Okay, so maybe I'm just an old fuddy-duddy, but I was raised in a home where you just did not make phone calls after 9PM, unless someone was dead or dying, basically. I know that was pre-cellphones, but surely that doesn't make a difference. Do you consider it rude to call people after 9PM in non-emergent situations?
One of DH's co-workers has a (high school age) son who takes "Computer Science" at school. DH is familiar with the particular language they've been working in, so he has been helping kid. I don't have any issue with that - I like the kid, I like the co-worker, and everyone should have someone they can ask for help.
But last night this kid called DH at 10PM and kept him on the phone 'til after 11. It woke me up, and a woken-up Witchey is a grumpy Witchey. School is over for the year, this kid is not working on homework or prepping for exams, so this really is stuff that could have waited for daylight.
So, here's where I want your input, Knotties: 1) is it rude to call after 9PM? and 2) can I ask DH to not answer calls from this kid after 9PM? Would that be unreasonable? (I say specifically this kid, because I don't think anyone else would call after 9PM unless it was an actual life-or-death type thing.)
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Re: Calling after 9PM, rude or not?
Live fast, die young. Bad Girls do it well. Suki Zuki.
The opposite is also true though. My aunt would call me at 8 AM when I was in college and that was still sleepytime for me.
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One of H's friends is always texting at like 11pm and it's super annoying to hear the vibrate going off.
I go with rude. I'm in bed early and up early. My parents are up late so its typical they sometimes call at 10 or so after I'm in bed/or asleep. Generally my phone is on vibrate so I don't hear it, and then see a missed call in the morning. No big deal, my parents figure I'm sleeping and I get with them in the morning. I'm usually not calling anyone late, but if so I know my mom is generally up but don't call the house phone because my dad could be asleep, H's parents aren't up late,and most of my friends aren't up late. If I would need to call someone I'd prb send a text to see if they are up. I have a friend that works thirds half the time so I pretty much always text before I call bc I know she has a strange sleep schedule depending on the day/week.
Related story... Friend A recently got a new job and he called to share the news with some people. Friend B was complaining because A called her in the evening (around 7) and she was trying to relax - how dare A?! B was being cranky pants and apparently her 'rules' are exterme! After she told me about it she realized she was being a little grumpy and rediculous.
Yup, I think it's generally the rule and I follow it. My friends all know that I go to sleep at 9pm, so when one of them called at 1am I was seriously worried about her father dying (he has cancer). She was instead yelling into the phone gleefully that she was engaged and would I be a bridesmaid. I was like yes but don't ever call me at this hour without an emergency again!
I think it's fair of you to say hey, I'm a light sleeper, next time can you offer to call him back in the morning.
People still call each other? I hate talking on the phone so I get particularly perturbed when I get calls especially work calls late in the evening but it doesn't seem to bother me when people message/text me late at night. Once I'm knocked out I am dead to the world anyway. I agree with PP's about knowing your audience and just letting your H know that you couldn't sleep while he was on the phone and ask if he could please be mindful of taking late non emergency phone calls.
Just to add my 2 cents, I was taught the same rule and still follow it. If I have a non-emergency thing to ask/talk about after 9pm, I'll shoot them a text and see if they're awake. If they don't respond or don't text, and it's not an emergency, it can wait until the morning.
I agree with PP's about asking H to be mindful of others sleeping in the house in the future
In my house we are in bed by 9pm. But I also have to be at work at 6am so the alarm goes off around 4:45 or 5 am.
The only exception to that rule would be if you know the person has a special schedule. (Example: One of my friends works the graveyard shift. So if you need to contact her, it better be between 8pm and 6am or she will be sleeping.)