So I am kind of freaking out a little...TMI

sarawifenow

Ok a lot. I am 5 days late for my period. I have irregular periods in that I will get them every 4 weeks for a bit and then it will be a couple of weeks late then every 4 weeks again.

 

Normally I wouldn't really care about it being 5 days (or even 10 days) late. Things just kind of feel different this time. My boobs are really sore and I have (TMI and totally embarassing!) a little discharge going on. I am going to take a test tomorrow (when H isn't home and I will have some alone time), but I am kind of freaking out. I haven't mentioned this to anyone IRL, so I just needed to get it out.

 

H and I want kids, a lot. We just weren't planning on TTC until summer. Part of me worries that if it is negative, that I will be really disappointed and want to have a baby sooner. This makes me nervous because H just changed his mind from TTC in a couple of years to TTC in a few months.

 

UGH! No point to this. Ts and Ps and advice appreciated though. Thanks for letting me get that out.

theartistformerlyknownas

Ahhhh hugs! Try not to stress! That's all I've got. :-\

sarawifenow

Thanks, @lolo883

thisismynickname2

Ahhhhhhhhh.... I can relate; I'm normally very regular and this month I was about 5 days late. I've been really sick though, and stress can delay a period. Nerve-wracking!  Since you both want kids, it'll be a blessing if you are indeed pregnant. Hugs! 

larrygaga

Saramomsoon! That would be your name right?

holyguacamole79

Just breathe. And I know how it is to psych yourself out over what the result may or may not be. Just know that nothing you do can change the result now, and just wait until tomorrow.

climbingsingle

Hugs!! 

Someone told me last week that I was "glowing". And I was all, Oh that's just the marriage glow. And the guy was like, "No, honey. You are totally pregnant." And I laughed and laughed and then I went home and was freaking out. My period is supposed to show up today, and I've checked like 5 times. 

sarawifenow

larrygaga said:

Saramomsoon! That would be your name right?

Hahahaha. That's a great way to look at it!

sarawifenow

I guess I also worry that if it is negative that my periods are going to go away (I used to get them once every 6-7 months before I went on the pill) and then how would we have a baby when we want it?

novella1186

Deep breaths! I have no advice but wanted to offer hugs! And wine, if the test is negative  

Best of luck! 

theartistformerlyknownas

OK I have more... if it makes you feel better, I went through that over the summer. I was still on the pill, which normally made my cycle like clockwork, but I was 2 days late. Felt really funny, kinda queasy, just... off. It was a month before the wedding so would probably have been ok - dress would still fit, Catholic side of the family wouldn't totally lose their shit,etc... but was still freaking out about it being earlier than expected. And I worried about whether I would be relieved or sad if I wasn't pregnant. If I'm relieved, does it mean I'm really not ready? If I'm sad, will I push H before he's really ready? I got my period before I could go buy a test, and honestly I had both of those feelings. But they went away. 

Sugargirl1019

/hugs! I second lolo. Peace and comfort to you! Whichever it is, I hope you become okay with it! It sounds like you're wanting both situations but not wanting both situations at the same time. It will be okay!

RebeccaFlower

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Hugs!! 

Someone told me last week that I was "glowing". And I was all, Oh that's just the marriage glow. And the guy was like, "No, honey. You are totally pregnant." And I laughed and laughed and then I went home and was freaking out. My period is supposed to show up today, and I've checked like 5 times

SIB:

I freaking hate people that do that. Like, I'm paranoid as it it, so back the fuck off. 

OP, If you were planning on TTC soon, you're totally fine! Seriously, you're planning for babies, married to your love and sounds like all would work out just fine. If it's negative, you'll go on your merry way and think about TTC soon. I see this as a no lose situation.

theycallmelinz

Just breathe!! I know this is scary but try to take things one step at a time. If you are, then you are and you'll figure it out. If you aren't, then it is what it is. I will say that since I'm super nervous about getting pregnant these last few months of our engagement, I pick up on EVERYTHING my body does and relate it back to possibly being pregnant. My boobs are sore? OMG IM PREGNANT! I'm a little nauseous? I'm craving a cheeseburger? I MUST BE PREGNANT! And all that stress makes your period late. All you can do is take a test and see what it says

 

Also, I had a scare last spring and had finally come to terms with us being okay if I was pregnant and FI was super supportive, and then I was disappointed when the test was negative. It happens to all of us I think. *HUGS* Good luck!

jdluvr06

Sending you all the hugs.

FutureMrsN3312

I've been there.  A few days before leak week was due to start I had cramps.  I automatically felt sad and disappointed.  A few days after leak week never came it was time to take a test and I was scared and nervous.

It's all normal.  The 3 mins of waiting for the test result is grueling.  But I kept reminding myself that whatever is meant to be will be.

Easier said then done but try and not stress.  Test soon as possible.  Good luck!  Let us know how it goes.

l9i

I had a scare right after the HM.  I'm on the pill and my period is always predicable.  Well with all the stress and everything it was about a week late and after about day 3 I was so worried.  I told H bc I was really freaked out, took a test and.... negative.  H was fine with whatever.  Yes, it would've been very soon as we aren't planning on TTC for another year at least but it would be ok.  Before I found out it was negative I was incredibly scared, I wasn't ready.  After I found out it was negative I thought, "Would it really be so terrible?" and the answer was no.  I was relieved but also a little disappointed.  I truly think it was good though because it truly made me realize that while it would be scary, I could infact do it.  *Hugs*  Hang in there!

SmileDamnit

Girl, deep breaths until you can pee on a stick. 

(...and my fingers are selfishly crossed that you get a BFP from said stick once peeing commences, cuz we need another knocked up Denver knottie to keep me company ).

holyguacamole79

@sarawifenow said:

I guess I also worry that if it is negative that my periods are going to go away (I used to get them once every 6-7 months before I went on the pill) and then how would we have a baby when we want it?

Have you loozed into charting? This will help you identify when you ovulate.

steph861

My periods have been irregular since going off the pill, though my cycles had been getting shorter (and closer to what's considered normal). Until this month. I was late (even by my standards), and had other symptoms that could be attributed to early pregnancy. I ended up getting my period about a week after I was "supposed" to get it. I was a kind of disappointed, yes.

jenna8984

I agree with a few months earlier than planned would definitely still be an ok situation. And if not, that's cool too! Good luck, hope you either get the period or get the test tomorrow and that all goes well!

saramomsoon totally cracked me up.

Blergbot

I definitely went through this six months ago. It wasn't in the plan, but I was going to be a bit dissapointed if it came back negative. Well, as you may know, mine came back positive and now, six months later, we got married (and I still fit in my dress!) and bought a house. Everything is coming together for little one to arrive. If it comes back negative, then you'll know that you are realy ready TTC. Best of luck, either way!

ohannabelle

I am crossing my fingers for whatever you want to happen.

sarawifenow

You all are making me cry. Thank you for the support. I have been walking around with this feeling by myself for 5 days, so it feels really good to get it out.

wandajune6

Fingers are crossed for you!

It's only been in the last year that I've been ready for kids- and there haven't been any scares. However, in the past, whenever I worried about being pregnant, I'd get my period the day I bought the test. I'm convinced that the more anxious I got, the more it delayed my period. Once I knew it was negative, the flowing began. I know that it's emotionally very different when you want to TTC soon, but that was always my experience.

We're around for support whatever happens!

theycallmelinz

Can I just say that the people who make the tests should take into consideration everyone's needs? All the papers ever say is, "If your results are negative, you may need to take another test at a later date, or look into our line of ovulation tracking kits."

Why can't they also say, "Or, if you were hoping for a negative result, congrats! And be more careful next time you hoochie." Just saying. I would have appreciated a verbal high five all those times I had panicked over nothing in college.

sarawifenow

I have decided that if the test is negative, I am going to talk to H about the TTC timeline. I want to get his reasoning for pushing it up so drastically and then maybe suggest that we stop not trying. Or should I just not say anything to him if it is negative and just go about my merry way until our timeline is here? So many questions!

Blergbot

Definitely keep the conversation going so you guys can be on the same page!

theartistformerlyknownas

sarawifenow said:

I have decided that if the test is negative, I am going to talk to H about the TTC timeline. I want to get his reasoning for pushing it up so drastically and then maybe suggest that we stop not trying. Or should I just not say anything to him if it is negative and just go about my merry way until our timeline is here? So many questions!

You should definitely talk about it and share how it's making you feel!

levioosa

A few months ago I was so stressed I was 2.5 weeks late.  2.5 WEEKS.  I was flipping the fuck out.  Babies are not in my plan right now.  I took two pregnancy tests and both were negative, and then a few days later I started my period.  Because I've been off BC lately, my crazy sense of smell is back (which didn't help my paranoia), I was nauseous (usual, so also didn't help), my boobs were tender (not helping either), and I was slightly spotting (which can be either a sign of impending period or of early pregnancy).  I was a freaking basket case.  But then it started and all of my crying and crazy emotions seemed stupid. 

Hugs for you!  I know it is stressful either way.  If you take the test and it's positive, congratulations!  Your family is about to start that much sooner!  If it's negative and you find yourself bummed out, it's just another sign that you are really ready to start your family.  Take a deep breath and do something that you enjoy/relaxes you. 

phira

Sometimes, periods are late, so if your test is negative, it doesn't mean that your period is lost and gone forever! I found a period tracker really helpful when I was off the pill. It's really a lot to try to think back and remember what's normal for you if you have irregular periods.