We just moved the weekend over Thanksgiving. Yay! It's been great finally having our own space together after 6+ years together and living separately with our parents. So that's been good so far.
FI brought his dog with. Her name is Tequila. She loves me. I'm not especially fond of her.
Backstory... FIs parents got two Australian Shepherd puppies from a breeder almost 4 years ago. 3 years ago, one of the dogs was ran over. Really sad for everyone. Last year, the breeder contacted them to let them know they were retiring that dog's mom.. Tequila. FILs jumped on it and had her flown out here. Well, we all had no clue what we were walking in to. It's clear she had never been any sort of "pet" and was just used for breeding for 6 years. She was timid, aggressive towards strangers, no basic obedience or house training, etc. Over the last year she has really come around and although she is still timid, she's a nice dog.
We all say she "chose" my FI as her person. It just happened very naturally and they are quite the pair. Tequila basically hated me at first but has since come to really adore me. So when we got our house, we decided she would come live with us. They have 3 other dogs and she just seemed to get lost in the herd. She's been with us since the day we moved in, and has settled in pretty good.
She is VERY needy and clingy. While she loves me and is happy for my company, she prefers my FI. I'm glad she likes me and wants my attention... but...
I don't really love her. I'm a dog person. I love dogs. Mostly all dogs. I don't love this one. I just have zero emotional connection to her. It's not that I hate her... I just don't feel any kind of love or emotion for her.
The only other experience I have with dogs have been with dogs we got from puppy age (8 weeks) and had till they died. So I always had a really strong bond with them. I feel horrible because this dog clearly loves me and likes to be with me... and I'm pretty indifferent. Curious if anyone else has experienced this with an older/rescue type? How did you go about trying to build that relationship and emotional connection?