1186

buttercup1958 said:

@novella1186 I'm very grateful that you vent about your family here because it makes me feel less alone with my family. We have very similar family drama. I also want to thank @beethry for always suggesting cool places to go in Atlana. Also thanks everyone for giving me advice on my weight goals and hair advice. Everyone here is awesome.

It has helped me a ton too to know that other people have similar family drama and that there are sane ways of dealing with it. TK has legitimately improved my life! I don't know what I would do without you guys. 

novella1186

holyguacamole79 you've gone out of your way to say things to me that were so extremely helpful in what I was dealing with, and the fact that you cared and took the time to do that means a lot and made a huge difference. 

Not to mention, you started the thread for my birthday which was way too awesome and made me smile all day! You are wonderful! 

esstee33

novella1186 said:

esstee33 you always take the time to give me genuine, caring advice about my family drama and it has helped me a ton. You're kind of amazing. 

Aww, thanks. You're kind of amazing, too. You're very resilient and stronger than you realize, and I'm so glad you're going to talk to a therapist on the regular. You've got a good head on your shoulders and I think sometimes you just need someone in your corner to remind you of that.

I have a whole mess of callouts, but I'm about to pee in my chair so they'll have to wait until later. 

novella1186

esstee33 said:

novella1186 said:

esstee33 you always take the time to give me genuine, caring advice about my family drama and it has helped me a ton. You're kind of amazing. 

Aww, thanks. You're kind of amazing, too. You're very resilient and stronger than you realize, and I'm so glad you're going to talk to a therapist on the regular. You've got a good head on your shoulders and I think sometimes you just need someone in your corner to remind you of that.

I have a whole mess of callouts, but I'm about to pee in my chair so they'll have to wait until later. 

Thank you! Based on some of the things you've told me, I think you're a total badass. You make me realize I'll be ok. The fact that you've been so super supportive has really pushed me to do the right things and not let this family drama crap keep hurting me. 

climbingsingle

novella1186 said:

ClimbingBrideNY you are the type of person I would love to be friends with IRL (as are so many knotties!) 

You seem extremely grounded and cool, and I love how honest you are in your posts. 

Aww! You are too sweet. I honestly feel the same about you. You always give such great advice. And you are an extremely talented artist. 

novella1186

ClimbingBrideNY said:

novella1186 said:

ClimbingBrideNY you are the type of person I would love to be friends with IRL (as are so many knotties!) 

You seem extremely grounded and cool, and I love how honest you are in your posts. 

Aww! You are too sweet. I honestly feel the same about you. You always give such great advice. And you are an extremely talented artist. 

Thanks! TK would not be as fun without you  

holyguacamole79

novella1186 said:

holyguacamole79 you've gone out of your way to say things to me that were so extremely helpful in what I was dealing with, and the fact that you cared and took the time to do that means a lot and made a huge difference. 

Not to mention, you started the thread for my birthday which was way too awesome and made me smile all day! You are wonderful! 

Aw - my pleasure  

novella1186

lolo883 you are such a LIFE SAVER! You're like a snarky, fun Martha Stewart without the jail thing. Your recipe advice, organization advice, always knowing where to buy exactly the right thing, etc, astounds me and I'm so glad you're here! I don't know how you have so many areas of genius lol but keep it going! 

beethery

novella1186 said:

lolo883 you are such a LIFE SAVER! You're like a snarky, fun Martha Stewart without the jail thing. Your recipe advice, organization advice, always knowing where to buy exactly the right thing, etc, astounds me and I'm so glad you're here! I don't know how you have so many areas of genius lol but keep it going! 

@lolo883 is the fucking best ever.

@slothiegal is my main bitch and so fucking HILARIOUS and COOL I just don't even have words. West coast sister for real between drag race, clone high, flavor of love, love of animals, and general radness.

Y'all are fucking great.

blabla89

Alright, I have a few shout outs.

I love @beethery for her snark, @lolo883 for her humor and @sarawifenow for her good advice.

Also @larrygaga is chill as hell.

novella1186

beethery I love the way you handle yourself and how you never lose your cool when snowflakes throw tantrums and start tossing insults around. You just tell it like it is, which is so awesome. Your posts crack me up! 

novella1186

blabla89 I can tell by the things you've posted that you're such a nice person! I need to learn how to be more patient like you. Plus you always give solid advice, which is pretty damn cool. 

novella1186

@larrygaga your posts also crack me up! I love your wit and sense of humor, and I love that you're not afraid to speak your mind! 

sarawifenow

@blabla89--Thank you! That is so sweet. From the posts I have seen, I love how level headed you are!

 

@novella1186--I love that you made this thread and that you have taken advice that you have been given and really have run with it. I love the art that you make, too!

 

@Maggie0829--I love how consitent your advice is and that you are always helping brides come up with creative solutions to their problems. I really relied on your responses to a lot of posts when I was planning my wedding.

 

ETA: I could go on and on for days because I love TK community so much. Everyone here is just so real and I really value our online friendships!

 

theartistformerlyknownas

Aww you guys are the best. Thank you, @novella1186 @beethery and @blabla89 !

I never cease to be amazed at the concentration of strength, smarts, and wit here. Ya'll are seriously amazing and inspirational and make me feel like somewhat of a hack. :-p

I would totally hang out with all of ya'll. 

novella1186

sarawifenow said:

@blabla89--Thank you! That is so sweet. From the posts I have seen, I love how level headed you are!

 

@novella1186--I love that you made this thread and that you have taken advice that you have been given and really have run with it. I love the art that you make, too!

 

@Maggie0829--I love how consitent your advice is and that you are always helping brides come up with creative solutions to their problems. I really relied on your responses to a lot of posts when I was planning my wedding.

 

ETA: I could go on and on for days because I love TK community so much. Everyone here is just so real and I really value our online friendships!

 

Aw thank you! I love that you always have positive things to say and you always give good advice that's super helpful. You're another one of those knotties that I'm always thinking "aw, she's so nice!" when I read your posts. 

KytchynWitche

You've all been so awesome, especially when my mom got her diagnosis (@JCbride2015 in particular). TK has been such a big help to me in times of need.

@ohannabelle - I just want to hug you forever. You have so much time and patience and compassion for all these strangers from the internet. You are just the best person ever.

@MagicInk - You rock and I have a total girl-crush on you. I love how honest you are about everything.

esstee33

OK, I'm ready. I had to eat some food and get my strength up first. 

@novella1186 For all the reasons we just discussed, you're awesome. 

@kat1114 You are so cool, well-spoken, and intelligent. I find myself nodding in agreement to SO many things you post. And your wedding sounds like it was the coolest party ever. 

@beethery, @slothiegal, @KatieInBkln, @pinkrevenge, @ashley8918, @ClimbingBrideNY - You guys crack my shit up and are so with it on so many levels I can't even begin to get into them here. 

I'm sure I'm forgetting people, so I might have more later. 

JCbride2015

You guys are all so awesome, I can't play favorites!  Thanks for all of your support with my financial and health drama lately.  I know my health issues are nothing compared with those on the boards who are fighting cancer or helping a family member fight cancer, but nobody ever belittles my problems or tells me to suck it up.  Y'all are the best.

Anti-burn to everybody in the race issue threads lately who has tried to open their minds and learn some stuff.  These conversations aren't easy to have and sometimes it's uncomfortable but I think dialogue like we have here is incredibly important.

loveislouder

Wait! I want to be everyone's friend in real life too! Everyone is so supportive and I wish I could send you all cookies and/or pizza.

novella1186

@kat1114 you are my unofficial therapist (along with many other knotties!). Ditto what esstee33 said, you say such intelligent things that it makes me think or re-think and I really enjoy getting to share in your wisdom. 

beethery

@esstee33 for being a strong sassy bitch, rad as fuck and cool as hell

@pinkrevenge for having FANTASTIC taste in internet comics (btw did you read Nimona?)

@JCBride2015 for being a conqueror of the bar, post-bar life, and of oral surgery

@novella1186 for always being willing to ready to charge and deal with all the wildness in your life.You came to a good place for advice and you take it so well. I have no idea how you haven't just disowned some of them, you are nicer than I am.

@mairepoppy for being the BEST of sassy shits, absolute best.

blabla89

D'OH! How could I forget @Jells2dot0 - for being generally awesome and kicking cancer's ass!

novella1186

blabla89 said:

D'OH! How could I forget @Jells2dot0 - for being generally awesome and kicking cancer's ass!

Second this! @Jells2dot0 you're tough as shit and brave as hell. I really admire the way you've tackled your issues. And I genuinely hope that if I were ever faced with such a serious health problem, I would kick ass to the level that you have!